@tiffanycli@PacificNic
The thing that jumped out at me is “I mourn the life we used to have and my husband does too.” It’s never stopped being incredibly surreal to me to watch people choose to Return to Normal because they can’t accept that normal is gone forever. Maybe it’s some incomplete grieving process?
I kinda miss wandering around bookstores and seeing friends IRL, but I miss average snowpacks and well behaved jet streams and flying before the TSA and that sweet spot when the internet was a weird cool thing but we had smartphones too, and none of that’s coming back!
@donkeyherder 'Back to normal' is a con. There is a new normal. Many millions of people have died of #COVID19. Many millions more now have #LongCovid, and just as many are just one more infection away from getting #LongCovid, or dying of heart failure. Maybe it is mourning the loss of something gone forever. Bewilderment at a world changed out of recognition. @tiffanycli@PacificNic
@donkeyherder@tiffanycli@PacificNic I know I've gone through a huge grieving process over having to give up so much public life because of COVID risk factors - as well as grieving the demonstrated callousness of so many people high and low who want to prioritize their flights into pretend-normal over other people's health and lives.
@dkozlov@donkeyherder@tiffanycli We're not wrong, just ahead of the times. Grieving is necessary because we've lost A LOT. Very few people can accept that.
@PacificNic@donkeyherder@tiffanycli Yeah - but unlike the article author and all the other escapees to pretend-normal, I did not run away from that grief nor indulge in risks to self and others to numb it out. I stay responsible to self and others. So I have no patience or sympathy for the folks who have all the resources to avoid risk but would rather do denial instead.
@donkeyherder@tiffanycli@PacificNic I have a semi-distant relative who lives in the town I'm moving to who wants to meet up for coffee.
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I'm trying to figure out how to politely say I no longer eat out unless it's in the car.
Can't invite her over for tea, either.
Maybe there's neutral ground like a park where we could walk and talk?
@maggiejk@tiffanycli Yeah, I saw it floating around a while ago and have had to pull it out a few times. I feel like I should print it out and put it on a card so I can flash people it or other ones anytime they say dumb stuff.
@tiffanycli "At first, I thought that the stringent COVID precautions he was taking to protect himself on the airplane were over the top. In addition to wearing an N95 mask for 13 straight hours, he kept a personal air purifier at his seat at all times. But now I can see those actions for what they are. He was doing everything he could to make the trip work. In his way, he wanted to see me happy."
Or maybe he was just trying to not die or become permanently disabled.
That sociopath Dr Bob Wachter also mocked his wife for the precautions she took while flying. At some point she ended up with long covid. Later Bob got covid and took a hot shower, where the combination of covid and the hot shower lowered his blood pressure to the point he blacked out and concussed himself on a garbage can. He seemed to think it was hilarious. ( people have died falling the the shower but Bob thinks it makes a great story)
@maleve@tiffanycli I emailed the following to their lifekit email address: "There is no compromise between trying to avoid a debilitating disease that could kill and/or permanently disable one and eating in a restaurant. I hope that husband is considering divorce and finds someone who gives a shit about him in sickness and in health."
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