oh no, you wanted me to be invited to a meeting that’s already in progress but you forgot? well, take this as a learning moment activates DND with a flourish
@taber Nothing bums me out more than thinking I know what things I can luxuriate and #hyperfocus on in a given day, only to be #hijacked by surprise meetings and “oh do you have a few minutes?” slacks.
So whenever possible I refer them to my #calendar, starting the next business day, or feel free to slack a channel and someone who’s bored will answer.
I've already said this before but I'll say it again...
One change I'd like to see in the World Wide Web, is the emergence of websites that can't be accessed 24 hours a day.
Maybe that's a website that's only available from 9-5 each day.
Or maybe it's a web forum that you can only post on for a one hour period every week.
Too much UX design is about pushing people to stay on websites as long as possible.
I won't need to tell you that this obviously encourages unhealthy behaviour from the people using a web service but also...
Also, it means that if a web service goes down at any time of day or night, some poor bastard has to stop whatever they are doing and spend an indeterminate amount of time trying to fix it while the whole entire userbase cries murder.
Maybe, just maybe, we can set boundaries.
Maybe an admin doesn't need to be on call at any time of day or night.
Maybe that thing that you really want to post at 3am can wait until the morning (at which point you might end up being glad that you didn't post it).
“It’s perfectly okay to use the block function on any and every single platform. Block whoever you want. Block liberally. Block joyously. It’s not rude; it’s not an act of censorship, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation.”
I’ve been informed that one guest and two dogs are arriving on my doorstep today, with intentions on Get this: moving to my town and using my home I already share with 3 other humans and two dogs. I feel the start of Christmas vacation. Merry Christmas. Shitters full. It is my bf’s cousin and he needs a bed and employment. Cousin mentioned dropping the dogs and following a band around Florida. A grown ass man. Uh No. stay tuned for fuckery afoot.
»#Boundaries are the only way to maintain a healthy balance and protect our well-being. In the physical world, we set boundaries without a second thought – we lock our doors, choose our friends, and decide who we let in. By using the #block function, you're setting a clear boundary, and in doing so, you're taking a step towards preserving your mental and emotional well-being.«
Accountability is Not a Useless Sacrifice
by T. T. Perry
"Accountability reduces anxiety when stepping out of one's comfort zone because it builds self-confidence that when one makes mistakes or breaks a promise, which will inevitably happen, that mistake can be faced head-on to repair connection between people"
I lean heavily on Ann Russo and Connie Burk in this post:
"As survivors, we recognize that being able to think critically about our own choices, knowing that what we do matters, and being able to be accountable to ourselves for our actions (even while locating those choices within the context of abuse and exploitation) are hallmarks of 'being in charge of one’s own life.'"
Prison abolition means killing the cop in your head, and not policing the people around you.
Growth mindset means giving people opportunities to grow. It means seeking rehabilitation rather than punitive/retributive justice.
Drawing boundaries means defining limits for yourself — not for other people. Boundaries are for your actions, not for demanding what others will and won't do.
Compassion means giving people space to grow or not. Protecting yourself doesn't mean attacking. Let the facts speak for themselves.
If you highlight only some facts and not others, you're either unaware of a gap in your understanding — or actively creating bias. Misrepresentation and bias can come from omission as well as from saying things that aren't true.
Writing a polite email that refuses an unreasonable request without ever using the expression "Are you f*cking kidding me" is such a necessary skill in academia that we should teach it in grad school.