Lemlems

Lemlems, 10 months ago to random

Wondering if it’s a common #ActuallyAutistic experience or just a problem I have? How to get an allistic person to stop arguing something with me when it’s clear we’re not going to reach a consensus?

I’ve learned to not use the phrase “agree to disagree” as this gets interpreted as “I’m right, you’re wrong” (?!). But the whole concept of “since it seems impossible for us to reach a consensus on this point why don’t we stop wasting time talking about it” seems to just not land.

static, 10 months ago to discworld

I'm about half-way through my re-read of all of Terry Pratchett's #Discworld novels. Tonight, I finished "Jingo".

Terry seemed to have realized by "Jingo" that Watch Novels need to be something other than 'someone tried to off Vetinari'. This one is quite different and yet... still very familiar because the Watch have little choice but to remain true to their characters. "Jingo" is also probably the point there you realize Terry has not only gotten serious with his social commentary, but is not going to give up on social commentary, either. It is a master story-teller (still) at the top of his game. The whole novel is marvellously coherent and well-paced.

It might also be the first novel where the Turnaround is so very blatantly obvious. This is the point where Vimes realizes a fact that completely changes him from reacting to events to responding to events. You can almost hear all those Discworld fans cheering at the very moment Vimes does this shift. And what's even more delicious is that it is as a result of something very small and subtle that Vetinari does for Sam.

Ah... Vetinari. We see a lot of Vetinari in this novel, and it is words well spent. Very well spent, in fact. Little new is really provided, of course, but that's not the point. We see the man simply being himself, gently manipulating people and situations so that Ankh-Morpork doesn't lose. And that also means doesn't fight a war against a foe that would wipe the floor with it. It is also subtly impressive that we also encounter someone who is not afraid of Vetinari like most of the city is: famous inventor Leonard of Quirm.

"Jingo" is normally regarded as a Watch Novel. But by this point, Watch Novels have become Vimes Novels. It also oddly struggles to shine in the shadow of "Hogfather" and the next half-dozen novels. Quite a problem to have! But still an excellent novel.

Lemlems, 10 months ago to citiesskylines

#CitiesSkylines YouTube has given me the impression that there’s some manner of comedy feud between civil engineers/planners and architects.

Anyone out there work in these fields who can confirm or deny? If this is a real thing, I feel like I need to know all about it. Is it like “protractors at dawn, you cad!”?

ashleyspencer, 10 months ago to actuallyautistic

I made these graphics about stimming. :RedHearts: :RainbowInfinity:

#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

Clothing Stims: Zipping and unzipping the zippers on hoodies and jackets. Biting or chewing on sleeves, hoodie strings, Adjusting shirts, pants, jackets, etc. Pulling on sleeves or putting them over your hands.
Food & Drink Stims: Enjoying the sensory feeling of eating or drinking. Taste of food or drink as a stim. Motions of eating or drinking as a comforting stim. Consuming one type of food or drink the most (sweet, salty, spicy).
Other Stims: Scrolling phone or tablet. Typing on computers. Playing computer or mobile games. Singing. Talking to yourself. And many more…

Lemlems, 10 months ago to totk

Finished getting my 120 lightroots and filling all my battery slots today. Absurdly pleased with myself.

Next targets are completing the remaining shrines and finding more sage’s wills (I’m thinking I’m going to be cheating on that one - I’ve explored nearly all of all three maps and have only found 4 so far so I’m obviously just not getting it with those).

#TOTK #TearsOfTheKingdom

Lemlems, 10 months ago to random

I can’t stress enough the impact that teachers’ characterisations of me, as an undiagnosed #AuDHD girl, had on me -well into adulthood.

The junior school teacher who called me “a wonderful butterfly”, the secondary school maths teacher who just rolled with basically everything I said & did (because he only cared that i was good at maths) and the 6th form teacher who told me I was “highly intelligent but emotionally stunted” - all affected my self image & self-worth hugely, in different ways.

Lemlems, 10 months ago to ADHD

Saw something about dating/relationships for #Autistic / #ADHD / #AuDHD people & it got me thinking.

Do we have our own dating site/app? If not, why not?

