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farah, to Autism
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I’ve been reading about “stimming in autism”, which up until now was very confusing to me mostly because that’s the one point kept being repeated in the community being a must for an autistic individual. And I can’t relate to that at all.

Then I came across something that describes the purpose of ‘stimming’ is to deal with extra energy. Then it kinda hit me, I’ve never had the need to stim because I’m a low energy person in general.

I get overwhelmed with activities when they involve raising heart rates (yes, THAT too). I like quiet things, dead of night etc. Once at a time in my life, I was pretty sure I could hear flow of electricity.

So my question to the community: do you think stimming is a must for autistic people? Do you relate to it? Anyone know of any low energy stimming that gets overlooked?

Thanks! Much love!! 💕 @actuallyautistic

arisummerland,
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@farah @actuallyautistic It's definitely a spectrum, not to over-use that word.

I tend to be more of a low- energy/exhausted individual as well, and I can usually hear sounds that other people can't hear (that are actually happening, not just in my head).

My few stims are subtle, unless I am on overwhelm. Then, they tend to be harmful, so I work really hard to suppress them.

I remember asking other kids in middle school if they could see the different color of fluorescent lights and that they were flickering. I wish someone had known then that I was neurodivergent. Though neither the school nor my parents would have known what to do with that information!

arisummerland,
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@farah @actuallyautistic YES! And the SOUNDS they make. Ughhh!

arisummerland, to H5N1
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Y'all will find this... interesting.

I was helping a farmer friend today get her car up to her mechanic's place, which is about 10 miles out of town.

On the drive back, she took a call from someone who was looking for raw cow's milk.

She's only on Facebook as far as social media goes, so she hasn't seen any of the news stories about people seeking out raw milk in order to try to infect themselves with to "gain immunity" from it.

She was gobsmacked!

I was trying SO hard not to laugh while she took the call.

I told her that I've seen a number of news stories about people doing exactly this. I said what scares me the most is, the mortality rate is over 50%. One in two people! Why would anyone think this is an acceptable risk?

She appreciated the information I gave her and said that she would adjust her response when she received more calls.

Apparently she's received a lot of calls recently.

She's not even a dairy farmer!

I know 100+ years ago when we didn't have , , or , exposing yourself to pathogens was one way to possibly gain immunity from whatever was going around.

But thousands upon thousands of people were sickened and died from things that we can now prevent or treat with drugs, , , , and vaccines. It wasn't all bread and roses in pre-modern America. Our average life expectancy was almost half what if is today.

"Natural" is not inherently superior. Immunity debt is fucking bullshit. Exposing yourself willingly to a deadly pathogen does not increase your chances of living longer or being healthier afterwards. If someone did this to their kids? It would be flat out child abuse.

Yet, I always forget that most of the population doesn't read a book after they leave school, doesn't believe in science, and thinks if something is on the internet, it must be true.

Even and especially, people in my profession and allied professions believe the wackiest ideas about how the the human body works that are simply not true.

I'm pretty tired of the stupidity of other humans at this point. Go ahead. Drink the raw milk. Take yourself out of the gene pool. I know I can't do anything about it once you've made up your mind to do something so risky and stupid. SMH

arisummerland,
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@mentallyalex This absolutely is what's going to happen. This kind of idol worship and health supremacism is rampant in the natural health and wellness community. 🙄

arisummerland, to random
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Looking at the oils in the new bug spray base I got:

Hmmm. Contains patchouli. That'll be good for repelling both bugs AND people!

arisummerland,
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@mentallyalex 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 thank you for the advice!

I ever meet Matthew McConaughey, I'm gonna ask him why he plays the same character in like 17 different movies: a surf bum down on his luck.

arisummerland,
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@mentallyalex Now I'm super curious! I imagine he gives good hugs as well.

arisummerland,
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@mentallyalex I do have friends in Austin, but I haven't been for a number of years because pandemic. I may have to go on a McConaughey reconnaissance mission!

arisummerland,
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@cynblogger I'll take it!

I tend to think of patchouli as more of a 1980s thing, but I was a little kid in the 70s and wasn't around a whole lot of people who wore it. My college boyfriend wore it. I swear all of his stuff still smelled like it 10 years later!

the_etrain, to random
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Being a man of deep faith, when faced with a dilemma, I stop and ask myself "what would Jack LaLanne do?"

arisummerland,
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@the_etrain He would belt up those high-waist exercise pants and make a video! Smiling the whole time.

RickiTarr, to random
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Sometimes the way people phrase things is so telling. For instance, telling women they should be "taking care of" their husband and children. Another adult doesn't need taken care of like a child, what you want is for women to be a Sex Mom.

arisummerland,
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@farah @RickiTarr I once watched a (former) friend pretend that he didn't know how to fold tee shirts. He simpered and whined as he was sitting there in the living room trying to put the rest of his laundry in order, until his wife came over and started folding all of his tee shirts for him. I don't know why they bonded over learned helplessness like that. It was gross. It was also an incredibly weird thing to do while a friend (me) was visiting, but he was a weird person.

arisummerland, to random
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Legit, harpsichords do have basically only one volume: LOUD.

ottaross, to random
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Should I be expecting the Spanish Inquisition?

arisummerland,
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@ottaross I don't see any comfy chairs in there...

