DeliaChristina

DeliaChristina, 1 hour ago to random

Anyone else working on a holiday?

Oh, just me?

cool cool.

DeliaChristina, 4 hours ago to random

It may sound/look like I spend a lot of time thinking about the Wrongs of Men, but I really spend more time thinking about the ways that the cishet women around me swallow patriarchy's brainwashing so easily.

That weird woman/tree meme touches on something. Some of us are uncomfortable when the men in our lives share some vulnerability. There was one time an ex quietly mentioned he'd had a time when his consent wasn't respected.

And I was immediately uncomfortable. My gut reaction was to reject what was going to come out of his mouth. And I could tell he was bracing for it.

Instead, I said, I'm sorry that happened. Everyone should have their boundaries respected and she didn't respect yours. Do you want to talk about it?

He didn't. We never talked about it again. From then on, I've been a lot more accepting and empathetic when the men in my life come to me with stories of trauma. The same way I'd be if one of my girlfriends shared their assault story with me.

DeliaChristina, 1 day ago to random

I'm not gonna jump in on that thread about 'all men' but I am gonna say this:

While it's true that not all men do X, it is absolutely more true that patriarchy socializes ALL MEN to accept or be blind to certain truths about their position, importance, and relevance in the world.

Almost everything all men think of as 'natural' about their status in the world is not, in fact, true.
It was crafted through oppression, suppression, and violence.

It is also true that it takes an enormous amount of deliberate de-conditioning to throw off patriarchal thinking and praxis.

Those for whom 'not all men' truly apply (which is a small enough number to be sad and pitiful) know this to be true.

And so do the rest of us.

DeliaChristina, 22 hours ago to random

Izzy fucking sucks.

That's as sophisticated as I can muster right now.

They've basically been treating Gaza like a mousetrap, baiting and bombing Palestinians while saying, They just need to find the way out! It's right there! And there! Or there!

It's horrible and indefensible.

DeliaChristina, 1 day ago to random

I found this photo on Tik Tok and it's so damn powerful.

A portrait of American collusion with #genocide.

Don't let America tell you this never happened. We watched it. They funded it. They allowed it to happen.

DeliaChristina, 2 days ago to random

I am a sucker.

But this was the only way I could sleep in without him whining for a walk.
#BensonUpdate

DeliaChristina, 4 days ago to random

I was having a nice chat with Copilot about the new Recall feature and, just when it got interesting, (I asked why risk to vulnerable populations are never weighed as heavily as 'productivity') it ended the chat.

Killjoy.

DeliaChristina, 5 days ago to random

Last night, before bed, I texted Bestie.

Me: I really wish every terrible man on this planet would explode.

Her: Seriously.

Me: I want them to burst like a blood blister. Just splatter everyone around them where they stand.

Her: That's your emotional state right now?

Me: Pretty much. It sucks that God won't listen to me.

DeliaChristina, 6 days ago to random

I'm proud of myself today.

I got two things done on today's to-do list, held a leadership team meeting, and am working on show flow.

I have not cried or broken down in stress or worry.

Yay. Lookit me. High-functioning Black woman holding her shit together while wearing a jumpsuit and clogs.

DeliaChristina, 8 days ago to random

My Joyfriends are really coming through.

Day two of really messed up hair. I'm not going to bother for the rest of the day. I'm just gonna look like a bird made a nest on my head and call it.

DeliaChristina, 8 days ago to random

Why do universities have endowments and investment portfolios? Love this young woman's precise summary.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLphcaXo/

DeliaChristina, 9 days ago to random

Fascinating.
At a time when America took a hard right into neo-fascism, nonprofits retreated from public engagement and advocacy.

This does not bode well -- for the sector or society.

When literally the third plank in the social compact is saying, La La La, I can't hear you, then the social compact is FRAKKED.

The #nonprofit sector needs less chicken shit leaders. Jesus.

https://nonprofitlawblog.com/upswell-2023-decline-of-nonprofit-advocacy-public-engagement/

DeliaChristina, 9 days ago to random

shit.
it's soft tissue cancer.

#DadsLump

DeliaChristina, 10 days ago to random

Daycare pickup was hilarious.

