arisummerland

GottaLaff, 1 day ago to legal

Welp! 🧵

Via Kyle Cheney: 1/...

#BREAKING: Judge #CANNON has indefinitely postponed Donald #Trump's trial date in Florida.

It may be months before we know the new schedule. #documents #legal

https://storage.courtlistener.com/recap/gov.uscourts.flsd.648652/gov.uscourts.flsd.648652.530.0.pdf

arisummerland, 12 days ago to random

Tornado watch. It's gonna be a long night.

Alice, 12 days ago (edited 11 days ago) to random

Edit: Claudia met her goal!

Thank you so much to everyone who donated!

Extra special thanks to @JoParkerBear and @LibertyForward1 for being the lovely people who brought this gofundme to my attention.

Also, thanks to all of you for reminding me about this wonderful place called Mastodon where people really can come together and make good things happen.

If you donated and want some weird photo booth photos and haven't messaged me with your address, please DM me so I can ensure I send some awkwardness your way.

Original:
I’m going to try something kind of out of character, but Claudia needs air conditioning ASAP and she can't do that until she has 100% of the funds needed.

I have a stack of nerdy photo booth photos of me and/or me and Kev.

If you donate at least $10 to this gofundme, send me a screenshot of your donation along with your address and I'll mail you a photo from one of the strips.

If you donate at least $20 to this gofundme, send me a screenshot of your donation along with your address and I'll mail you an entire strip.

The bonus of the entire strip is that I’m a weird looking person so you're bound to get at least one weird photo of me.

I'll also write a little note and maybe draw a picture of something like a hotdog or whatever. (Disclaimer: I am NOT an artist and it will show) https://beige.party/@JoParkerBear/112339395276601966

effika, 24 days ago to gardening

First harvest of 2024!

Chocolate mint leaves from my over-wintered plant! Paired with elderflower tonic water and lime juice.

@gardening #gardening #mocktail

pathfinder, 26 days ago to Autism

@actuallyautistic

I once wrote about how it was not unrealistic, to think that there was no such thing as an un-traumatised autistic. About how so many of us have known bullying and persecution simply for being different. Not even always for what we may have said or done, but often for simply standing out; in all the ways that we didn't even know we were. How just simply being, was so often an excuse to be attacked or punished. That our very existence, even as hard as we tried to mask, whether we knew that was what we were doing or not, was the cause of so much pain.

All the scars we carry from misreading situations. Or from believing in something, or someone, and being burnt as a consequence. All the times we've tried to stand up for ourselves, or as often as not for others, and been dismissed and ridiculed. All the misjudgements and disbelieve and times when our intent and purpose have been seen in the ways that were never, ever, meant. The sheer inability for others to see us as we are, or to judge us accordingly. But, always to seem to want to see the worst and to base everything else on that.

But the more I learn and understand about being autistic. The more I realise that so much of my trauma and the scars that were left, came not just from this overt pain, but from the covert well-meaning of others as well. From my parents and relatives, from friends and teachers. From all the advice and instruction I have received over the years that was meant to shape me in the right way. As a child, to teach me how to grow up, how to behave and act. What was expected and what wasn't. And then, as an adult, how I was supposed to be and how a successful life, with me in it, was supposed to look. All the rules I was supposed to learn, all the codes I was supposed to follow. How to act, how to speak, what to feel, when to feel it. What I was supposed to do and how I was supposed to be.

Not in any unusual way. Not in any way that you weren't supposed to raise a child, well a normal child anyway. That's what makes this so covert. If you were trying to do this to a child knowing that they were autistic, then it's overt abuse. It is ABA, it is infantilising and punishing a child for always failing to become something, that they had no more chance of becoming than a cat has of becoming a dog. But for those of us who didn't know we were autistic. It was simply the constant hammering of the world trying, without even realising it, to fit a round peg into a square hole and all the pain and disappointment that came from their failure to come even close.