We often face barriers when it comes to the kind of F2F scenarios where couples tend to meet, we have a higher % chance to have crossover with someone in terms of relationship needs & communication style if they’re also ND & we’re more likely to be direct/honest & not waste people’s time.

And no one would fake their hobbies/interests info 😊

Lemlems, 11 months ago to random

Interesting (and a bit depressing) article about the children of influencer parents.

A great opportunity for a reminder that children are people and an age-appropriate level of autonomy and respect for consent is essential to their wellbeing.

Children do need their grown ups to limit their choices - so that they don’t live solely on coco pops and don’t stick forks in electrical outlets - but that doesn’t make them property.

https://www.teenvogue.com/story/influencer-parents-children-social-media-impact

Lemlems, 11 months ago to random

I’m finally #instance shopping so I’m hoping some of you lovely people will have some recommendations.

I only look at my home feed so it doesn’t really matter to me what interest or group the instance focuses on - but an ND run or friendly instance would be good.

My main requirements in an instance are:

Big/supported enough that it has decent odds of being sustainable

Well moderated - squashes misogynistic, racist, ableist, transphobic, homophobic etc nonsense & has clear moderation rules.

Lemlems, 11 months ago to random

Abled people

If you (in your role as a private person) ever feel the urge to start saying/typing words along the lines of “but why should I have to make a minor change to what I do just to include disabled people?” allow me to save you the bother by answering that question:

You don’t have to. It’s a request, not an order.

If your convenience is more important to you than inclusion then by all means you can just carry on as you were. Entirely up to you, that is your right. We all know this.

KaraLG84, 11 months ago to random

Clapping hands emojis between each word of a post: can we not do this please? And this is me being nice.
Imagine listening to a post with the words "clapping hands" or e.g. "clapping hands with light skin tone" inserted between each word. That's what it's like when you use a screen reader and come across something like that.
So it'd be like this:
it clapping hands with light skin tone is clapping hands with light skin tone very clapping hands with light skin tone annoying.

GossiTheDog, 11 months ago to Starfield

The funniest part of #Starfield reveal this week has been loads of Star Citizen fans declaring they won’t play Starfield and pledging “loyalty” to Star Citizen.

I don’t think video games buy you horses, my dudes. (And yes, they’re all dudes).

Lemlems, 11 months ago to random

I love (and I mean LOVE) both #BOTW & #TOTK

But I wish they didn’t hide stuff so well. I don’t want to be led around - a big part of these games is rewarding the player for exploring & being inquisitive.

But when I finally cave & Google a solution because I’ve done all the side quests in x area but event y hasn’t triggered, only to find it’s because I needed to find an NPCs again because they have a secret 2nd quest or do the thing I’ve been trying but at a different time of day… frustrating.

gedeonm, 11 months ago to random

Who stores a single arrow or apple inside a giant-ass crate? Who does that anyway? 😂

Speaking of crates what’s your preferred method of breaking them open? Dropping them from high up with Ultrahand? Using up some low-level melee weapon? Something else? #Zelda #TearsOfTheKingdom

inherentlee, 11 months ago to random

trying to avoid losing this weekend to depression haze, wish me luck ✌🏻

tashasounart, 1 year ago to random

Always thinking about ToTK
#comics #ToTK

aeva, 1 year ago to random

my finest creation #TotK

eonity, 1 year ago to actuallyautistic

Anyway, my sleep schedule is completely screwed up again. Woke up at 3PM+ yesterday, and haven’t slept since (it’s now 7AM here where I live).

I wonder if sleep schedule issues are something that other #ActuallyAutistic people face as well?

@actuallyautistic

Akzel, 1 year ago to random

~5 days into #TearsOfTheKingdom and I only just unlocked the Autobuild ability

how did i live without this for so long

Lemlems, 1 year ago to random

I’m v curious about the mental process people go through when they go to post that they don’t like a thing that others are excited about & enjoying (absolutely fine, people like different things), but then decide to hashtag it or post it in a sub that’s specifically about that thing.

“I dislike this thing that others love. It’s not enough for me that my followers know that though. It is important to me that all the fans of the thing (ie the main ones following the hashtag/sub) know it too”