How to deal with living in a world with no future without being high 24/7?

Been high nonstop for years. I realize it’s bad for my health. But at least being high feels good.

My future is on a planet becoming increasingly unhabitable, under a government becoming increasingly fascist, doing nothing but working and still not being able to afford rent or food, never traveling, never making real friends much less finding a life partner, water quickly becoming a luxury, and with zero chance of ever retiring.

So why even bother?

OpenStars,
@OpenStars@startrek.website avatar

You define your own meaning of life. Whether you are Atheist, Christian, Muslim, Jew, or whatever, that is still true. If you want to be high literally all the time, go nuts and have fun with it - but please note, it sounds like you don’t, not really?

Consider possibly joining a support group, to help you through working that all out, by hearing stories of others who are further ahead on that path than you? Plus you may be surprised that you could be further ahead along it than you thought.

And yeah the world really does seem fucked, but so what? Don’t use that as an excuse to give up, if you would rather have more fun standing up on your own two feet. The world may burn (and freeze, and more likely alternate rapidly between both extremes), but you still get to decide what you want to do about it!:-P

Maybe watch the movie Braveheart, as William Wallace (Mel Gibson) gets eviscerated at the end, knowing full well that he could have chosen to avoid it, but instead choosing to value his pride… and freedom. We all die, every single person who has ever lived has died up until now (barring weird freak events like someone time-traveling from the past beyond us into the future:-P), but you get to choose how you want to LIVE.

Zorque,

Well, it helps to not be such a mopey little troll.

skeezix,

your comment made me fart

theodewere, (edited )
theodewere avatar

i'm really high, so you really sent me on a trip with this, but after lots of thought i sort of can't get over how important it is that we want to use the internet to explore meaning.. i mean, this is obviously a great question.. and you and lots of other people think to just go ahead and ask lemmy or something.. just the fact that the idea happens "i'll ask the internet my personal question" is an indication of the positive potential in spaces like this.. and it makes me suspect that we are capable of much more than we realize..

southsamurai,
@southsamurai@sh.itjust.works avatar

Have you considered fomenting revolution?

HurlingDurling,
@HurlingDurling@lemmy.world avatar

www.guardianrebellion.com

Reverendender,

I have. I think I have a sign up sheet here somewhere…

fiat_lux,

I channel the despair, anger and misery into working on solutions to help marginalized peoples. I don't have all the answers to the world's problems, and I can't solve it all, but I can show the people who might have the answers that there is someone in their corner who supports them in their efforts. Even if those people haven't been born yet, demonstrating the power of empathy and collaboration sets them up to choose constructive paths. If I give up on them, then it becomes much easier and more likely that they will choose the same anti-social self-interested motives that are destroying us all. But, if they are going to be able to make that choice at all, they need to be in a position where they aren't in survival mode all the time.

We're all just organisms who exist for a brief flash of time on a galactic scale, ultimately this is all meaningless. But as someone who identifies as a bit of an existentialist, I make my meaning. You can too.

It also enables me to leave the weed for wind-down time, mostly. Depends on how badly my health is doing, and it's pretty variable.

Omega_Haxors,

Try not to do nothing.

metaStatic,

sounds like a lot of work

Susaga,
@Susaga@ttrpg.network avatar

For me, it’s just math. The odds of things getting better if I try may be low, but the odds if I don’t are even lower. I’ll take the higher odds every time.

For you, have you considered spite? Live the best life you can to prove wrong everyone who tried to stop you, and do as much good in the world as you can so those trying to do evil have to try just that little bit harder. It only takes one good hit to ruin a superior opponent’s perfect game, and you can only get that hit if you keep playing.

kromem,

Climate change wouldn’t be as bad as it is today if we didn’t fix the ozone layer destruction trend.

A lot of the failing democracies around the world wouldn’t be failing as badly if people who drank bleach and licked measles sores because Facebook said it would make them immortal actually died from the consequences instead of surviving to go on and share the posts again.

Sometimes making things better actually does make them worse.

Saving the deer from the wolf can have catastrophic effects.

paraphrand,

Wait, you’re saying we shoulda kept some of the ozone hole around?

kromem,

Kind of.

It should have been addressed and will still be around for decades despite healing, and it is a poster case for “see silly humans, you can mend your ways.”

But there is also a cooling effect to a giant hole opposite to the effect of CO2 and improving the ozone may have slightly worsened the speed of warming as a result.

Semi-Hemi-Demigod,
Semi-Hemi-Demigod avatar

One should always be drunk, that's all that matters.

So as not to feel time's horrible burden

That breaks your shoulders and bows you down

You must get drunk without ceasing.

But what with?

With wine, with poetry, or with virtue, as you choose.

But get drunk

"Be Drunk" by Charles Baudelaire, as interpreted by Liam Clancy

Bookmeat,

Touch grass.

joby,

Sounds like they have been.

