guyrocket,
guyrocket avatar

I get that this helps make your voice more easily heard on some phones but goddamn it looks stoopid.

I'm kinda uncomfortable with anyone talking on their phone in public because I grew up before cell phones were common. When phone booths existed. So it feels very wrong to me when ppl talk on their phones in public, even with earpods or whatever. Maybe I'm too WYSIWYG...these ppl look like lunatics talking to thin air...

JoMiran,
@JoMiran@lemmy.ml avatar

Man bun and v-neck weren’t helping the case.

Jakeroxs,

I feel personally attacked

Texas_Hangover,

As well you should.

jadedwench,

I like man buns! You better let me braid it once in a while though, while in an ADHD fuelled craze. V-necks though… never cared for the style, but you do you?

Jakeroxs,

It’s not even about style for me, my neck is just sensitive sometimes and the v style bothers me less usually.

mriormro,
@mriormro@lemmy.world avatar

Why do you even care what someone else decides to look like?

soloner,

Laughs in man bun

Pregnenolone,

This was a valid criticism in like, 2016

Kusimulkku,

It’s only valid because it worked and people were beaten to submission.

snek_boi,

… and in a particular culture, and for people who care about what others think

Dee,
@Dee@lemmy.world avatar

Damn. Are the cishets still going on about gatekeeping man buns and v-necks? I thought that tiresome rhetoric died off around 2010.

Kusimulkku,

We’re still calling everything gatekeeping? Surprised you didn’t call them a grifter

Dee,
@Dee@lemmy.world avatar

The term defined in psychology, gatekeeping? Yes, that’s still used by professionals and otherwise. Especially to the context I used it which can’t be said for your retort with “grifter”. I bet you thought that was so clever though, better luck next time salty cishet lol

Kusimulkku,

I’m talking about overusing meme terms. Everything was gatekeeping for a while. Now everyone is a grifter. Even when it doesn’t fit. What’s a cishet?

flerp,

You have to insult people who have different head string and body fabric than you do. How else can you feel validated about your choice of head string and body fabric??

leanleft,
@leanleft@lemmy.ml avatar

good for reducing radiation

Bwaz,

He might have bluetooth hearing aids?

NutWrench,
@NutWrench@lemmy.ml avatar

I’d be more concerned about the Rey Skywalker man-bun.

anonymous_28,

Imagine being so superficial that this represents a real concern

Palkom,

Found the sandwich speaker.

Exusia,
@Exusia@lemmy.world avatar

Talking like this? Fucking irritating in public. Speaker so loud everyone can hear, not even trying to lower their voice Like the area is loud so they gotta turn up and talk loud. You know what else solves this? Taking it off speaker and holding it to your ear like a phone.

Their phone flat out in front makes their profile larger, and I know that seems silly but that’s another foot and a half in an already cramped bus.

Kushia,
@Kushia@lemmy.ml avatar

I’m more concerned about that man bun tbh.

Smokeydope,
@Smokeydope@lemmy.world avatar

I know this is a joke but if I found my match but they had a minor flaw I would probably try real hard to make it work and maybe even explain to them that their bad habit annoys me slightly. Nobody is perfect and theres always room to improve for those willing to try

Viper_NZ,

Related: Why exactly has every person >60 years old started wandering around in public having loud conversations on speaker phone?

Evil_incarnate,

Hearing problems. Easier to listen with both ears.

Someasy,

I don’t mean to be rude, and I totally understand if it works better to use a speakerphone (some people have ear issues and can’t have things pressing against their ears). But if the issue is a phone is only held against one ear, can’t you use headphones or earphones that also transmit sounds to both ears?

ZoopZeZoop,

I’m guessing they were explaining, not advocating. Most people would agree with you that there’s another option. Some people are resistant to that, unfortunately, including people I know.

Luckily for me, I already love my earpods. So, I’ll be covered when my hearing starts to go.

Hereforpron2,

When someone calls and I expect it to be 60 seconds or less, I don’t wanna go fumbling in my bag for 30 seconds to find the headphones and spend another 20 making sure they hook up to my phone properly.

Plus I have epilepsy and my seizures increase when I have long calls with the phone against my face or with TWS earbuds in, which can apparently (and not too uncommonly) be triggered by the type of radiation they put off, even though it’s at very low levels. But just 3 inches further from my face and no problems. I know that’s not why a lot of people do it, and I still try not to in public, but there are various reasons that someone might.

Destraight,

I hold my phone however I want, and none of you will stop me except show silent disgust

sviper,

Well my first impression was that this person is looking over a ocean view while talking over phone which i totally can relate as I would do to not disturb the peace.

S_204,

ITT a bunch of fucking losers claiming to have hearing problems and would rather be a dick in public than invest in proper headphones.

Note on the claim part, I don’t believe a fraction of the assholes here, just trying to justify their assholery. People with legitimate hearing issues tend to accept the support technology that’s readily available these days. I spend quite a bit of time around folks who are actually hard of hearing.