RickiTarr, to random
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Would half chicken half ducks be called Chucks or Dickens?

arisummerland,
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@RickiTarr Chucks! And they'd be so awkward and gangly, these birds.

RickiTarr, to random
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What is your dream road trip? Where would you start? Where would you end up? What stops would you make along the way? It can be short or long, whatever interests you!

arisummerland,
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@RickiTarr @isotope239 Me too!

Alice, to random
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Throwback to the start of the pandemic when we were all going crazy in lockdown and I ordered a gigantic poster of my husband and our cat.

arisummerland,
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@Alice Alice, this is magical AF. i'm glad you have documentation of it!

RickiTarr, to random
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What is the thing(s) that attracts you to a person romantically or otherwise?

arisummerland,
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@RickiTarr For me, apparently it's unmasked neurodivergence.

But nowadays I seek only friends, not romance. Been working to unlearn all the cishet patriarchal BS about "love" that was force-fed to me by the world.

It's a helluva task.

Ilovechai, to actuallyaudhd
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I don't have the spoons to explain why I feel my neurodivergence is making this worse, but I need feedback or insight from other ND people on a unique experience. This will be a long thread (added in replies) but I'm hopeful there will be a few kind readers who either relate or have something supportive to share.
Here goes:
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@actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd


arisummerland,
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@Ilovechai @actuallyautistic @actuallyaudhd

I don't go on discord much, but yes. There is this group:

RickiTarr, to random
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Okay, since I'm on laundry today, a little story.

When hubs and I first got married, we were very much enjoying our little Honeymoon Bubble, and we were being lazy as Hell. We didn't do many chores, but the laundry we really let go. We weren't wearing many clothes at home anyway, so why bother. Anyhow, after weeks we finally reached the swimming suit bottoms situation, and decided it was time. It was loads and loads of laundry that needed done, so I had my husband back the trunk of the car up to a window of the house, then he popped the trunk, and I started tossing laundry out of the window into the trunk. We went to the bank, got about $30 bucks in quarters, and found the emptiest laundry mat we could, and did it all in one fell swoop. We folded it all and loaded it back into the car using those wheeled laundry carts. We never let it get that bad again, and decided it was time to be adults, and do regular chores, but it still makes me laugh imagining what the neighbors and the laundry attendant thought.

Feel free to share your own laundry story, if you feel like it, I love hearing people's stories!

arisummerland,
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@RickiTarr I'm a massage therapist, so daily laundry is essential. I hate to let the massage sheets sit; they can get funky because of the small amount of oil content in the lotion I use.

I won't go to laundromat because I prefer to know what was in the washer before I put my clothes or my work sheets in. I fear picking up nasties going to a public laundromat. I've also had laundromat dryers burn flannel massage sheets!

Earlier this year, some small but expensive part went out on my washer at home. I was unable to do laundry for two whole weeks. I ran through every set of massage sheets I have and almost all of my clothing. It was a particular level of hell.

I ended up squeezing in a few essential loads at my mother's house, 5 miles across town, but her dryer wasn't working, so I hauled semi-dried, spun laundry back to my house to dry. Between us, we had one working set of laundry machines.

It was very clear to me that month that having laundry facilities at home really is a privilege -- and a joy.

I actually like doing laundry and having things fairly well-organized (especially for my work environment). Even folding fitted sheets is fun for me!

arisummerland,
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@RickiTarr Oh, I did too. When I lived in the mountains in an old hunting a shack, luckily I worked at a place that provided work sheets, so I didn't have to do very much work laundry. But I did a weekly haul of personal laundry over to Nederland or down to Boulder and just sat there reading books. Strangely, it really felt like a simpler time.

arisummerland,
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@RickiTarr Here's another one, not very cheerful, though: after my dad passed, I realized what a terrible laundry situation he had actually been in. He always held a lot of his cards close to his chest, and never really told me about his major troubles, even though I moved back home specifically to help him have an easier life.

He was living with an absurdly old washing machine, and occasionally he would slip up and hint at what he had to do to keep it going. He had these little rituals of jiggling the knob and turning it off and on again to try to get an entire laundry cycle done. I don't know why he refused to replace the washer.

When we were cleaning out his house, I found a small, sad load of five sets of boxer shorts, nothing more, plastered to the inside of the washing machine, dried, but clean.

I also found an entire tub of old tee shirts and jeans that he had basically abandoned because he couldn't wash large loads at all, only the essentials. I brought these home and had to run them two or three times through the washer before giving them away to Goodwill or keeping them for painting rags.

arisummerland, to Kansas
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I just went out back and took a photo and I'm pretending that the sky is just a tiny bit purple there toward the bottom. 🤣☹️

arisummerland,
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@Alice How did you do that? Amazing. ❤️

arisummerland,
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@Alice Everyone say "ionized molecular nitrogen" ten times fast!

arisummerland,
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@Alice I will send her the photo and see if she is still up! She's about 5 miles south.

RickiTarr, to random
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You are going to make love to a Cereal Mascot, who do you choose?

I'm going Snap, Crackle, & Pop.

arisummerland,
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@RickiTarr The frikken lucky charms guy. Redhead on redhead. Gotta be awesome.

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