Bookmeat,

Touché.

downpunxx,

Well, it's better than feudalism, or 99.999999999% of all time inhabited by human beings on this earth, for human longevity and enjoyment of life.

lol, you wanna wallow in pessimistic self pity, go right ahead, it's a valid way as any to spend one's existence.

hostops,

Well there is ALWAYS pessimistic and optimistic view on everything. But I do not mean naive or stupid. I mean optimistic.

Pessimist: “It makes no sense to improve my situation, because I will fail! I will not even try.” Stupid: “Things are not bad. Nothing to change here.” Naive: “Things will fix themselves.” Optimist: “Well things may be bad, but we can, and we will fix them.”

So to answer your concrete questions:

  • unhabitable planet: lets vote for green parties, lets push for green energy. Results will not be immediate, but we will get there. Yes it will get hotter a few degrees and will cause some weather problems. But we can fix it.
  • fascist government: Vote for better, join movement. Or if things are really extreme in your country. Move to a democracy.
  • money problems: you can change your job. Yes it can be very hard, but If you really try (improve your cv, reeducate yourself, change profession) you can get really good jobs. You can learn sales and be really good salesman with very high pay without ever going to college.
  • social issues: go out, meet new people, join some class, start a hobby.

Yes I know mentioned things can be awfully hard to achieve. Buy you can achieve them. One by one. As to why bother? You do not have to. But that is the beauty of it. You can try to improve things as many times as you want. It will be hard, but things can be way better.

If nothing else I would bother to fix my life (and the world) just for the sake of curiosity. To see how good can life actually get.

Nemo,

Have you considered you might have better relationships and definitely would have more money if you weren’t high all the time?

Catoblepas,

Weed isn’t expensive everywhere. I just bought half an oz for $30; even when I’m in the middle of a pain flare and sharing with another heavy vaper that will last at least 4-6 weeks. ~$350/year isn’t changing my life if I don’t spend it on weed.

“Just don’t do drugs lol” is useless for anything other than feeling smug; when people don’t have access to quality mental healthcare and their material living situations suck, a certain amount are going to use drugs to deal with it. People who are having a good time already don’t want to be high or drunk all the time.

VirtualOdour,

Also i think anti drug types tend to picture getting high like in movies or when you’re 16 and giggling, stumbling over the place, and getting everything wrong. I and plenty of people I know smoke while coding, doing woodwork, or similar.

treadful,
@treadful@lemmy.zip avatar

I and plenty of people I know smoke while coding, doing woodwork, or similar.

Ah man, now I want to go sand a nice piece of oak.

givesomefucks,

Think globally, act locally

As said by Paulie Shore in his environmental documentary Biodome.

If everyone did that we’d be fine as a species, but not enough do. Don’t get so stressed out about the stuff we can’t change to not help change stuff you can.

Our brains don’t care about the scale, it’ll help if you do something no matter how small.

And that gives you the mental bandwidth to care about big shit again.

You have to moderate how many fucks you give or you’ll run out.

spankinspinach,

This is the best advice I’ve adopted recently for exactly the same perception. Focus on your life, maybe do your best to have a positive impact on the things that worry you. Decrease your engagement with the news cycle - know what’s going on, but only as much as you can handle without it affecting your mental health.

Learn to trust that things will be ok, even if you’re not entirely convinced they will. It may not solve the problems, but your sanity matters too

dohpaz42,
@dohpaz42@lemmy.world avatar

If I may, let me rephrase what givesomefucks said:

Do not focus on the “ bigger picture”; it’s not something that can be easily fixed by you. Instead, focus on smaller things within your bubble of life; e.g., been putting off the laundry? Go do it real quick. All of it: wash, dry, fold, and put away. Been meaning to clean your bathroom for a while? Do it. Wash the counters and the mirror; wipe the toilet down (even the back of the base).

If it helps, make a laundry list of things you need to get done or want to do (they don’t all have to be chores). This will help get them out of your head and organized in a way that you can tackle each b item easier. And while you don’t want to pressure yourself to get them all done “right now”, give yourself reasonable deadlines to help hold yourself accountable.

The idea is to build up these little wins; they feel good when they’re complete, and also enrich your life in some way at the same time. It will also help build up your confidence, as you’ll run out of simple stuff and start focusing on slightly more complex things.

flambonkscious,

To add to this, I find it helpful to think about “what I’m doing today makes tomorrow easier” (or what can I do with these 15 minutes to smooth tomorrows hassles)

breadsmasher,
@breadsmasher@lemmy.world avatar

Have you considered joining a cult?

finthechat,
finthechat avatar

Yeah make sure it's not just any standard garden variety cult. It has to be a DEATH cult. Preferably one where there is a cool uniform, like dark hooded robes.

tiefling,

I’d like to know the answer to this question tbh because same, minus the 24/7

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