Dettweiler42,

Even if they do have hearing issues, a phone pressed against your ear will sound much louder with much greater clarity compared to the speaker mode.

sizzler,

You don’t get it and you lack empathy. Got it.

OrteilGenou,

I know right? Like how hearing aids are designed to be held a foot and a half from the head. These people need to be more sensitive

sizzler,

You don’t get it and you lack empathy. It’s a pretty straight-forward statement. Don’t think I need to expand.

OrteilGenou,

K

Iapar,

No, you don’t get it and lack empathy.

noli,

No, you don’t get it and lack empathy.

Underwaterbob,

Which may be the case, but being immediately dismissive like you are isn’t exactly going to get them on your side now, is it?

sizzler,

There is no side, it’s a fact and if you can’t have some empathy for people with hearing issue then what can I say to change your mind?!

Underwaterbob,

Well, the guy you are responding to is maybe only thinking of people whose hearing is diminished in some manner. Not people whose hearing is otherwise incapacitated through something like tinnitus or like the other poster in here who has auditory dyslexia. Both of whom may be inconvenienced by headphones or earbuds and have an easier time with speaker phone than those options. Maybe try to explain how you think they are being insensitive or lacking empathy rather than just accusing them of such without explanation.

sizzler,

I’ll accept that, well spoken.

Smoogs, (edited )

Add to that the amount of headphones out there that do help with various ear issues is growing and the prices are not that heavy.

They have bone conduction ear phones now that can be picked up online. Your skull can hear for you now. This is the same technology as what hearing aids use and you can just wire it up as headphones to your phone now

dragonflyteaparty,

They have bone conduction ear phones now that can be picked up online

Yo, that’s dope. As someone who is partially deaf, but mostly hears fine, I’m curious about this.

Smoogs,

Yeah I saw several variances available on Amazon just in the past week. Might be worth checking out or seeing how they rate

lordgoose,

I was just reading about these yesterday. They basically bypass your eardrum so they’re really good for people with hearing loss who still want to use headphones. Definitely check them out if you think they’ll work for you.

P33Ka,

I have hearing problems

I bring headphones everywhere

S_204,

Of course you do. You’re not a raging prick.

Hereforpron2,

When someone calls and I expect it to be 60 seconds or less, I don’t wanna go fumbling in my bag for 30 seconds to find the headphones and spend another 20 making sure they hook up to my phone properly.

Plus, idk about hearing issues, but I have epilepsy and my seizures increase when I have long calls with the phone against my face OR with TWS earbuds in, which can apparently (and not too uncommonly) be triggered by the type of radiation they put off, even though it’s at very low levels. But just 3 inches further from my face and no problems. I know that’s not why a lot of people do it, and I still try not to in public, but there are various reasons that someone might.

I am sure this will get downvoted to the lowest level of hell, but when it comes to people doing this without a medical reason/just based on preference, I also just don’t know why a minor annoyance triggers such major anger in others. If I’m on a train for an hour and someone is talking the whole time, that’s annoying no matter how they’re doing it. If I pass someone on speaker in the grocery store, I don’t really let that 12 seconds affect the rest of my day, certainly not enough to harbor such hot feelings about it.

S_204,

You could have just swapped your first few lines for ’ I’m selfish and don’t care about others’.

Hereforpron2,

Sure, but I’d honestly also rather hear both sides of a stranger’s conversation than just one. Doesn’t feel better to me to be talking just as loud on the phone but have it against your ear than a few inches away

S_204,

See my original reply. It applies to this comment as well.

the16bitgamer,
@the16bitgamer@lemmy.world avatar

Wow I almost feel singled out by this. But I presume that this is supposed to be in public. Which by every account is a dick move.

However I do this in private, I.e. in my car or at home. And the reason I do it is because I can’t hear a call without using the speaker phone. Hearing issues aren’t fun.

However the easier solution is headphones, but calls over Bluetooth can make things worse, from battery life to sound quality.

Wired headphones are the preferable solution to this but we all know what happened to those.

TL:DR I do this because of my hearing issues. In public this is a dick move, but headphones aren’t the solution they use to be.

callyral,
@callyral@pawb.social avatar

Wired headphones are the preferable solution to this but we all know what happened to those.

What happened? I use wired headphones, haven’t had any problems recently.

the16bitgamer,
@the16bitgamer@lemmy.world avatar

iPhone, iPad, and most Samsungs don’t have a 3.5mm headphone jack.

callyral,
@callyral@pawb.social avatar

Ohhh, I completely forgot iPhones no longer had those. Thanks for the reminder, I’ll remember to check for a headphone jack before buying a new phone.

tpyo,

It’s not a mandatory feature for me personally, but I absolutely prefer having an actual headphone jack and die a little inside when a new phone doesn’t

You can “get around” that by using a usb c to 3.5mm audio adaptor, or a y adaptor that’s a 3.5mm audio and another USBC to allow for charging at the same time

the16bitgamer,
@the16bitgamer@lemmy.world avatar

The new iphones now have USB c so it’s not as bad as it use to be, since USB c dongles can be cross device compatible. But yeah it suuucks.

