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RickiTarr, (edited ) to random
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The Tale of Two Gynecologists

This is a bit long, and I've talked about this a lot lately, but it's something I'm thinking about a lot in the wake of so much hatred of female Healthcare. When my female troubles got bad enough that I finally talked to my doctor about it, he referred me to a gynecologist. I had already had several ultrasounds and an MRI at this point, and she had put me on some oral contraceptives for several months, (which made sick to my stomach no matter what I did) and had just done another ultrasound. She greeted me with "Well, you're really messed up inside, Honey.", which already had me pretty stressed out. Then told me I would probably need surgery to figure out exactly what was going on. She then asked me if I wanted children, and I said No. I had taken my husband with me to the appointment for moral support, and she glanced over at him, and then talked to me for 5 minutes about how many women my age could still have children, and I could definitely consider it, and that they would do everything they could to make sure I could stay viable. They could freeze my eggs if I had to do a hysterectomy, just on and on. She probably asked me directly 4-5 if I was sure I didn't want kids. Finally, I said, "Ma'am, my husband got a vasectomy over a decade ago, we are absolutely sure we don't want kids." After hubs had found me crying on the toliet, because my period was late again, he went to his doctor and said, "Hey doctor, I'm thinking about a vasectomy." The doctor gave him a pamphlet to read, and made him an appointment. The whole thing was done in a few weeks.

Anyhow, she finally referred me to a gynecological surgeon, and I was not looking forward to dealing with this again, and was just generally terrified of having surgery for the first time. I met with this woman and she was so efficient and practical. It is the longest doctor appointment I've ever had, since this surgery would be exploratory, she went over every possibility of what could happen when she was inside. She did a thorough exam, she went over all the scans that I had, and explained why she thought this needed done. Then she said she would like to put in a Mirena IUD during surgery. She said, "You're in pain half the month, and there's no reason for you to have a period if you don't want to have kids. You'll have some erratic bleeding for six months, but by a year most women have a very light or no period at all, there's no reason for you to needlessly suffer if you don't end up needing a hysterectomy."

It's interesting to me still, that one doctor was so focused on what my body could do, and another so focused on how I felt. I came out of the first appointment feeling scared and confused, and the second feeling heard and cared for. Feeling valued as a person and not a baby maker made the surgery much easier to go through, and the Mirena has been great btw. Women don't have to needlessly suffer.

bjb,
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@bobjmsn @RickiTarr
They refused to consider any "risks" I might have taken by getting pregnant (which were elevated due to other factors), and which were why I asked for sterilization.

bjb,
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@bobjmsn @RickiTarr
I remember asking for sterilization at age about 35-40, they refused. Several years later some drs invited me to a consult, looked like a junior surgeon needed practice (my conclusion) and they offered me an operation to remove gall bladder because I had complained 2 (!) years earlier of abdominal pain (which had not recurred).
I reminded them I had been refused the steriliz'n because of "risks" and declined. Still haven't needed the gall-bladder-ectomy (yrs & yrs later).

ottaross, to macos
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I've used for my day-to-day work for a good 35yrs. I've had a couple of brief clusters of years where I had to use a Windows at work (but still had MacOS at home).

I've installed on many old machines to extend their lives a bit, sorting through distros, finding one that would work on limited resources with good results. Fun stuff.

But I'm curious to ask a QUESTION about new computer purchases…

bjb,
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@ottaross @pa In my experience, computer vendors always have to pay for a windows license.
To avoid it, I have bought a laptop with no disk and bought a separate disk with no OS, or just bought bunch-o-parts and built the computer.
Some co's will put linux on for you but if your goal is to avoid paying Microsoft tax (as I've heard it called) you'd better ask specifically about it or the retailer will pay it (and charge you) and install Linux without telling you.

bjb, to Ottawa
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There is a LYS (local yarn shop) in Kanata:

Yarns Ewe'll Love
474 Hazeldean Road, Kanata
https://yarns-ewell-love.com

#shopLocal
#ottawa
#ontario

mike, to random
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My search engine skills are failing me tonight. Does anybody know of a tool that will convert an HTML document into markdown? Linux obviously and CLI would be nice. I want to use it for a script.

bjb,
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@mike @webaware @pandoc
I think of pandoc as a command line tool but you are describing a web site failure ...
Something is not matching up here.
"Pandoc includes a Haskell library and a standalone command-line program."
You should be able to "apt install pandoc" and go from there

bjb,
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@mike @pandoc @webaware ewww.
Yuck

seachanger, to random
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thinking about rebuilding our public squares in a hybrid digital age

  1. encourage public entities to share public info on public channels, not private platforms

  2. embrace sharing in real life, use email, snail mail, private messenger, radio, newspaper, public forum, neighborhood scale gathering

  3. create and use nonprofit and publicly owned social sharing platforms, but prioritize real life sharing when possible

bjb,
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@seachanger
I guess this comes across as quite negative, and you might be afraid of the reception you'd get ... I think after a while of renewed communications I might (probably) would get back some of that enthusiasm. And in my case, overall I'd be happy to hear from extended family again.

purplepadma, to random
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I didn’t garden. I went back to bed where I felt much safer. I dozed fitfully, depressed dreams. Missed lunch, missed the best of the weather. Came outside to find Tom and Miss Cinnamon pottering about sorting things on the patio. I just feel useless, an onlooker

bjb,
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@purplepadma @NatalyaD Isn't "diagnosing" someone based on their social media presence, the height of unprofessionalism?

bjb,
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@purplepadma @NatalyaD

Angrifying ...

Professional what? (Rhetorical question)

And I would put quotes around Dr when communicating with this person from now on.

