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BZBrainz

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AuDHD. :rainbowinfinity: NeuroQueer. Creative.

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BZBrainz, to ADHD
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The airport ia a brain trap for me. While the routine is getting easier, I still inevitably ask questions or blurt something out that get me into a situation that causes delays—especially through TSA. Sometimes this causes unexpected laughter and other times not so much. @actuallyautistic

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@EVDHmn @actuallyautistic Absolutely. The airport and boarder crossings interactions overwhelm and unnerve me in a different way than the everyday brain traps—likely because there is a power imbalance and higher stakes with misunderstandings.

BZBrainz, to ADHD
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Las Vegas is a nightmare and a pleasure for me—competing sensory needs. When it’s overwhelming, it’s unbearable with sound and smells and touching and social challenges—I’m more prone to shutdown and meltdown. And yet, I love the lights and creativity and interesting activities and walking. I love meeting my friends here for learning, socializing around a shared activity, and experiencing the environment. @actuallyautistic @audhd

BZBrainz, to random
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Learning about skill chains from Becca Syme. I’ve never heard of this explained like this and I’m fascinated.

Sar, to ADHD
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Been looking at various apps to help me mitigate my ADHD-incurred forgetfulness.

I stg it's getting worse with age 😂

Picked up Any.do for a first run at it. Seems nice enough, has task lists, Kanban Boards (which I really like for managing tasks for degree assignments), and works on Android, Windows and the web.

That's not to say there's something even better out there...

Anyone using something that helps them in dealing with inattentive symptoms?

Be nice to see alternatives 😄

BZBrainz,
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@Sar I use a modified version of HB90 which is geared toward authors and then I just applied it broadly. I don’t think it would have worked for me had my spouse and I dedicated a small dinner tray table by my desk where only my planner and preferred pens can go. DOOM piles are not allowed on the planner stand—hard to honor, but 9 months later it’s greatly improved my ability to identify needs and carry them out. @Adhdinos

BZBrainz, to ADHD
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I’m at conference this week. Someone laid out infinity pins with a nice unsigned note. Thank you!

Conferences can be difficult for me though I keep coming back to try. Every year I get a little better at it and a lot more comfortable with the environment (though I’ll admit to retracting back into my room between many panels). I’ve support and made a few good friends over the last few years around a mutual passion. @audhd @actuallyautistic

BZBrainz,
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@skaeth It really was! If it was you, thank you!

joshsusser, to Autism

Does telling an allistic person you're ever help improve communication? Over and over, I let people know I'm autistic in hopes it will help, but it never makes things better. It seems like no one wants to do the reading, or to make an effort to even meet me halfway. The main reactions I get when I disclose fall into these categories:

  • Ignore it entirely and just keep on like I'm not autistic.
  • Say I'm nothing like their 10 year old nephew who has .
  • Assume that since we're friends it doesn't matter, because friendship is magic and will enable me to "overcome my autism" with them if I am just motivated enough, and if they aren't special enough for me to do that then I don't really value them as a friend.
  • Give advice on how I can mask better for their comfort and convenience, like I haven't spent my whole life becoming expert on that.
  • Try to be accommodating without taking the time to learn what is helpful and what is just going to make things worse.
  • Infantilize me and treat me like a child or an intellectually disabled person.
  • Give up on me because autistic people are too hard to deal with.
  • No reaction, because most people don't know anything about autism. They don't even understand that I'm doing all the work to bridge the communication gap, or that they could do anything to help, or even cut me some slack when I fail.

I do have a couple allistic friends who accommodate me enough to maintain a decent relationship, but they are rare and special. And we had somehow worked that out before I knew I was even, so telling them still didn't change much.

Has anyone had communication improve by telling someone you're autistic? Or is that just a fantasy?

BZBrainz,
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@joshsusser No, I haven’t found telling people I’m improves communication due to a poor general public understanding of —or the breadth of what the term encompasses. Instead, if I need to have this conversation, I will focus it around my specific communication needs or traits.
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BZBrainz, to random
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This is my favorite time of year.

BZBrainz, to Autism
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Late-Identified A Starter Workbook—beginner's tool for adults—has been out for 6 months! Check it out, & if you already have, consider leaving a review. Thank you!