For me, what made this worse, was that it wasn't as if I didn't know that I was different, not in my heart, but that I thought that I shouldn't be. That I should be able to learn what I was being taught, that I should be able to follow the guidance. That I wasn't any different really from anyone else and so if I failed to act in the right way, or react the way I should, for that matter, then it was my fault. All the patient sighs and familiar looks, simply became just another reinforcement of my failure. Even being told off for the simplest things, became a reminder that something that I should have been able to do, was beyond me and always for the only reason that ever made any sense; that I was broken, that it was my fault somehow.

Is it any wonder that so much of my life has been about trying to justify myself in the light of this, of trying to become that "good dog". Of judging myself against an impossible standard. A constant lurching from one bad to choice to another, and always because I thought they were the right ones. And for each new failure and inability to even come close, another scar, another reminder of what I wasn't. Further proof that my self-esteem was right to be so low. Of how I was such a failure and a bad person. That I was never going to be a proper son or brother or friend. Because I couldn't even be what I was supposed to be, let alone what I should become.

Looking back, I can't help thinking about how much of my life I spent living this way; of trying not to repeat the sins of my past. Of not repeating the actions or behaviour that led to those past failures and trauma. Of, in fact, all the effort I put in to not being myself. Because that, I realise now, was what I was trying to do. I was that round peg and trying to hammer myself into the square hole. Because everything I had learnt had taught me to think that this was how I had to be. That this was how you grew. And in so many ways, I can't help feeling angry about this. About the wasted years, about the scars I carry that were never my fault. About the way I was brought up, even though none of it was ever meant, but only ever well-meant.

#Autism
#Actuallyautistic

arisummerland, 27 days ago to novid

For peeps in the US. I had a link up for a company in Canada, but they don't ship to the states.

I am ordering today to give it a try. I do have a few work days where I have to wear a mask for extended periods, so staying hydrated has been a challenge (my job is physical).

I have seen posts from other Mastodonians saying they have used these on plane flights and avoided catching any and all bugs. Cool!

#Novid #CovidIsNotOver #CovidSafe #MaskUp #SipMask

https://sipmask.com

stux, 27 days ago to random Dutch

#Ducks are awesome

Uair, 28 days ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic

More adventures in homelessness.

Looks like i'm being driven out of this funhouse hotel roim. I mean, it'd be nice to trade up for a home that doesn't have cameras, and isn't rigged to prevent me sleeping.

Last friday i walked around the block and someone shouted, "call a lawyer", but i was on a drunk and waited to sober up. I even bought a phone.

1/2

mentallyalex, 1 month ago to random

I have a song in my head I don't particularly want, has that ever happened to you?

I woke up this morning singing "Major Tom" from Peter Schilling?
https://songwhip.com/peter-schilling/major-tom-coming-home-1989

Most people are familiar. So I was bopping along screeching out the countdown as I drifted through my morning.

In an effort to "switch stations" I began "re-listening" to songs I have heard in my past trying to get a new one to stick.

A new song has stuck and I have buyers remorse. This song is not as popular and definitely not in the same vein but I would encourage you to listen.

It is an American rapper and DJ known as Paul Wall. He had some national success and has been nominated for the work he did on the song Grillz with Nelly. This is not that song.

No, the song I have replaced Major Tom with, is Paul Wall - Smooth Operator.

https://songwhip.com/paulwall/smooth-operator

Not one of his more famous, I'll admit.

Help.

:blobcatdj:

arisummerland, 1 month ago to random

I really enjoyed the soft light and the coolness during the #eclipse. It was amazing to me that 12% of the sun showing was still a significant amount of light. I could live with a Sun that cool! I'm not sure the Earth could, though.

Mrfunkedude, 1 month ago to random

Look, I'm not saying that hydration isn't important.

It's just that the water is on the other side of the room.