Qwaffle_waffle,

I feel this too with the hearing issues, but I have moved away to texting rather than calls mostly. Social took a hit, but I’m still here anyways.

phillaholic,

Are you over 35? If a friend calls me on the phone something bad’s happened.

the16bitgamer,
@the16bitgamer@lemmy.world avatar

Yup, texting is my go to for most of the time. However I want to catch up, I usually arrange a call.

Smoogs, (edited )

but headphones aren’t the solution they use to be.

Not true. There’s air conduction, bone conduction(which is the same technology for people who actually do experience hearing loss), wired, non wired, in ear, over ear, on ear, noise cancelling and these are not that expensive that you can get it online so it’s super accessible.

It’s not the early 2000s anymore where you only get buds or on ear or whatever apple bullshit comes with your phone.

the16bitgamer,
@the16bitgamer@lemmy.world avatar

Agreed, though sadly this doesn’t apply to me. Hearing issues doesn’t always mean hearing loss. I have Auditory Processing Disorder or Auditory Dyslexia means my hearing is good, but I don’t always understand what people are saying.

Speaker phone makes it easier for me to understand what the other person is saying. But again its a dick move to use it in public.

Evil_incarnate,

Is that what it’s called when other noise makes you not understand what people are saying?

the16bitgamer,
@the16bitgamer@lemmy.world avatar

Pretty much. The inability to filter voices from other noises. Not fun when you are on a bus and the engine is the only thing you can make out

Evil_incarnate,

And why I avoid noisy bars and stuff. I noticed once during the fire drill at work, we were all standing outside and the loud alarm was beeping like a truck backing up and the whole time I couldn’t make out what people were saying. I could hear the noises coming from their mouths, but couldn’t understand a thing.

Alarm stopped and I could understand them fine.

phillaholic,

Is it the Dichotic listening part? Airpod Pros might do wonders.

the16bitgamer,
@the16bitgamer@lemmy.world avatar

I have noise cancelling Sony earbuds for a while now. At this point I’ve just gotten use to how people talk, and guessing at what they said and I missed.

Smoogs,

What happened when you tried the bone conducting type? What we’re your findings with this one?

the16bitgamer,
@the16bitgamer@lemmy.world avatar

I didn’t try those yet. I presume it wouldn’t be helpful since I need noise isolation and blocking. Not sure if they do that

Same,

People don’t have their headphones turned on and in easy reach at all times. If you’re doing this in a private space, who cares?

Smoogs, (edited )

I don’t. I’m responding to the argument that headphones are not what they used to be. that is incorrect. There is more selection and varying types should one be selecting a pair.

Thermal_shocked, (edited )

The mic is at the bottom… And there is usually a speaker there too, makes total sense if not bothering those around you.

Dragon_dick_99,

My phone’s mic is at the top.

Thermal_shocked,

What phone? I’m still on an S9 and mic and speaker are on the bottom.

dQw4w9WgXcQ,

Maybe I should be single, but this is my preferred way to speak on the phone when I’m not bothering anyone, and the enviornment is relatively quiet. It frees up my hands for a better range of motion if I’m doing anything else, and it removes my common accidental hang-up when my ear or face touches the display.

If the environment becomes noisy or people are around, I of course switch back to old-school DJ-gesture phone call mode.

Smoogs,

You know what is hands free? Headphones.

mcteazy,

Why are you holding it up to your face? I use speaker too if I’m busy and my hands are full but i put it down on a table. This has no advantage, you still have to hold it

TotallynotJessica,
@TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world avatar

If the phone is too far from your face, they can’t hear you as well. You don’t have to talk as loud to be heard when on speaker phone. Besides, I have a hard time hearing when I don’t use it, and I can clearly hear them when it’s on and near my face. They hear me better and I hear them better; definitely an advantage.

mcteazy,

This is literal insanity

TotallynotJessica,
@TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world avatar

Part of what got me started was a bad microphone on my phone, but I realized it had advantages when you’re alone. Honestly, talking on the phone in public at all isn’t great. Everyone can hear your side of the conversation, and while it’s much better than eating pizza, people ought to avoid calls in public whenever possible. Whenever I’m around others, I keep the calls short, and when I’m alone and do take longer calls, I eat that pizza. Judge pizza eaters when you see them, but don’t feel shame for doing it when alone. While you’re at it, don’t let people having loud, vibrant phone conversations off the hook.

dQw4w9WgXcQ,

I sometimes move around in my house while talking, since I’m a nervous guy when it comes to phone calls. Having the phone at chest or waist level makes it a lot quicker to change hands or even use lower arms or elbows to hold things or open doors or whatever. It’s just less constraining, even if it’s marginal.

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