@RickiTarr Being told by all of society that starting life losing my mother, father, siblings, extended family, identity, heritage & ancestry was of no consequence & no importance. #adoption#AdopteeVoices
'The research team... found a link between birth mothers who had experienced stressful childhood events, such as abuse, neglect, violence or poverty, and their children’s behavior problems. This was true even though the children were raised by their adoptive parents and were never directly exposed to the stresses their birth mothers had experienced.'
Between May 1 to May 15, adoption fees at all Maui Humane Society adoption locations will be reduced in price. This includes adoption fees of $0 for #dogs and #cats six months and older, as well as $50 adoptions for kittens under six months old. The special will be available at the Maui Humane Society shelter, in addition to Petco in Kahului and Cat Cafe Maui at Queen Ka'ahumanu Center.
"I didn't realize until years later, thinking back about that, was I was three years old. I lived with my birth mother, and then I didn't anymore.
And I was a three year old. I was talking to her. I forgot over [00:27:00] a while, over time what I was doing. And in the book I talk about it that way. I forgot what I was doing, but I kept doing it. And in, the way that I forgot my name, I had no idea what my name was and I had to find it."
Latest street kitty we took in (looking for a home in S. California)
Named him Noodles because his favorite maneuver is to roll on his back and act all noodly.
(originally called him Flounder, but he didn't respond to that; seemed to like Noodles better).
When I was 5 or 6, I asked Santa for a record player. He brought me one from Sears (it had a lid & carrying handle like a little suitcase) & a single record: a 45 of Diana Ross/The Supremes’ Love Child. I laugh every time I think about it. My adoptive mother apparently felt that would be an awesome gift for her illegitimate adopted daughter. 😶😑🫤🤣 #Adoption#AdopteeVoiceshttps://youtu.be/MDZTzEf7Ces?si=L1v6DPaeqi3VGzUr
My adopters starved me, too. & despite the fact that I was CLEARLY malnourished, no one ever tried to help me. Why not? Because society has been taught to believe adopters are saviors & saints. But abusive adoptive parents are not uncommon. That “better life” trope needs to be yeeted into the sun—when you give up your child to #adoption , you’re abandoning them to an utter crapshoot, & if they are eventually neglected, abused, &/or even murdered, it’s unlikely you’ll even know. #AdopteeVoices
Adopters aren’t superior beings, they’re just like everyone else. No more & no less capable of parenting well. They struggle, divorce, lie, cheat, lose their jobs, go broke, etc, etc, etc. They abuse. They rehome. They get sick, they die. Desperately wanting a child doesn’t make someone a good parent. & not all motivations to adopt are selfless—or admirable—or even healthy. #Adoption#AdopteeVoices
Because #adoption pros (& most of society) like to pretend adoptees are “as if born to” our adopters, there is ZERO oversight after an adoption is finalized. ZERO. If the kid you relinquish isn’t lucky enuff to end up w/ decent ppl—or if the folks to whom you entrusted them turn out to be lying sacks of sht, OH WELL. Sucks to be them. They’ll spend their lives being told by all of society how magnanimous & selfless their abusers are & that they’re lucky & should be grateful. #AdopteeVoices
The majority of the approximately 50 cases the NPO takes on each year involve #ChildrenWithDisabilities.
Some of these women face #stigma, with those around them attaching values of superiority or inferiority to an infant's life, such as in one case where a woman said she was told by her own parents she was "pregnant with something inhuman." Many of them also suffer from prenatal depression, Matsubara said.
“Republicans force women and girls to give birth to babies from rapists and deny women desperately wanted babies by making IVF effectively impossible.”
And if you understand how the incredibly misogynistic, coercive $21 billion /year #adoption industry works, you’ll understand that these 2 things work together by design. Seamlessly.
@cindyyusa If you understand how the incredibly misogynistic, coercive, predominantly Xtian-run, $21 billion /year #adoption industry works, you’ll understand that forcing ppl who don’t want a baby to give birth & denying IVF to those who desperately want a baby go hand in hand.
Tangentially, look up how many times Aileen Cannon has adopted. @RickiTarr
I often speak critically about adoption. That means I’m often called angry & bitter. I’ve worked thru a lot in therapy. I’m not bitter, but there’s a lot about adoption that makes me angry. That’s not a negative—nor is challenging the whitewashed industry rhetoric that defines #adoption in our society. It is vital. Not for me, but for young adoptees, bc there are so many who’ve been taught that their confusion, grief, anger, & longing is unacceptable. It’s not only acceptable, it’s REASONABLE. +
The $21 billion /yr adoption industry (& far, far, FAR too many entitled adoptive parents) claims #adoption exists to benefit adoptees—that we are the focus of adoption. That’s not true.
I don't know who Wayland is (i.imgflip.com)
If anyone wants to give an ELI5 or a link to a video that ELI5 I’d be incredibly thankful...