Let Them...The idea behind this way of thinking is that negative people are going to do what they are going to do, so you can take back your power by letting them. You don't need to use your precious energy to fight their negativity.
A toxic relationship doesn’t just affect the (usually) two people involved, it affects the entire social fabric. How does a hackerspace deal with this, how does a larger community, like the #CCC?
Toxic relationships can also exist between colleagues, or in hackerspaces. There is no need for a “love couple”. I know of several cases of such toxic relationships in various hackerspaces. They almost destroyed the respective spaces.
@gamambel I'm reading this intently. In the mind of many long-timers, Chaos still has strong aspects of being a scene rather than an organization. Perspectives on how well we deal with social issues (umbrella term) vary widely. My own attitude towards this has been that the CCC organization should adjust to its size and become structured - which would increase social certainty, and allow us to garner more structured responses. But that's just one opinion, and debatable.
Here are some dating tips, nothing grand, but can be useful.
Know how to say “I love you” in the #Filipino language because we have two for romantic relationships.
“Mahal kita” = This is your “I love you” in English. It can be used romantically or for family and relatives.
mahal = ma (as in “mama”) + hal (as in ha + L) which means “love”
kita = ki (as in ‘ki’ in “kit”) + ta (as in ‘ta’ in “tank”) which means “you”
“Iniibig kita” = This can be translated into English as “I deeply love you” or “I deeply desire you” or both; and should only be used romantically. You could say it is a poetic way of saying “I love you”, however, it is more than that.
iniibig = i-ni-i-big (i = as in the sound of saying the letter “e” = iihh) which means “[deeply] love”
Understand what “mutual understanding” or “m.u.” is.
It's actually simple. “Mutual understanding” is that stage wherein two people are already comfortable with each other, but are still not officially dating. Usually, they do not know they like each other; however, there are those who choose it because they are not sure yet (especially permission from parents).
If the person you like decides to be in an M.U. relationship, don't take it negatively. It is a sign that they are considering dating you, just that, there are still things they need to settle on their end. Give them some time.
You need to clarify your relationship.
Never assume that you are dating. I've seen “couples” who never made it clear and later was shocked the other partner finally have a “boyfriend” or “girlfriend”. The surprised party felt “cheated” but in reality, no one cheated, they were never dating in the first place!
It is important to make your relationship clear.
Are you dating exclusively? “Exclusively”, meaning, there are no one else both parties are dating.
Or, are you in an “open relationship”? An “open relationship” is a relationship wherein you allow each other to have other dates.
Are you actually dating, M.U., or just friends?
Are you “officially” dating? “Officially”, meaning, both of your parents know (regardless if they agreed to it or not).
“PDA” or “Public Display of Affection”
This is publicly holding hands, hugging, kissing (cheeks, lips), being overly sweet with each other.
Filipinos are generally fine with it. If you don't like it, a Filipino date might misinterpret it as you not being proud of them. Thus, if it is not in your culture to show PDA, then make it clear with the Filipino you are dating, to avoid misunderstandings.
There are also some Filipinos who are not into PDA, so, you need to be open about it. And limits.
You are not just dating one person, you are dating the entire family.
Filipinos are family-centric. And when it comes to Filipino, be sure to treat their families well.
This is a good thing. If your partner is telling you what to do, it means they really want to date you.
That's just 5 when it comes to dating. Marriage proposal is a whole different matter. We have our own form “dowry”, although less practised today, it is still good to know, especially if the Filipino you want to marry is traditional. (They may not tell you anything because you're a foreigner, but deep inside they're expecting it.)
@youronlyone@pilipinas@pinoy .Yes sometimes people wonder why the other ( Filipina, Filipino) does something that seems strange. It may be as you say a matter of her/ his family that brings this about! 😉👍😍
You bring forth some very good points, many do not think about when cultures differ! 👍
Family is everything, in a Filipino's life, coz when it all comes down. They may be the only ones they have to turn to, so don't disregard or disrespect or you will LOSE!
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Helps in naming of certain groupings of islands, although it might be seen as a controversial groupings for some…
“An Euler diagram is a diagrammatic means of representing sets and their relationships. They are particularly useful for explaining complex hierarchies and overlapping definitions. They are similar to another set diagramming technique, Venn diagrams. Unlike Venn diagrams, which show all possible relations between different sets, the Euler diagram shows only relevant relationships…”
I need to know the scientific name for the small body of air captured under the covers while you sleep. That lovely, warm air probably contains all sorts of interesting molecules you generate or sweat or exude while you're in bed.
For the methods section of a grant (potentially); "we will use a Gilian 800i remote air sampling device drawing air through 4 feet of 3 mil silicone tubing and a MilliporeSigma™ Supelco™
54278U SPE solid phase column. Samples of {INSERT THIS TERM HERE} will be drawn at intervals of two hours with column replacement between each sample."
Because I want to know what molecules exactly my lovely partner/wife/whoever you sleep with is filling that space with so that they are so snuggly first thing in the morning.
@mycotropic
I know nothing about the sampling technologies you mention, but don’t you have to take into account dietary variables and seasonal variations in bedding materials? Are those considered part of the longitudinal scope of the investigation?
I'm going to his place on Friday for the #weekend. ☺️ 😌 I was single for four years and there's definitely something special about this #relationship. #news#today#happy