lens_r

@lens_r@kbin.social

My gf (f23) found an old video of me (m22) with an ex and wont talk to me now.

I am my gfs first partner, she is my second. The girl I dated prior (for 6 months) was a vlogger and for like 3 months made a lotta relationship and prank videos wth me which I was fine with at the time. Now my current gf is my first ever real crush and Ive been into her for a decade....

OscarRobin,

She’s got problems. She’s torturing herself with old media of your previous relationship for no reason and resenting and blaming you for it. If she can’t grow up you shouldn’t have to deal with it.

SnokenKeekaGuard,
@SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com avatar

Also, some of the questions were a bit weird.

  1. How long into dating did you have sex? I know no answer will be good for her.
  2. Did you see yourself getting married to her? Either I lie or risk hurting her DEEPLY.

There were a few other weird ones there.

Xirup,

In case anyone is interested in an alternative, I personally use LanguageTool because it is open source and works very well.

michael,

Yeah Grammarly was selling all your data LONG before the AI showed up.

Funny how some people are only nervous now that their data might be used to train a language model. I was always more worried about spooks! :)

harsh3466,

Let’s be fair. Apple doesn’t do this quite so blatantly and egregiously, but they do it. They collect plenty of telemetry, and it’s getting harder to opt-out of/block it with their own chipsets.

Edit: I say this as an Apple user.

jeebus,
jeebus avatar

Fuck this is trash. DRM for the web. I wish people would understand websites like kbin are not free and that if you use a website you need to pay to keep it alive. But no one wants to pay for anything on the internet, and so we have ads. Ads will for sure kill the internet.

My friend sold his Video Game Collection, it just made me have a midlife crisis at 29. Is this normal?

My friend and I collect old video games. But all my physical media just sits on my shelves and collects dust. Why do I even collect them? I literally just emulate everything. Is there a purpose to what I do? People ask me why I collect and I never have a real answer because I don’t even know. If I never play my stuff, is it...

Famborghini,

I collect planes that just sit around and look cool and I can say I have them. I’d never sell them because I love planes and they make me happy, some of them are toys from when I was a kid and I don’t play with them anymore but that doesn’t mean I’m gonna get rid of them, they bring me great joy. I’d look at it that way if I were you

totallynotarobot,

Your title is un-self critical and condescending, so your conversations probably aren’t terribly productive in either direction.

That turn of phrase has never been used by someone conversing in good faith and with an open mind.

Edit: Jack Nicholson excepted

Is there any more ethical solution to our current circumstances than "murder all billionaires"?

Not that I'm particularly against that - quite the opposite, in fact. But I'm wondering if anyone sees, or had seen a path to social and climate recovery/progress that could occur without first eradicating the class of people who most enjoy the present status quo.

palebluethought,

So, let’s put aside for a moment the rather shocking number of people casually advocating for murder in this thread.

I want to talk instead about how everyone here is just talking for granted the notion that removing the billionaires, Republican politicians, or whatever “they” you care to think of, would be a solution, or even a positive step, for modern social ills.

There’s a big undercurrent in almost any political discussion online, this implication that every one of the world’s problems actually has a super simple solution, that The Powerful could just snap their fingers and make it happen if they wanted to, and it’s only because of their greed etc that we have any problems that all. Obviously we live in a time of huge inequity and we’d be a lot better off if we found a good way to improve it.

But many (most?) of our biggest problems are inherent to the challenge of keeping 8 billion people alive and happy in a hostile universe, and in fact nobody has ever had a perfect solution. Throwing the entire planet into chaos by causally throwing away human beings’ rights and leaving an enormous portion of the world’s capital in uncertain hands, ready to be seized by some other set of psychopathic opportunists who happen to be in a position to do so, certainly ain’t it.

What does defederating from Meta's Threads.net actually accomplish?

Afaik, whenever an Activitypub instance has defederated from another it has always had to do with some combination of bad user behavior, poor moderation, and/or spam. Are the various instance admins who have decided to preemptively block threads.net simply convinced that these traits will be inevitable with it? Is it more of a...

Kill_joy, (edited )
Kill_joy avatar

From what I have read, I think it's all of the above.

  • a space is wanted free from corps, ads, data perversion

  • people are fearful that 30 million people joining threads has automatically made it the largest instance. Once it integrates with ActivityPub and can federate, it will dominate the space and produce the majority of the content. People are fearful then meta will retract it/ defederate and take the majority of content and content production with it (EEE). This would effectively kill the fediverse.

