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At what age and how do you tell children about the truth of Christmas?

I’m writing this as someone who has mostly lived in the US and Canada. Personally, I find the whole “lying to children about Christmas” thing just a bit weird (no judgment on those who enjoy this aspect of the holiday). But because it’s completely normalized in our culture, this is something many people have to deal...

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We had a wood stove hooked up to our chimney. 😬

OC What alternatives and strategies do you personally use to live more ethically in an unethical system?

While it’s impossible to be perfect on our own, when we’re in alliance and doing our best where we can, we can work together to reduce the damage of unethical systems and pressure companies to adopt more ethical practices. So this is a thread to bring those ideas together. What works for you to live more ethically?...

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Oooh - I like the idea of informing the businesses you’re doing this. I don’t do that unless I’m reminded to, so I’ll add it to my personal checklist.

Do you have any sources of information you regularly consult to help avoid supporting the war on Ukraine, or places that help you find alternatives? I’d definitely like to be more active in this area.

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I’ve actually got quite a bit of these sort of recommendations that I think I’m going to compile into something easier to navigate based on what you don’t want to support - but feel free to share a link to this comment in the meantime!

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Ughhhh really? That’s a bummer. :(

Well, at least it’s less money. Thank you for the heads up :) Honestly, I’d give up shaving if I could stand it, but I’ve tried and can’t stand the physical feeling of hairy legs.

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Mars Attacks when I was 6. My parents had the brilliant idea to take me to see it at a drive-in, so larger than life screen, and it was the second film, so I think they probably figured I’d fall asleep and they could stay and watch. Nope. Pretty sure I didn’t sleep for weeks.

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Hell, I’d do it just because I like sharing information and helping others out. Plus it’s a big project with a sense of accomplishment.

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I deleted mine too. The time feels right. :)

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No idea. Give it a try and report back? It’s easy to use, shouldn’t take too long to find out :)

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Welcome! I’m also on kbin.social and have been here a few weeks, so if you’re curious or confused about anything I’m more than happy to help. It doesn’t take long to get the hang of things here, you’ll be at home in no time. :)

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Raised Catholic, not my jam. But as I understand it, if you go to confession without being truly sorry and having a sincere intent not to sin again, it doesn’t work. So if you’re going in with the attitude that confession is basically insurance against hell and you can just use it to get everything fixed up at the end of your life, but you’re also knowingly neglecting your soul and have the intention deep inside to be a jerk and keep sinning, God’s gonna be like “sorry, we don’t cover that” and deny your claim.

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I do handwritten notes for anything fast paced where I also have to respond in real time, because handwriting is a less mentally demanding task for me to explain or capture a concept than typing. I can star, I can draw, I can make up any word I want without squiggly lines, lists are instantaneous. I do design work, and noting a design change through typing is a nightmare when I can just squiggle the layout and put an arrow, cross out, annotate, whatever. I also find I remember handwritten notes better. The notes are a incoherent, illegible, squiggly mess, and I usually know exactly what they mean at a glance.

I actually have a reMarkable and love it. I don’t really use the notes to text or cloud functionality often, but the few times I have, it’s been really helpful. I like it better than a notebook because I don’t feel like I’m wasting paper, so I take notes a bit more freely as a result. It’s also helpful in situations where it’s impractical for me to use a keyboard. For example, I teach, and when I’m grading a presentation or explaining a concept to a student who already has their own laptop in front of them, I don’t want to muck with trying to make sure they can see my screen and it’s the proper size when it’s faster for me to sketch out the concept.

I’m also trying to learn Japanese, and having a way to freely practice writing as many times as I need to without having to print over and over again is really useful.

That said, I can’t think of a reason I would ever write anything with actual grammar or sentence structure involved longform. If it’s just me and the computer, no other interruptions and I can focus on my inner voice, typing is much faster and more natural. I’m able to type closer to the speed I can think than I can write, but that’s because I’m used to typing like I think - in full sentences. Trying to type shorthand is like sludge for me the same way trying to write longhand is like sludge. I use both because they serve different purposes for me :)

How am I supposed to make sense of my life getting BETTER during the pandemic? Anyone else have that experience?

Basically for most of my adult life I've struggled to have a life that I truly wanted. Not comparing myself to anyone else, but going from job that let me go to job that let me go. Not making ends meet. I never felt "normal." I always felt like an anomaly....

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I could have written this post, right down to the social anxiety. I can’t imagine going back to my old “normal”.