If I continued to do so

ottaross, to random
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Filled a little bottle with maple syrup and headed out for a greasy-spoon breakfast.

bjb,
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@ottaross @YurkshireLad
Last weekend I went to Bread and Son downtown on Bank Street, had the two poached eggs in croissant sandwich, with cup of breakfast tea. Also fun and delicious. As I am introvert, brought newspaper and did weekend puzzles. Glorious.

bjb,
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@ottaross
Yep, I went to Desi Tadka in Bells Corners and asked their advice on Indian breakfast. They recomnended rice and chickpeas (they called it dal, I thought dal was made with lentils so TIL), they served it with a few super thin red onion slices and those pink pickled turnips you get at shawarma places). It was all delicious.
I had a masala chai, also delicious. Filling and nutritious.

Dianora, to Ottawa
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Looks like my playdoh baked up.The bread buns are great in the morning for breakfast with some butter and jam.

#Ottawa #Bread

bjb,
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@ottaross @Dianora
No need for sugar, the raisins add sweetness.

purplepadma, to random
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Morning. I slept badly and I’m tired and confused. We’re scheduled to go on a day trip to see the dams in the Elan valley, with lunch at an award-winning pub. Predictably I don’t want to go and feel about as enthusiastic as if I was scheduled for toenail surgery. How are you?

bjb,
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@purplepadma @WTL You got your rhubarb : -)

purplepadma, to random
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Up and in the bath. Didn’t sleep brilliantly and I still feel a bit emotionally bleugh. Hopefully the day ahead will perk me up. Any weekend plans at your end?

bjb,
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@purplepadma
Finish up the gardening (mainly putting annuals in clay pots and window boxes but may include starting some sunflowers)
Start treating the wood slats I got, I'm replacing all the wood slats on my park bench. Will be sanding them. Or maybe applying the wood filler first, then sanding
Visit my friend while he hosts an Ingress get-together. Might do the park bench work there.
Exchange the UPS battery I got yesterday, terminals are backwards and also it doesn't fit in UPS : -(
Etc

bjb, to Podcast
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I was listening to FLOSS weekly podcast and was delighted to hear that they are going to interview Evan Prodromou next week.

@evan

caseynewton, to random
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This year at Platformer we want to tell more stories about the web as it enters a state of managed decline. Here's @zoeschiffer interviewing a man whose independent games site was crushed by a change to Google's search rankings and its embrace of AI: https://www.platformer.news/google-retro-dodo-core-algorithm-change-ai-publishers/

Here's Retro Dodo's founder:

bjb,
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@caseynewton @zoeschiffer
Well, I searched google for how to do a bit of woodworking. Got a result but wondered if it was the woodworking equivalent of "put 1/8 cup glue in your pizza sauce" and ignored the result. Stopped by the library on the way home from the bike shop where I left my bike for maintenance, and borrowed a couple of reassuringly old books on the topic.

bjb, to Halloween
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First trick-or-treaters - fun!

evan, to random
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It's perfectly OK for Palestinian Americans and other Arab Americans to organize and lead protests in the US.

bjb,
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@evan This may be a topic which is true in theory, but in practice it could be dangerous for the organizers : -(

Heidiknits, to FiberArts
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Anyone want to share their opinions on ? I may be interested in buying a new one. I have a 20 yr old Janome that is so loud I can't use it when anyone is home because they complain. It's also cranky & I could never get it to make good stitches consistently. I want to make my own clothing & since this is probably a passing fancy, I'd like to not pay an arm & a leg for it. (Maybe a second hand deal?) I don't mind an older machine and I don't want anything computer-y.

bjb,
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@Heidiknits
Make sure it has adjustable stitch length, and for zig-zag, adjustable stitch width.
Apart from that if it can do buttonholes, you'll have everything you need in the way of features.
Then again, I'm no expert. But look for adjustable length and width as a minimum set of features.

purplepadma, to random
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This novel about generations of oppressed and marginalised Native American people has the additional cheerful bonus that they are pretty much all addicted to something - alcohol, laudanum, prescription opiates…l

bjb,
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@purplepadma
Sadly, accurate. Many have mental health issues, whether involving substance abuse, or not.
Being told your whole culture is evil and illegal into the seventies will do that (and some residential schools lasted another twenty years).
When I grew up I realized there was no trace of indigenous culture to be found (I was curious and kept an eye out for it) but I did not know it was actually illegal.
I read a couple of novels in the last few years, Indian Horse, Five Little Indians.

bjb, to Ottawa
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Today's local shop: Duke's Fine Foods, European grocery store in Bells Corners.
They have lots of European imports like Mozartkuegeln, marzipan, preserved meats like salami,
Pepperoni, imported cheeses like gruyere, emmental, swiss, plus local products like butter, baked goods.
Great little shop.

bjb, to Ottawa
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The #shopLocal toot of the day:

Ottawa Fastener Supply
2205 Robertson Rd. Nepean
https://ottawafastenersupply.com

#ottawa
#ontario

bjb, to Ottawa
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The #shoplocal store for today:

Chef's Paradise 1314 Bank Street, https://chefsparadise.ca

Kitchen things, restaurant supply store

#Ottawa
#ontario

bjb, to ontario
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The #shopLocal for today is:

Henry's - Cameras and photography things
https://www.henrys.com/stores

Hmmm, seems they have locations across Canada - most locations are all over #Ontario including #Ottawa, but a store in each of #Halifax, #Winnipeg and #Vancouver as well.

bjb, to random
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I fell on paved curb while taking out recycling this morning. Scraped up hands, had to spend an hour trying to stop bleeding (internal and external) before I could get down to working. Didn't want to bleed all over the keyboard/mouse.
The bleeding was more like seeping, there weren't drops of blood falling or anything. But it hurts.
Those salt crystals on the ground tore up several flaps of skin.
Fortunately no bones broken or other injuries.
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