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TeacherGriff

@TeacherGriff@mastodon.coffee

✡♿️🏳️‍🌈🇺🇦🎸 he/him

I'm #progressive, #Jewish, #queer, male, white, a parent, #disabled, & educated, & I vote. I block trumpsters & gun nuts, and I use mute and block to prevent flame wars.

Other hobbies/interests: #guitar #keto #paleo #folkmusic #spoonie #cats #liberal #politics #urbanfantasy #teaching #writing #highered #education #pedagogy #rubikscube #puzzles #music #heraldry #renfaire #sci-fi #fantasy #mystery #horror #callahans #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #GenX #NoOnPFL

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TeacherGriff, to random
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If I had a nickel for every academic jackass who thinks student disability accommodations should be resisted or refused, I'd never have a penny of debt again in my life.

Stop asking how to get around or refuse accommodations for students with disabilities. Just stop. Obey the law and honor the accommodations. Simple.

ChrisMayLA6, to books
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I sometimes thought my father thought he could't die while he still had books on his pending pile (a stab at immortality I seem to be replicating)... so, it was strangely touching to see Tom Gauld has had similar thoughts.

#reading #immortality

@bookstodon

TeacherGriff,
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@ChrisMayLA6 @bookstodon I may not be immortal, but my TBR pile absolutely is.

RickiTarr, to random
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Where do you live and how do you feel about it?

Obviously, don't tell me exactly where you live, no actual addresses please! You can be as vague as you like.

I live in Central Missouri in the U.S.

Pros:

This is an absolutely beautiful place, green rolling hills, lots of rivers, lakes, ponds, and natural springs, cool caves to explore.

Lots of farming here, so great access to quality fruits, vegetables, meat, eggs, and dairy.

It's relatively inexpensive to live here compared with other states, because it's a "flyover".

I'm close enough to three major cities, that it's an easy day trip, and I'm about halfway to anywhere in the U.S.

We have one of the best Conservation departments in the U.S. and this is one of the few things that is a bipartisan issue. Lots of awesome nature programs that are free or cheap, state parks, conservation areas, bird watching, hunting, boating, foraging available to everyone.

Cons:

Yeah, it's a big one, it is a RED STATE, while a lot of the cities are blue, there is a large rural population, that votes red. Abortion is not legal here. People often vote against their own self interest.

While I'm not against responsible gun ownership, lots of people aren't responsible, and people have access to guns that definitely should not.

We have very few employee protections here, while the cost of living is relatively low compared with other places, it's taken years to get to a $12 minimum wage, and it's still not enough.

TeacherGriff,
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@RickiTarr @LPerry2 laughs bitterly in Angeleno

StillIRise1963, to random
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On its face, what fucking sense does ticketing people who can’t afford a home make.🙄

TeacherGriff,
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@StillIRise1963

Add in a healthy dose of toxic individualism (you have to do everything all on your own, with no help from anyone, or you're a bad person and maybe even a sinner) and you have the recipe for what we're seeing now. It's a sick situation.

TeacherGriff, to ADHD
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Statistically speaking, someone here on Mastodon probably needs to be reminded to move their laundry to the dryer. So be kind and share this toot around. Every bit helps.

TeacherGriff, to random
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Whose idea was this "adulting" b.s., anyway? I wish to file a grievance.

TeacherGriff, to random
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Any other folks at this month? How's your progress? I've got 7 songs done so far and I'm aiming for at least 16 by the end of the month.

DoubleTreble, to crochet
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@crochet

Quick update on progress of the Persian Tiles project

Three crochet flowers in pink and purple

TeacherGriff,
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@DoubleTreble @crochet Stunning. Absolutely stunning.

RickiTarr, to random
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Could you be in an Open/Poly Relationship?

P.S. This is a place to discuss your own personal opinions about yourself and your choices, or ask earnest questions of others if they wish to answer. If you've come here to preach or degrade other's choices, that is a block from me.

TeacherGriff,
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@RickiTarr

Not only could I be, I have been, for at least the last 15 years. I'm polyam and happy to be that way.

I just can't do monogamy. The few times I tried it, I always felt like I'm being expected to be everything for my partner, and I literally can't do that. I also feel guilty about denying a partner experiences they want to have, but which I might not be able to provide.

Also, the idea of "that person (or thing) is mine and ONLY mine" really doesn't make sense to me at all.

TeacherGriff,
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@RickiTarr @michaelgemar

People in the polyam community would say that jealousy is a symptom of something not working. The goal is to figure out what that thing is and address it, which usually resolves the jealousy.

