TIL that zoning out is an ADHD thing - which feels good to learn about because I did it a freaking ton when I was a kid and it's reassuring for it to be "normal" for the neurotype and not entirely problematic. It's weirdly like a mental comfort thing for me (frequently did this after school) and maybe I'll embrace that more. #ActuallyADHD
Ok so what are some signals and reasons for signals that’s your partner wants you to do something?
Perhaps it’s the way they hold their coffee or change thier tone or give you looks to let them know what you want or what they are trying to signal to your brain to essentials observe and understand what’s going to happen next
It can be anything I’m curious if any couples made any cognitive life hacks 😵💫😒
Me, feeling well rested and in a good mood: I don't know, it's hard for me to see myself being autistic. I don't feel like I've run into much difficulty lately, and my ADHD has been more noticeable. Maybe I'm not really autistic, and maybe I'm just an ADHDer? What do you think about all this, screening test?
Screening test for Autism: congratulations, you got a perfect score! You are extremely autistic!
Is it something with the weather? Is it the pollen? I'm having a mare of a week for concentration. I can't focus on anything, flitting from one thing to another, forgetting things I should be doing. Coffee is not helping like it usually does. It doesn't help that I can't sit for a long time without stiffening up (still post op hip rep, but getting there). Also, the maddening tongue on tooth rubbing stim is back. Open to suggestions @actuallyadhd#ActuallyADHD#ADHD#neurodivergent
Me as a child: I love #BoardGames the structure of the game is cool and there's these rules and you get to figure out how to best play in the rules and I like chess and Monopoly and Mouse Trap and...
Me in my 30's, as someone who neither drinks nor socializes: ...they're really just an excuse for people to drink and socialize huh? :(
Shout out to the GameBoy which turned 35 today, my eternal comfort item which has simultaneously wasted so many hours of my life while providing tremendous joy and emotional and energy regulation. So maybe not a total waste? #GameBoy#retrogaming#ActuallyAutistic#ActuallyADHD
It's a hoodie/t-shirt/sneakers, keep the lights off, keep the ANC headphones on, low lighting/blue light filtering on the monitors and "screw you life" kind of morning.
I'm realizing maybe I should accept feelings like these and be present in it instead of metaphorically swimming upstream by trying to mask and push my way through it. It's less exhausting.
Getting any kind of ongoing practical support feels nigh impossible for those of us who have mostly low (but variable) support needs, yet are articulate enough to be able to say that
It’s hard to admit that openly 😔
Every so often I gather the spoons to be able to go and beg someone else for help, but it hasn’t worked yet
I am on day 5 of tension headaches and I am really at the end of my rope.
What I tried so far but didn’t help is:
getting massaged by partner
taken walks
paracetamol (only sometimes)
rest
just dance to see if my muscles would come loose
shoulder and neck exercises
face massager
I can’t do Ibuprofen cause of stomach issues. Do any of you have more recommendations? I am going to the hairdresser tomorrow and I need it to be gone. #ActuallyAutistic#ActuallyADHD
Hi friends! I have another article to write. The topic is ADHD-ers sharing our experience of what it is like existing as an ADHD-er. Need to send questions to about five folks about their stories.
When you received your diagnosis, was it a massive anticlimax?
I ask, because my kid got his yesterday and told me that it felt underwhelming, and I distinctly remember feeling the same way when receiving my own, four years ago.
There wasn’t this great moment of relief, just a calm, almost bored psychiatrist saying “Yes, it sounds like ADHD. Let’s try you on this medication and see how you get on”
It helped me validate myself. But it hasn’t made the world more navigable
In some ways, it’s made it harder. Before, I just #masked & white-knuckled my way through
Now w/the validation of my #neurodivergence, it’s like my entire being refuses to go back to such a destructive way of living. But I’ve yet to find a way that works for me
For people that are not @actuallyadhd the common medication feels different that for those who are #actuallyADHD - non ADHDers feel like on Coke, very energetic and highly vibrant, similar to using Speed, while ADHDers tend to get calm and focused, able to concentrate at all.
Question [I haven't googled yet]: What is it with antidepressants - if people without a depression take those, do they feel LOTS happier than ever or something different?