Benson was wearing his Big Dog muzzle this time. Aaron was ready; I was ready. We got Benson in the back of the Subaru. He frolicked as usual.

I was chatting with Aaron from the back seat when Benson suddenly climbed over the seats and into my lap. He plops his big butt down on the workout bag next to me and just pants in my lap.

That's all he wants. He doesn't like being in the back. He wants to sit with me. So....I guess that's what we're doing from now on.

He's sleeping now, big Schmoopie.

#BensonUpdate

DeliaChristina, 11 days ago to acab

CA Supreme Court says cops can't detain you if you want nothing to do with them. 'Acting suspiciously' won't cut it anymore. They actually have to name the 'articulable facts' observed to justify detaining you.

Heh.

#ACAB

https://www.davisvanguard.org/2024/05/california-supreme-court-restricts-conditions-on-reasons-for-detainment-by-police/

DeliaChristina, 11 days ago to acab

This is why the Dems and Black folks are going to need to have a conversation soon.

Because this is NOT it. Effing tone deaf.

#BlackLivesMatter #ACAB #BlackMastodon #BlackFedi

DeliaChristina, 12 days ago to random

And what's the U.S doing about the Congo, anyway?

(I'm procrastinating. I have work writing to do and I'm doing it! But I'm also doing this.)

DeliaChristina, 15 days ago to random

Don't even get me started on that new Bumble ad.

DeliaChristina, 14 days ago to random

TIL that low estrogen also affects the elasticity of tendons and can contribute to hip and joint pain.

Gotdammit. I'm gonna have to take some collagen pills, aren't i?

Thanks, #perimenopause. Yet another thing to love. #MiddleAge is bullshit.

DeliaChristina, 14 days ago to random

I fervently believe Benson will live forever.

Lalala, I can't hear you.
Nope.

DeliaChristina, 17 days ago to random

A Jewish friend from grad school is a prof on one of these campuses.

He just texted me and said his daughter was arrested at the encampment on her campus. She's barred from going back to the encampment or more charges will be filed.

My friend and his wife are very thankful she was arrested.

Him: I hate this script. I'm an agonized Jewish liberal dad with a radical Jewish daughter who's fighting for liberation. I'm proud of her but I hate all of this.

My Jewish friends are going through it. I feel for them.

DeliaChristina, 18 days ago to random

6 am is really the most productive hour of the day.

DeliaChristina, 20 days ago to animals

There's a bench in my apartment and when I sit on it, that tells Benson one of two things is happening:

We're getting ready for a walk.
Or it's Mommy time.

Mommy time is when Benson asks for physical affection and play. And he plays rough.

I think people would be alarmed if they saw the way me and Benson play. He's all big head, wide open mouth, big teeth, and crazy eyes jumping and pulling and tugging and zoomie-ing, and biting (on the toys in my hands), and growling. It's effing terrifying looking. He makes me laugh. I love it.

A couple times I misjudge the distance between my fingers and his canines but not very often. He sometimes gets too excited and wants to chew on my shoe but not very often.

He's big and heavy and those teeth are no joke. But he's my big Schmoopie.

#BensonUpdate #DogsOfMastodon #LadyBachelorWithADog

DeliaChristina, 21 days ago to random

All eyes on Gaza (and the West Bank), please.

I feel now that Hamas agreed to a condition that Izzy has no reason to agree to, and now that the people taking refuge in Rafah are being leafletted to evacuate (where?) and there's stuff already happening in the West Bank, things are heading to a crisis-crisis.

DeliaChristina, 22 days ago to random

Brunch with a friend.
We're both GenX.

Me: M-, are you radical now?

Him: Yes. Well, more radical than I was before. I mean, I'm a white guy. People are used to the bare minimum from me. But shit is fucked up and fuckit. I'm going to do more than that now and if that means radical then yeah, I'm radical.

And then he went on an ACAB rant that was stupendous. This man was raised a good moderate Lutheran and his father was a Lutheran minister. He runs an arts/performance nonprofit in the city. He's got kids, an ex, a current partner, and a mortgage.

He's not a black bloc radical. But he has stepped far away from his socialization. When good liberals are now ACAB, something is happening.