  • many believe meta will not act in good faith and is doing this to appease European courts and laws

Because of all of this people likely believe keeping threads quarantined right off the bat is the best solution to mitigate the amount of damage they can do to what's already been established.


Edit: I am adding to this post as I just stumbled across a post from the host of the lemm.ee instance (which I am a big fan of). He has also listed some great cons of Facebook stepping into the fediverse:

-there is nothing stopping facebook from sending out ads as posts/comments with artificially inflated scores which would ensure they end up on the front page of "all" for federated servers
-threads already has more users than all of Lemmy's instances... therefore, they can completely control what the front page looks like by dictating what their users see and vote on
-moderation does not seem like a priority for threads which would increase workload for smaller instances
-REVENUE FOCUSED

I paraphrased a lot of this but as this is getting some traction I wanted to provide additional visibility to the cons of federating with the Facebook.

Odo,

All those Twitter links didn’t work for me, so I had to go digging. Here’s a direct link: https://segaretro.org/File:SegaFY1997BrandReview_US.pdf

rml, (edited ) to emacs
@rml@functional.cafe avatar

I would love to start developing for smartphones, creating a proper client totally reimagined for the smartphone is long overdue and a project I could really sink my teeth into. You know the popup keyboard on your phone? You think Steve Jobs invented that? No he didnt, Richard Stallman did, it's called a minibuffer. Emacs was doing all this stuff in the 80s, and way better, even.

But I can't help but hate all the frameworks surrounding mobile development, ie React Native, Swift, Flutter etc, but also from my experience as a user, the apps I've tried that were made with alternative frameworks like , which had to downsample and skew the resolution to fit my phone's screen, so it didn't seem to even feature responsive design; maybe ok for the hospital software they designed it for but not something for creating applications that the people will use out of their own volition.

I'm pessimistic that "there is no alternative" but seeing how nicely is coming along, I'm hoping that I may be wrong. Is there anything promising out there in the space?

ArneBab,
@ArneBab@rollenspiel.social avatar

@rml have you seen the discussions in the emacs lists by Po Lu to merge proper support into ? (with optimizations for Android UX)

YSK: Signal is a great secure private messenger app comparable to others on the market. (restoreprivacy.com)

“When you use Signal, your data is stored in encrypted form on your devices. The only information that is stored on the Signal servers for each account is the phone number you registered with, the date and time you joined the service, and the date you last logged on.”...

jabakobob,

I think Signal is trying too hard to be secure, and they are missing a lot of convenience features.

For example, you can't migrate from Android to iOS or vice versa. You'll lose all your messages and groups.

Or it's really hard to export all the photos someone sent you. I get that my iCloud library isn't as secure, but I really want to make sure I don't lose those photos if I lose my device. The photos aren't that sensitive.

The security notifications are also well-meaning, but hard to make sense of. You sometimes get notifications for changed security numbers, when people change their phone, sometimes folks show up twice in groups, etc. It's all a bit hard to understand and difficult to use.

And finally, it seems that messages are sometimes delivered a bit unreliably or with a long delay.

FlyingSquid,
@FlyingSquid@lemmy.world avatar

They certainly get a lot more help and support before they begin any non-surgical procedure compared to teen girls who get nose jobs because their parents can afford to pay for them. And no one calls that mutilation or says that kids are too young to decide whether or not they should get a nose job. Do they consult doctors or therapists before deciding to get one? No. They just go to the plastic surgeon and set up a time for the surgery.

Is Lemmy searchable from search engines such as Google?

Part of the utility of Reddit to me was the ability to append “Reddit” to searches and be served relevant threads to my search query since Reddit was one of the last places to get information from real people. This has proven to be invaluable in troubleshooting. Is this possible with Lemmy or the greater Fediverse? As we...

Lumidaub,

This morning I got a Google alert for my username (yes, I set a Google alert for my username because I'm full of myself) and it sent me to my Lemmy profile. I'd interpret that as my home instance being indexed?

Fleppensteijn,
@Fleppensteijn@feddit.nl avatar

Some research tells me it’s a physical chip that blocks you from opening certain files 😬. I did hear MS was coming with this at some point. Maybe check if this can be disabled in the BIOS

bioemerl,

Yes, Microsoft exerting this sort of control over their operating system does deeply concern me which is why i switched to Linux and you should too

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