✅ Do you suspect you have spectrum disorder () & attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder ( )

✅ Are you still trying to identify your traits & describe your experiences to access support?

➡️ https://books2read.com/audhd

@audhd @Adhdinos @actuallyautistic

BZBrainz,
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@Adventurer @audhd @Adhdinos @actuallyautistic Honored and thank you for sharing.

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BZBrainz,
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@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic For some tasks.

BZBrainz, to ADHD
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This tweet was shared to me this morning as a nod towards something I’m well known for doing—I’m grateful this happens a little less as I get older. @audhd @Adhdinos @actuallyautistics

BZBrainz, to random
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Music and dance are some activities that fuel my soul. Me and my crop-sensor camera are ready to capture some movement tonight. One of my favorite ways to experience or view the world is through my camera lens (or multi color glass, seaglass mid transformation, etc.).

BZBrainz, to random
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“So you thought you could have your cake and eat it too?”

“Yes, that’s exactly what I thought… because that is what cake is for… and what I plan to do.”

BZBrainz, to random
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“Don’t be sorry for being particular.” Something that needed to be said today.

BZBrainz, to audhd
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Workbooks out in the wild. 😂 I keep forgetting to post about them—my goal will be to get back on track as soon as I get back to Washington. @audhd

BZBrainz, to adhd
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I am not excellent at planning a complex schedule—it's been a lifelong challenge riddled with disorganization and sprint fixations with . My current planner is the longest I've ever used a planner consistently for—3 quarters! The two things that are different than previous attempts are adding buffers to my schedule and trying to break down tasks. It's a work in progress that I am proud of. @audhd @adhd

nhan, to random

I've seen a few accounts on Mastodon that have the hashtag and I'm a bit confused. Does it convey a different message compared to having an hashtag?

BZBrainz,
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@actuallyautistic
@nhan I think it depends on the context. Here is my understanding of this hashtag and I welcome others to chime in or chase the hashtag back to the controversy. I have been told that was originally pushed by the organization speaks to reframe the online conversion on what “real autism looks like.” The response was not as intended and the autistic community interested in reclaiming it did so.

BZBrainz, to ADHD
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@Adhdinos @actuallyautistic
I neither want to be bored or overworked—and that’s not even entering into the conversation around fair compensation or present ability to work. There must be a happy medium between enough stimulation at work and not being over worked because ones “output” or “speed” or “benchmarking” is more than one’s colleagues.

BZBrainz, to random
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The bus drivers in Portland are some of the kindest and most communicative drivers I have ever met. I really appreciate them.

BZBrainz, to audhd
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It’s been a long time since I’ve been in a theater and even when I did go, it was rare. Tonight, I’m going to go meet a new potential friend for a movie and I think I’m excited. My competing needs can make friendship challenging, and despite difficult experiences, I’m still open to learning and trying to connect in the ways that I am able. Cheers to new friendship! And potentially finishing up my first newsletter this week.

BZBrainz, to actuallyautistic
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I was privy to an interesting convo today on different people’s complex feelings around the term vs . I know people who passionately prefer one, both, or an alternative non-medical umbrella term to describe their unique neurotype when not using specific language from medical books or the DSM-5.

Please note, I am not using these as synonyms for ADHD/ASD—I am tagging groups I belong to & enjoy engaging with. @actuallyautistic @Adhdinos

BZBrainz,
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@Yana_yz @actuallyautistic @Adhdinos I’ve always interpreted it as a term for neurodivergent people that is used with and by neurodivergent people. While I’m less likely to say Neurospicy, I respect it’s use and love language as it changes. Do you find that it is used more with close circles or with fellow Neurospicy individuals? As always, no pressure to answer.

BZBrainz, to Autism
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Late-Identified AuDHD: A Starter Workbook—a tool to begin gathering information together. (Large-Print pending review!! 🤩)

✅ Do you suspect you have spectrum disorder (ASD) and attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)?
✅ Are you late-diagnosed with ( + )?
✅ Are you still trying to identify your traits and describe your experiences to access support?
➡️ https://books2read.com/audhd
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