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DeliaChristina

@DeliaChristina@sfba.social

By day, deputy director & strategic comms director for natl gender civil rights org; writer of romantica; by night, shenanigans, political rage, & snark.

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DeliaChristina, to random
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It may sound/look like I spend a lot of time thinking about the Wrongs of Men, but I really spend more time thinking about the ways that the cishet women around me swallow patriarchy's brainwashing so easily.

That weird woman/tree meme touches on something. Some of us are uncomfortable when the men in our lives share some vulnerability. There was one time an ex quietly mentioned he'd had a time when his consent wasn't respected.

And I was immediately uncomfortable. My gut reaction was to reject what was going to come out of his mouth. And I could tell he was bracing for it.

Instead, I said, I'm sorry that happened. Everyone should have their boundaries respected and she didn't respect yours. Do you want to talk about it?

He didn't. We never talked about it again. From then on, I've been a lot more accepting and empathetic when the men in my life come to me with stories of trauma. The same way I'd be if one of my girlfriends shared their assault story with me.

DeliaChristina,
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The narratives the women in my family carry are just as damaging as those carried by the men -- and these aren't gender-specific but they come from patriarchy:

Suffering is to be done in silence.
Emotional vulnerability is weakness.
Self sacrifice for the family.
Respect the hierarchy.

I see these narratives sneak out in conversations with my sister, my dad, about our family history.

Deconstructing or unpacking these veils of untruth can only benefit everyone.

DeliaChristina, to random
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I'm not gonna jump in on that thread about 'all men' but I am gonna say this:

While it's true that not all men do X, it is absolutely more true that patriarchy socializes ALL MEN to accept or be blind to certain truths about their position, importance, and relevance in the world.

Almost everything all men think of as 'natural' about their status in the world is not, in fact, true.
It was crafted through oppression, suppression, and violence.

It is also true that it takes an enormous amount of deliberate de-conditioning to throw off patriarchal thinking and praxis.

Those for whom 'not all men' truly apply (which is a small enough number to be sad and pitiful) know this to be true.

And so do the rest of us.

DeliaChristina,
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And, just to be clear, when I say ALL MEN, I mean all men.

Even the men from my community.

Just because you're Black doesn't mean you're not implicated in patriarchyyyyyy's bullshiiiiiiiit!

DeliaChristina,
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@tedel
I don't have to solve shit.
The path that cishet men walk is theirs. Ask them.

DeliaChristina,
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@tedel
yep.
just screaming into the wilderness.

DeliaChristina,
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@leoncowle

I'm really trying to understand which of the words were triggering.

Patriarchy?
All?
Men?
Socialized?
Oppression?
Violence?

I wish them the best on their journey.

DeliaChristina,
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Oh my GOD.

Men always demanding emotional labor from a binch. This is one small yet annoying reason we embrace the bear. Do your own work!

HERE.

Christ almighty.

https://nomas.org/patriarchy-tools-men-feminist-revolution/

Or even here ffs.
https://nomas.org/resources/reading/

DeliaChristina, to random
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Izzy fucking sucks.

That's as sophisticated as I can muster right now.

They've basically been treating Gaza like a mousetrap, baiting and bombing Palestinians while saying, They just need to find the way out! It's right there! And there! Or there!

It's horrible and indefensible.

BootsChantilly, to random
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Frog butt.

DeliaChristina,
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@BootsChantilly

I....did not know.

DeliaChristina, to random
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I found this photo on Tik Tok and it's so damn powerful.

A portrait of American collusion with .

Don't let America tell you this never happened. We watched it. They funded it. They allowed it to happen.

TheConversationUS, to news
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Louisiana’s new bill, once signed, would reclassify two #abortion pills (mifepristone and misoprostol) as Schedule IV controlled substances, like valium, and making it a crime to possess them without a valid in-state prescription.

Surgical and medication abortions are already banned in Louisiana, with few exceptions.