🤷‍♂️

arisummerland, 1 month ago to random

Alert to followers: I have requested an account on another server that blocks Threads. I should know if I get approved within a couple of days.

I have other Mastodon accounts but this has been my most active one, so I will be migrating it if I get approved.

It'll be work following everyone back, but I'm willing to suffer that pain to prevent Zuck from ever scraping even a tiny amount of my data!

PacificNic, 1 month ago to random

I love N95s. It's amazing we can wear these things and come face to face with someone who is infected with the most contagious virus known and just not get sick.

I wish more people could appreciate how incredibly lucky we are to have access to technology like this.

arisummerland, 1 month ago to random

I don't celebrate now, but I was raised with it so I'll trot out my crustiest old memes and weird things for the day.

I hope you get all the chocolate you want.

#SilentSunday #SomeoneElsesHoliday

Two very large hares jumping about in a field of grass. The one on the left looks like he's just about to do something fantastic like a big kick. The one on the right that's facing him looks taken aback. The caption reads every bunny was kung fu fighting.
I honestly cannot explain this meme. It was created by an author I know as a joke that he played on us, his readers. It is a fake album cover by an artist named Klaus Hugen called Jesus is my spaceship, let's ride him through the stars. It features a purple and blue star-studded background and a bearded white man attempting to sit seductively in lederhosen and chonky socks and shoes. At least I think it's lederhosen. If you are a fan of the Space Team series by Barry Hutchison, you may have seen this before.

hannu_ikonen, 1 month ago to random

I migrated.

I have no issue with med-mastodon but I haven't heard much from leadership and I want to be on a server that is not associated with Threads.net.

Reasons:

1. COVID disinformation
   https://www.reuters.com/technology/meta-rolls-back-measures-tackle-covid-misinformation-2023-06-16/

2. Rohingya genocide
   https://www.amnesty.org/en/latest/news/2022/09/myanmar-facebooks-systems-promoted-violence-against-rohingya-meta-owes-reparations-new-report/

3. Bowing to authoritarians
   https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/2023/09/26/india-facebook-propaganda-hate-speech/

4. Genocide in Africa
   https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2022/feb/20/facebook-lets-vigilantes-in-ethiopia-incite-ethnic-killing

5. Transphobia
   https://glaad.org/lgbtq-celebrities-allies-letter-facebook-instagram-youtube-tiktok-twitter-anti-trans-hate-disinformation/

Numbered in no particular order.

stux, 1 month ago to random

Imagine youre able to pay a bond/fine of $454 million dollars, still have plenty left and keep whining about it

For many people on this planet even $454 could make the difference in their lives

And that's without six zero's behind it..

arisummerland, 1 month ago to random

What year did Nixon visit China? #Monsterdon

nddev, 1 month ago to actuallyautistic

An explanation for your friends and loved ones of why #ActuallyAutistic people can't find things and what they can do to help us:

https://www.thearticulateautistic.com/why-your-autistic-loved-one-cant-find-objects-right-in-front-of-them/

@actuallyautistic

currentbias, 1 month ago to random

When "pandemic fatigue" (see also: the bystander effect) results in outcomes that can accurately be described as eugenics -- no matter how passive the form -- then succumbing to pandemic fatigue is succumbing to eugenics

Someone who doesn't intend to be a eugenicist can nevertheless express eugenic behavior by failing to resolve the cognitive dissonance of knowing better and failing to act accordingly

#covid #covid19 #pandemic #PublicHealth #eugenics #CovidIsNotOver

arisummerland, 1 month ago to random

I almost died out there yesterday because somebody needed chicken fingers RIGHT THE HELL NOW.

This big pickup crossed two travel lanes from the left then stopped sideways in front of me when they couldn't get into the right turn lane bc other cars were in it.

Glad my habits of careful driving and paying attention on the road paid off.

I drive with the assumption that everyone else is likely to do spectacularly stupid things, and, well, someone did.

It could have been really bad. ☹️