Need help learning how to read books again

I used to be an avid reader, but years of high school and depression completely ruined that. I haven’t been able to complete a novel since senior year six years ago. It’s frustrating to me and I want to know how I can overcome my lack of focus and anxiety. I’ve heard I’m not alone when it comes to this sort of thing at...

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Honestly, I thought it was a focus problem for me, but what it turned out to be is that now that I’m older, I can’t tolerate shitty books, and it turns out there is a lot of junk material out there. When I get the right book, I read it no problem and turn pages just like I used to. If it’s not a good book, I’ll abandon it pretty quickly. And with eBooks, that’s a whole different level of stuff to pick from than I ever had as a kid. My reading material at that time always had some sense of curation to it - a librarian or my parents had to think it was a good enough book to buy. Now, we’re our own librarians. I think that’s why it feels so much more difficult to pick something up, and it only multiplies as we become adults and other things are vying for the time it takes to find a book.

I find I read best when I’m on vacation, camping, or when I’ve set aside time and a quiet place to do so. I like to make tea so I feel extra cozy, and it helps get me in the right mindset. To work through the challenge of finding a book, you could go to a physical library - everything is free, it’s a smaller selection, you don’t have to charge any batteries or anything - or if you’re lazy like me, see if your library offers eBooks through something like Libby. I use a combination of Libby and Goodreads to find new books.

And if after a chapter or two, you can’t get into it? Turn it back in and try again. It’s okay to put a book back. Not all books are good and there’s no reason to force yourself through something that isn’t clicking for you.

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Mid-30s web designer equally versed in design and frontend development, quiet in conversation but loud in spirit and fashion choices. Hobbies are whatever I need and whatever I can get my hands on - today it’s woodworking and construction due to a burst pipe, last year it was cooking and zero waste living plus grad school, with dashes of IndieWeb, gardening, hydroponics, and plenty of internet in between. I don’t work too many hours in the traditional sense, but I do keep myself constantly busy - full time job, side gig, fixing all the things. I am often asked if I sleep. The answer is yes! I love naps, I usually take at least one a day.

tldr: neon chaotic hobby napper here, nice to meet you.

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Exactly what I was looking for - thank you!!!

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Just gave that a try and no luck, but I appreciate the suggestion! I think Ernest mentioned that he’d set up the bones for federation before heading to bed, so my guess is just that this is something that will be coming soon but maybe doesn’t work quite yet. No big, I’ll just set a reminder to check in a week or two 😁

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I’m super jealous! I can never get my bread to look this good 😍

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Webmentions! I’m trying to get this working on my site as well. When you do it right, you can even reply back directly from your own site. It’s pretty wild.

Lemmy.ml and beehaw.org getting hammered with traffic because of spez ama

Both were down for me before, they seem to be up right now but just made this account on Lemmy.blahaj.zone (Henry is the name of my actual blahaj lol). It's probably because of the traffic influx from reddit refugees from the absolutely disastrous spez ama (where he doubles down on everything and doesn't apologize at all)....

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Welcome to kbin! I’ve been here about a week and the community and content is great. I hope you like it too, great choice!

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Ahhh, excellent. Let’s see if I can find my community here. Guess away.

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Boston area! I’m a fan, folks are nice around here and it’s a good blend of city living while still being able to access nature. Folks are mostly liberal, which is great. Originally from the Midwestern US.

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Love Collective Soul and Rage Against the Machine. I’ve got a few:

  • Big Data - 3.0. Great story exploring AI ethics before it was hype.
  • Panic! At the Disco - A Fever You Can’t Sweat Out. I wish I got the alternate timeline where the band continued this direction rather than going for pop. So much chaotic good energy.
  • The Donnas - Spend the Night. This one is just plain fun.
  • The Beatles - Let it Be. Two of Us is my favorite on this one, but every song can stand up on its own.
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14 miles for me during a vacation to either New York City or London - I can’t remember which one broke the record. I usually do at least one full day of exploring on foot every time I go to a city. I’m usually completely destroyed the next day because I don’t normally run or walk long distances, but it’s so worth it.

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I gave it a good, genuine try after they killed Alien Blue, because surely they bought that app to do something useful with it, right? Nope. Absolute garbage, and I begrudgingly made the switch to Apollo. Reddit is my last non-Fediverse based social media site and the only thing keeping me on it was the content and excellent app interface - the minute Apollo stops working, Reddit is dead to me. I’d rather post into the abyss than use the official app or website.

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