An obstetrician and a law professor explain more about the law and the lack of evidence supporting it:
https://theconversation.com/louisiana-set-to-reclassify-abortion-pills-as-controlled-dangerous-substances-heres-what-that-means-230848
#news #breakingnews #health

DeliaChristina,
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@TheConversationUS

What's interesting about this is that the bill was triggered by a horrific event experienced by a relative of the bill's sponsor: the relative's ex (or soon to be) was giving her abortion pills without her consent or knowledge.

Rather than deal with the ex's violation of the relative's consent, the bill's sponsor decided to go after the pills used.

Reclassifying these pills as controlled substances is a lazy way to address the problematic act of a man to induce an abortion against a woman's will.

It's seriously illogical -- but opportunistic.

DeliaChristina, to random
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I am a sucker.

But this was the only way I could sleep in without him whining for a walk.

StillIRise1963, to random
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Donald Trump lies about Black people. We HATE HIM.

DeliaChristina,
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@GreenFire @StillIRise1963

I liked this part:

"So, no, Black people are not loyal to the Democratic Party …

They are loyal to Black people."

DeliaChristina, to random
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I was having a nice chat with Copilot about the new Recall feature and, just when it got interesting, (I asked why risk to vulnerable populations are never weighed as heavily as 'productivity') it ended the chat.

Killjoy.

DeliaChristina, to random
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Last night, before bed, I texted Bestie.

Me: I really wish every terrible man on this planet would explode.

Her: Seriously.

Me: I want them to burst like a blood blister. Just splatter everyone around them where they stand.

Her: That's your emotional state right now?

Me: Pretty much. It sucks that God won't listen to me.

DeliaChristina,
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I mean, at least be useful, if not desirable.

Chart some stars; test the atmosphere; plant space corn or something. Listen to the sound of the spheres and write some reports on it.

Stop complaining that no one wants your eggplant, and channel that energy into discovering a space dust molecule or something.

#MyAdviceToIncels

DeliaChristina,
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I'm terrible, right?

I watched a podcast last night where a researcher dude said that incels are a real problem, and in his field, they have a term for it: The Lonely Young Man problem.

He said that in the past, Lonely Young Men would just go into areas where their angry loneliness wasn't so much a threat to society, like monasteries, quests, the military, or exploration.

Let's send them to space. For really long periods of time. Colonize Jupiter, my dudes. Figure it out. Have podcasts on Saturn's rings.

DeliaChristina, to random
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I'm proud of myself today.

I got two things done on today's to-do list, held a leadership team meeting, and am working on show flow.

I have not cried or broken down in stress or worry.

Yay. Lookit me. High-functioning Black woman holding her shit together while wearing a jumpsuit and clogs.

DeliaChristina, to random
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My Joyfriends are really coming through.

Day two of really messed up hair. I'm not going to bother for the rest of the day. I'm just gonna look like a bird made a nest on my head and call it.

DeliaChristina,
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@hazelweakly
Yeah I went to work one day in a sleeveless shirt with a ginormous bite bruise on my arm and one of the women asked me if I needed DV services. It was an awkward convo.

DeliaChristina, to random
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Why do universities have endowments and investment portfolios? Love this young woman's precise summary.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLphcaXo/

DeliaChristina, to random
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Fascinating.
At a time when America took a hard right into neo-fascism, nonprofits retreated from public engagement and advocacy.

This does not bode well -- for the sector or society.

When literally the third plank in the social compact is saying, La La La, I can't hear you, then the social compact is FRAKKED.

The sector needs less chicken shit leaders. Jesus.

https://nonprofitlawblog.com/upswell-2023-decline-of-nonprofit-advocacy-public-engagement/

18+ DeliaChristina, to random
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Petty goes to Washington. SNORT.

THIS was better than ice cream.

MTG thought she could play. Then she discovered no one plays like a Black woman with a fast mouth.

Heh.

The white dudes in this clip crack me up.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLgqubJs/

DeliaChristina,
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@thepoliticalcat
I just love that it's on the record. Even if it was struck.

It's on the record of CSPAN.

DeliaChristina,
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@thepoliticalcat

Also, Jaime Raskin's face was priceless. He knew what she said. The Chair needed a moment to catch up.

And the way MTG immediately clutched her pearls and objected. SNORT

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