For me there are a few people who are usually equalizing, and I can just be around them, so I won't count that. But generally, I find about 3 times a week, I'm game for socializing. A day in between to rest is usually nice, but the larger the gathering or if we go somewhere particularly noisy or I'm meeting new people that involves more effort, and my social battery empties sooner. I'm very curious where everyone else falls on this!
@RickiTarr I need 100% alone time when I am not working (one-on-one with people). I can spend days on end by myself with no problem as long as I have some media and can text some friends.
Socializing in person just two or three hours a week is too much for me at this point. I have to budget my recovery time very carefully, especially when I know that I'm going to see family. Even if I'm hanging out with my neurodivergent friends, who are fairly equalizing, I have to be careful.
Zooms exhaust me. A text conversation or email chain can wear me out (I had an email absolutely ruin three nights of sleep for me last week, and the fallout is ongoing). An actual phone call? It takes days to recover.
I wasn't very social before the pandemic started. I'd be in the corner with a book, under the table with the dog, doing dishes, or outside looking at trees or birds or stars at any given social gathering.
Any pretense of being able to survive an in-person social activity has dissolved since March of 2000 (I loved lockdown -- except for the no work part). Especially since 2021, when people started rabidly gathering to make up for perceived lost time once they were charged with "saving the economy" by getting out there and doing capitalism again. I could not go that fast or throw my precautions to the wind.
@RickiTarr I always used to consider myself an extrovert but now I can’t cope with more than two or three social things in a week. I say extrovert because I don’t like to be on my own very much. If I do crave alone time, it’s really only being on my own in a different room while someone else is in the house. I guess I am hard to please
Une tante qui récupère tout partout, essaie de convaincre que la TV de ma mère ne vaut pas grand chose.
C'était une télé que ma mère n'a pas utilisé pendant quelques années. Une télé led. D'après ma tante, elle ne vaut rien car une télé led inutilisée s'abime. C'est vrai ?
Elle fait du forcing auprès de ma mère pour l'avoir et j'aimerais savoir si c'est vrai.
@Camille_Poulsard j’y ai vécu aussi, ainsi qu’à Belfort. Mon aînée travaille à l’hôpital mais elle habite du côté de Saint-Vit, je vais moins souvent en ville, j’y suis généralement pour garder les enfants, c’est peu propice au tourisme. J’espère aller faire un tour aux Salines d’Arc et Senans cette année.
One of my favorite nuggets of writing advice comes from James D Macdonald. Jim, a Navy vet with an encylopedic knowledge of gun lore, explained to a group of non-gun people how to write guns without getting derided by other gun people: "just add the word 'modified.'"
If you'd like an essay-formatted version of this thread to read or share, here's a link to it on pluralistic.net, my surveillance-free, ad-free, tracker-free blog:
@pluralistic I’m chuckling to myself while imagining an author taking that advice to satirical extremes, while picturing gun nuts just seething. “Her modified .22 revolver sent shockwaves through the building as she fired 10, 15, 20 shots, non-stop, ripping basketball sized holes through the concrete walls, and shattering windows in every building on the block”
I've used #MacOS for my day-to-day work for a good 35yrs. I've had a couple of brief clusters of years where I had to use a Windows at work (but still had MacOS at home).
I've installed #Linux on many old machines to extend their lives a bit, sorting through distros, finding one that would work on limited resources with good results. Fun stuff.
But I'm curious to ask a QUESTION about new computer purchases…
@ottaross@pa In my experience, computer vendors always have to pay for a windows license.
To avoid it, I have bought a laptop with no disk and bought a separate disk with no OS, or just bought bunch-o-parts and built the computer.
Some co's will put linux on for you but if your goal is to avoid paying Microsoft tax (as I've heard it called) you'd better ask specifically about it or the retailer will pay it (and charge you) and install Linux without telling you.
@bjb@pa aligns with my suspicions. I expect they have some oppressive contracts with manufacturers requiring a license whether sold with the OS or not. Hard to know for sure though.
I avoid the whole issue buy only buying Macs thus far. As they get older and unsupported I put Linux on them then.
Les autres sont peut-être plus grandguignolesques, mais ils s'accompagnent souvent d'une analyse sociale qui était en avance sur son temps.
Dans le genre wtf, ya aussi les premiers films de Peter Jackson, Braindead et les Feebles. Là aussi c'est de la nostalgie, les films débiles qu'on se passait en VHS avec les copains.
At some point, my purse became a walking pharmacy. Stomach upset, got a headache? I have you covered. Need bug spray or sunscreen, what about some lotion or hand sanitizer? I've got a snack, and something to freshen your breath.
When I had surgery a few years ago, I had a weight limit of 10 pounds for 3 months! Hubs said he needed to weigh my purse to make sure I could safely carry it. I thought he was joking, turns out it weighed 17 pounds!
@RickiTarr these reusable grocery bags that NYC Farmers market gave out a while back that are so used at this point you can barely see the writing on it and I've had to sew some holes together, but they're great for a 'murse'
Often I will forget I bought something and leave it in there and that's why it's heavy and so the last time I picked it up I thought there has to be something in here that isn't just stuff I decided to carry around
@RickiTarr When I worked at a science museum, one of the reasons I regularly wore a suit jacket is so that I could spread things over a huge number of pockets.
I have just had a message from Microsoft on my Windows 10 desktop that all support is ending for Windows 10 on October 25th.
My computer isn't compatible for Windows 11, even if I wanted it.
I am only moderately tech savvy, so I'm very nervous about installing Linux Mint ( recommended by quite a few blogs etc). Where would I find tech support if it goes wrong?
Edit: muting this now as I've had such a good response from all you super people.
Pff.. I just got cut off on my bike by this triple A hole with his massive window blinded SUV on the bike lane while he was holding his phone making a call
I was signing and yelling he should put his phone down and open his eyes, didn't take much of his car would have enjoyed the frame of my bike
Seemed like a "though businessman" or perhaps even a diplomat with foreign licence who did like he "owned the place" but not when I'm around
I don't care for your status, act like a human or ...
A lot of America is like that, too. Especially mid-size cities full of dangerous "stroads" that look the same from state to state.
Rural is green grass, brown grass, cows and/or horses or corn or wheat for miles. Or trees that look so similar you feel like you must be going in circles.
@flomaraninchi quand tu parles de la mégère, tu parles de "on ne laisse pas son vieux smartphone dans un coin" ? En fait j'ai compris que c'était une référence à Dirty Dancing ! De même, "GénéraAation sobriété" serait une ref à une chanson de Mylène Farmer. CC @vincib
Non, franchement, les gens sur Geev qui t'ignorent après avoir échangé sur un article, donné tes dispos, convenu d'un rendez-vous... je ne sais pas, mais dans quel monde on vit pour être aussi malpoli ?
@blablux
😂 Ho ben, perso, ça fait longtemps que je n'ai plus confiance en l'humanité, mais en de rares moments de rêve, j'y crois 5 minutes ! 😜 @morayner
@pasqualeberesti Pour être honnête, c'est compliqué d'avoir confiance en l'humanité en général. Mais j'ai réussi à m'entourer de personnes qui, majoritairement, me donnent envie de continuer à y croire. C'est quand je suis exposé au reste du monde que ma confiance s'évapore 😅 @morayner