Of course, if the issue is "I'm mono and I can't handle you having other partners," the solution may have to be an end to the relationship, because the polyam person can't reliably stay monogamous any more than the mono person can be polyam, and it's not fair to ask for that.

arstechnica, to random
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The key to fighting pseudoscience isn’t mockery—it’s empathy

Evidence shows that shoving data in peoples’ faces doesn’t work to change minds.

https://arstechnica.com/science/2024/01/the-key-to-fighting-pseudoscience-isnt-mockery-its-empathy/?utm_brand=arstechnica&utm_social-type=owned&utm_source=mastodon&utm_medium=social

TeacherGriff,
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@nuncio @arstechnica

Because if you want to convince them, you'll have to let go of the idea that facts will convince them. I can see this offends you, but that doesn't mean it's incorrect. (There's a fact that you might have difficulty accepting, yeah?)

The other thing is, for the people saying "Hell with that, screw them, they're stupid anyway" is that we need them to change because they vote, and their votes create situations where public policy ignores facts in favor of feelings.

TeacherGriff,
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@nuncio @arstechnica

Shortsighted, man. Find the way that works to convince them so we don't destroy the planet, is my view.

TeacherGriff, to random
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Sociological question of the day:

Can you name anything you've done in the last 24 hours that wasn't demanded or expected by a social norm?

RickiTarr, to random
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What do you think is a subject that most people misunderstand, and if they were more educated in the topic it would probably change their mind?

TeacherGriff,
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@RickiTarr @CatDad many people have never heard of it. And when you try to tell them about it, they don’t believe you.

TeacherGriff,
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@RickiTarr

Social norms.

Specifically, I want people to realize that social norms have a lot more power than we give them credit for. We claim to have free will, but we can (and often do!) go through an entire day where every action we take is guided or demanded by a social norm.

"Free will" is largely a myth.

TeacherGriff, to random
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Learned a new word today:

respair

From the 16th century. It means "fresh hope, and recovery from despair."

I wish you all a year filled with respair.

Please feel free to pass it on to others; this one needs to be spread around, I think.

TeacherGriff, to random
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Goodbye, 2023. You tried hard. Sometimes you dropped the ball, but you always tried hard.

2024, try as hard, please.

RickiTarr, to random
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What's your favorite ice cream or frozen treat?

TeacherGriff,
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@RickiTarr I’m a mint chocolate chip man, myself.

grimalkina, to random
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Reading about a construct I've been wanting to know better for a while: self-compassion!

"one of the advantages of self-compassion over self-esteem is that self-compassion is not based on the performance evaluations of self and others, or on congruence with ideal standards. Rather, self-compassion circumvents the entire self-evaluation process altogether (positive or negative), focusing instead on feelings of kindness and [...] recognition of one’s common humanity" (Neff et al. 2005)

TeacherGriff,
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@grimalkina it took me a long time to get good with the idea of being compassionate to myself. I grew up in a world where being hard on yourself was the only way to succeed, so it felt weird (and wrong!) to be compassionate with myself. It felt fake. But I finally read about a way to make it work for my brain: I write down the thing that I am feeling bad, or embarrassed, or down on myself about. Then I respond to it as if responding to a friend. It makes all the difference.

Cassandra, to random
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Some things I said yesterday:

"I only did that to conform.”

“My face is irrelevant in that context.”

"It was an offer, not a request.”

It’s such an incredible relief to unmask.

TeacherGriff,
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@Cassandra I find myself continually reminding people that the tone of my voice has absolutely nothing to do with what I’m saying. I’ve also had to call people out when they try to “read into” what I’m saying, and remind them that there is nothing implied, and there is no subtext in what I say. Some of them still try to argue with me about it, and I usually decide that those aren’t people it’s worth interacting with anymore.

RickiTarr, to random
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How much abuse do you think people should take?

Is the number zero?

Guess what, you're people.

TeacherGriff,
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@RickiTarr

When I teach the research that shows that spanking is abuse, no exceptions, I always get students insisting that they were spanked and they turned out fine.

No, they didn't. They turned out as people who think it's okay to hit little kids.

TeacherGriff,
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@spockrocket @donty @RickiTarr

And there's the old saying, "Hurt people hurt people." If you believe you deserved abuse, obviously, other people also deserve it, and you probably don't even realize it's abuse because it was just "normal" when you were growing up.

I'm sure many of us have had the experience of telling a "funny" story from our childhood, and the room going quiet, because everyone else clearly recognizes we're talking about abuse, but we don't.

RickiTarr, to random
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What is a word that you had read, but after hearing it spoken aloud, you realized you were pronouncing completely wrong in your head?

Mine is pretty Embarrassing, and is just one of many!

MISLED! I'm not even sure how to type this out for it to make sense, but it was something like:

Myz-ulled

TeacherGriff,
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@RickiTarr @dasparky

The Brit looks at them and says , "I don't know what you chaps are on about. Take this," and he takes out a knife. "You in France call this un couteau. You in Germany call it ein Messer. We in England call it a knife, which, all said and done, is precisely what it is."

2/2

TeacherGriff,
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@sour @RickiTarr

relief, massage, and restaurant have entered the chat

TeacherGriff,
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@sirlaffalot @RickiTarr

I admit to shouting at the Great British Baking Show, "It's pronounced or-EGG-ah-no, dammit!"

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