For me there are a few people who are usually equalizing, and I can just be around them, so I won't count that. But generally, I find about 3 times a week, I'm game for socializing. A day in between to rest is usually nice, but the larger the gathering or if we go somewhere particularly noisy or I'm meeting new people that involves more effort, and my social battery empties sooner. I'm very curious where everyone else falls on this!
@RickiTarr At a time it was 1:1. Every day I was social, a day to myself was enough to bounce back. Work definitely was a negative impact (5:2 sucks.)
Now, I think I'm at a 1:5 ratio thanks to societal burnout and political pressure coming from all sides. I spend 5 days off, only one workday is tolerable. Day #2 and I want another five days off. Vacations do not help.
@healyn@Adam_Cadmon1 Yeah, Toto fucks everyone up. (They discussed this as part of the Lukatherscore, or the Steve Lukather influence of various 80's bands as a session guitarist who blurred all of those lines.)
@RickiTarr What makes me sad: Paramount+ ending series with less promised new works in the pipeline. At their peak, five series at a time per year. Now, I'm not sure that will ever happen again. (They clearly aren't interested in elevating one series to a full season commitment of 23 episodes. That would at least be a sign of good faith if they can't run more than a couple of shows.)
What doesn't make me sad: Faith of The Heart. I still love Enterprise, even if the presence of theme song lyrics made it weird.
@notroot@RickiTarr Cause there's supposed to be an onomatopoeia-filled answer when asked "what's the words to your favorite Star Trek Theme?"
(Currently Strange New Worlds) "BWAAAAAAH! Ba-ba-ba-ba-BWAAAAAH, Ba-ba-ba-ba-BWAAAAAH, Ba-ba-ba-ba-BWAAAAAH, Ba-Ba-Ba-BAAAAAAH!"
(Whistles the Star Trek TOS notes at the end.)
Esp. the one time in a year I think it is needed and I am super eager to use it, when everyone else is like, "dude, it can wait for later, it's no big dea-- okay, fine." as I do it anyway.
It's so weird that we are all supposed to be ashamed for burping and farting. I deeply apologize to everyone for keeping my body from literally exploding, so uncouth.
Burps, belching and other mild forms of gastric distention, if someone gets miffed about that past a quick "excuse me", they are someone I don't want to break bread with ever again.
I know everyone hates AI and I get it, I really do. I'm not trying to diminish people's concerns. All I'm saying is I tried a month of Midjorney to see what all the fuss was about and I blew through my credits in two days generating pictures of people covered in spaghetti.
@RickiTarr@jwcph@done My former best friend and TERF adjacent (calling him feminist is a stretch, but definitely Trans Exclusionary) asshat I attended HS with would be in that camp. He would only see women as mating partners. (Same mindset of anyone who says "all women love me" or "I know how to talk to any black person"... Seeing people as monolithic, pigeonholed "others".)
The same dude bro mindset who reduce women who cannot reproduce (various cancers have this as an outcome) as "not wife material".
He passed away, so I can call him an asshole all I want now to everyone I know. While he was alive, I was pushed to backpedal by friends and relatives, "he's trying", "he's not as smart as you, give him some credit".
No, he was a dick. I was his friend because there was literally no one else in my neighborhood my age to be around. (And it was the 90s. I was as informed on transmisia as any kid who watched Sifl and Olly.)
I don't know who needs to hear this, but DuckDuckGo makes their money by selling the eyeballs of its users to the highest bidder. What you search for affects the ads you see, because they sell "show this ad to anyone searching for that."
It's still surveillance capital when your actions dictate how much money the search engine makes, even when the advertisers don't know who you are.
Y'all I just made myself feel so old, hubs looked up top 100 music from 2001, 2011, 2021, and today and the amount of music I could recognize decreased by significantly. I recognized probably 70% of 2001 and decreasing as I went on. BUT I blame the internet, I can listen to exactly the kind of music I want with no dependence on the radio, but also I'm old!
@RickiTarr As a Gen Alpha kid put it to me, "Rock is out of the mainstream. When I hear it, it's what people your age listen to on ads I know aren't meant for people my age. Classic Rock means nothing to us because that describes all rock music as far as we care."
I could shake my fist at it, or I can try to understand it. Rock isn't the language of rebellion to the young anymore. Why use your parents favorite genre to try to disassociate yourself from prior generations? There is a bit of sense in that.
"So what do you listen to that upsets your parents?"
What advice would you give to someone just starting out in a relationship?
Mine might sound kind of dark in relation to the question, but here goes:
People change, and they should, it's part of being a person. Some people are lucky, and they change in the same direction, but some don't, and that's okay too. There's no shame in leaving a relationship or changing the nature of a relationship that no longer serves you. We are all taught that every relationship, whether romantic or friendship, is supposed to last forever, but nothing is forever, and forcing something that no longer works, just ends in anger and bitterness. Knowing when to let go is as important as knowing when to hold on through a rough patch, and how to know either of those things is the most cliché advice of all, COMMUNICATE.
People can change. They change every day in ways you can never expect. But they'll never change how you want them to.
Teasing is mutual. One might be up for it when the other isn't and it ends quick once that is made clear. Bullying is not; it ignores a partner's needs and doesn't stop.
@econads@3dogcouch@RickiTarr In my experience, coincidental change confuses the perception. You want someone to appreciate something you do, they do, and it seems voluntary when it's mutual interests in alignment.
But that is a very pessimistic view of human relationships and analyzing my own failed engagement to a large degree. You might be right about him for all I know.