Feels like a good week to tell every non-binary person in the #Fediverse how amazing you are, and remind everyone here that non-binary identities are stunning, beautiful, individual, deep and go so far beyond the 'enby' or 'NB' stereotypes you may not believe unless you're talking with them to understand ... :heart_nb:
Well you're adored, amazing, you've taught me over the years and are still teaching me new things about gender ... including off-grid outside the binary. Plus you take personal authenticity to the very very max. Do I sound a fan? Well yes, cannot deny how much I think you all rock ... :flag_nonbinary: :butterfly_nonbinary:
@Natasha_Jay don’t get me wrong, I much appreciate the sentiment & the support.
But NGL, the first thought I had at seeing this graphic is, “why can’t there ever be a depiction of a beautiful, happy, middle-aged non-binary person?”
I was 40 when I came out, because, tho I’ve known since I was 6, I never had the words to express it.
It’s fucking hard to learn to be comfortably in my own body as an almost 50yo agender person when “youthful” is always part of the depiction 😔
@Natasha_Jay Absolutely delightful post. Thank you for making it.
Much love 💛🤍💜🖤 from an Aussie agender person with a family, who's still trying to get people outside of their immediate family to understand what "agender" or "non-binary" even means.
@Natasha_Jay To people I'm out to I've been telling them that I'm a trans woman, and while that's not inaccurate, it's also not accurate. I'm more demi-girl or as I like to put it girl... mostly, but other stuff too, and sometimes it floats around to different things.
@Natasha_Jay I think pointing out that non-binary people are just normal people would be way more useful and reasonable than pointlessly make them look special and good just because of a characteristic they have.
@ciram Totally! Sadly until we view 'binary' as repressive and even the phrase 'non-binary' as counter-reactionary language ... it's the phrases we have today 🤷♀️
For me we all "do" gender in our own way - or should feel free to - and see gendered language as broad-brush, full of holes, stereotypes and grey areas
@thatfrisiangirlish Strange, I had your gender down as "higher than Everest, deeper than the Mariana trench, with a few degrees of extra-dimensionality for good measure" 💖 💜 😉
@Natasha_Jay Being non biney is liberating to many especially those who have suffered a lot under the hand of crushing expectations of gender stereotyping, it can really screw with ppl
so saying "ya know what - I don't HAVE to be anything! I am me, I don't have to stick to any labels" is an emotionally healthy way to process the guilt-tripping we receive from some people
@LukaLoginska
I think many of us agree. The concept of binary gender is a huge societally imposed and nonsensical stereotype when you unpack and look at it dispassionately and at its various levels. But nonbinary folk get that, or reach that level of understanding
@Natasha_Jay@LukaLoginska Female and male genders each have their own strengths, so a mix of the two is a win/win in terms of personality and understanding. In the present patriarch dominated world it would benefit everyone if more males were in touch with their femininity.
@bobjmsn@LukaLoginska
And then for some 💎s neither male/masc and female/fem really get even close to covering it. Realms of gender experienced in colour, light, shape and other analogies 😍 :heart_nb: :heart_gq:
@Natasha_Jay@LukaLoginska Live to enjoy every colour in your rainbow and every quirk in your personality. Only you are you so enjoy and amplify every talent your personality gifts you with.
@Natasha_Jay@LukaLoginska I grew up in the Shetland Islands where gender was considered binary when I was young. Recently we sold our home to friends whom we look on as family, a transgender woman and her partner. They tell us the community has been welcoming and helpful, which makes me hopeful for the future of my former home. Familiarity breeds acceptance and better people.
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