The Norway #ADHD group on FB strikes me as people who are always looking for stuff. Drugs, treatment, easy ways out. They're not looking for key solutions, such as collaboration. I'm also not seeing much interest in a weekly ADHD conference call. Some of the paradox is that you're short-sighted, and thus unable to work with people on the long term.
I don't have the spoons to explain why I feel my neurodivergence is making this worse, but I need feedback or insight from other ND people on a unique experience. This will be a long thread (added in replies) but I'm hopeful there will be a few kind readers who either relate or have something supportive to share.
Here goes:
1/ @actuallyautistic@actuallyaudhd #recoveringfromreligion #LateDiagnosedAutism #actuallyautistic#neurodivergent
Not sure how to describe it, but I'm feeling frustrated that despite the fact that my faith deconstruction began in 2015, and I officially left the religion in 2016; I still miss the closeness and belonging I once had. I'm Hella triggered by organized retreats or post religion gatherings... it seems to have the same flavor as church.. I get that people are wanting connection. Obviously so do I..
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but so far, online spaces seem to feel the safest. I think being in a high demand religion with insta-friends masked some of my limits in socializing or maintaining friendships. Literally 4 to 5 in person 'friend groups' I attempted to engage in over the post faith years, all imploded 1-2 yrs later. I'm starting to fear I'll never have connections that survive beyond that now
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(despite having 15-20 yr friendships before leaving.)
When you lose your entire support system, and you see red flags of manipulation or non-reciprocation miles away.... somedays it feels like I just have to accept that freedom of mind has to be enough, cuz trusting relationships was the price...
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but here I am, trying to have spaces to find connection and ASD or post religion spaces seems to be the safest 🤔 (every time I decide to leave exreligious spaces from deconstruction topic burnout, I find my way back because its the place I find like minded people) I guess I'm just here to vent about how f*cking terribly cruel shunning is.
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I used to beat myself up over not finishing projects, until I learned that I have #adhd. My interests and motivation shift severely on a daily basis, which isn't really compatible with long term commitment.
I'm now trying to lean into it and enjoy the process of creation while putting less value in completion. Capitalistic society wants us to value the "finished product" above anything else - that doesn't mean I have to.
Hey #actuallyautistic folks. What do you do for meltdowns with strong emotional and moral components, not just sensory?
I am hesitant to ask because mental health, trauma, and social and emotional dynamics are deep special interests of mine so I know a ton already, and I'm sensitive to being 'splained or talked down to right now.
But I also have some faith that the #neurodivergent community could give me some clear, practical tips and suggestions and I'm tired and alone.
Earlier this year I started hitting a point of simultaneous fatigue and sensory overload in the early evening that I'm not used to, basically has me in dark cool rooms for the rest of the day to avoid shutdown.
Anyone else deal with this as a new symptom?
Coincides with the onset of a depressive episode but has been surprisingly persistent.
I know people with estrogen have said their ADHD gets worse during perimenopause/menopause, but I'm wondering if people with testosterone 50+ also notice their Autism/ADHD symptoms getting worse. Especially more "inattentive"/stuck in their thoughts.
I feel like we really need more research on all of this.
please help wren with their utility bills before they get shut off! you can also support them getting cleaning supplies with the amazon wishlist. anything helps!
What's a good name for a weekly online meet-up (conference call) for #neurodivergent people? I'll try to come up with something but suggestions wouldn't hurt!
I'm setting up a weekly conference call for #neurodivergent#ADHD#AuDHD#autism people. What weekday and hour is best for you? Please include your timezone.
I’m hoping this gets to the right folks who can point me to an #AuDHD#neurodivergent and #actuallyautistic friendly #instance on #mastodon ? One that is welcoming and focused if possible on the adult experience as opposed to a parenting group focused on kids.🙏
please help wren with their utility bills before they get shut off! you can also support them getting cleaning supplies with the amazon wishlist. anything helps!