I love the selfies and the being ourselves, but it’s important we also use #TDOV to talk about the cost of visibility. Nex Benedict was visibly trans and he was bullied to death. Visibility is why we’re targets now.
Let this be the year we push these haters back. #VforVengeance
btw, if you had problems with the promo code earlier, sorry, their distributor sold out. but now it's back in stock & the promo code will work until April 15th! #TDoV#TDOV2024#trans#transgender#LGBTQ#feminism#books
Some (mostly cisgender) folks have expressed surprise that I identify as #trans, but being #nonbinary IS transgender. We are not part of the cisgender binary, therefore we exist in a state of transition. Not everyone who identifies as nonbinary identifies as transgender and that's fine, but to me the two are inherently linked. This does not mean I'm changing into something new, or rather in a sense I always am.
for #TDoV 2024 I'd like to give away 3 $40 gift certificates to the shop ( https://nora.jewelry/ ) to trans people who would like to wear jewelry but who can't buy it for themselves for whatever reason. if you'd like one, drop an email to noradotjewelry@gmail.com. you don't need to detail your situation, but if you're outside the US lmk and i'll add a little extra to cover shipping. i will post a follow up to this once they're all claimed.
Wishing a very happy Trans Day of Visibility to all my trans & GNC friends & family, as well as to my family and friends with trans & GNC folks in their lives. Solidarity!
TRANS FEM FRIENDS: What do you wish you could say to the person you were before transition who thought it was impossible to ever actually be a girl or be fem?
I sometimes think back and find myself at a loss at what would have supported that girl best. She was so sad, hopeless, and often dissociated or in fight/flight/freeze/fawn over her distress with how she felt like she couldn't fit in the world. And like, I know "it gets better" or "it really is possible" wouldn't have gotten through.
I talk to a lot of young trans folks who go through this still every day, and so would appreciate others thoughts on this!
@JoscelynTransient Me now to that scared 21-year-old me huddled in her dorm room bed:
“You know you need to be strong to get through this. You are much stronger than you know.
I know you’re hurting. I know you’re scared. I know right now, this feels like a death sentence. It’s the opposite. It’s life; it’s your life, the one calling for you, the one denied you all this time. And, once you’re ready… on the other side of that, to finally live? It is GLORIOUS.
It won’t be easy. You’re going to have to fight for the woman you’re going to become. But it’s worth it. She’s worth it. You’re worth it.”
I don't show 'myself' online much anymore, may be said I'm still not, this pic is from before the pandemic.
Alas, but it is Transgender day of Visibility - and Easter. (nope, not awkward at all..)
Eh, time to resurrect a little of me back to the net maybe.. 🤭
I live in an odd crux of the transgender complex you really don't hear a lot about.
I don't feel like a success in this, and I never will most likely. I fought the insurance providers and the hospitals themselves for years and years..
Goal posts kept getting moved, animosity kept growing, so I fought. I did not comply.
Public insurance at the end of things would only allow me into a christian hospital system with no trans program of their own - and I walked away from all primary care.
That was about five years ago now..
On the other side of the coin - it means little to nothing..
I am who I've always been within this thing. HRT didn't define me, it was a tool to reach an objective.
I love the things I love, and you all get to see them.
it gets lonely here, especially being so rural there's a vast detachment from the community these days, at least physically.
So in a lot of ways I've been very thankful for the Fediverse, Mastodon, Pixelfed, etc.
At least I get to feel close to you all for a spell..
Happy #tdov Trans Day of Visibility, everyone! Spent yesterday cruising through NYC with @JoscelynTransient ; we eventually found this nice little bar and had ourselves a drink.
Be well, everyone, be visible if it’s safe, and have a good day!
And, in a quiet moment, say the names for those who can’t be visible anymore.
wanna give a trans gal a nice gift on trans day of visibility? do you enjoy the work i've done with FediPact? the rad instance i've set up? the cool clothes i DIY together? my pirate radio station, vantaradio? my awesome videos? my amazing selfies? my posting generally?
well i'm unemployed, job searching, was recently kicked out of the place i'd been staying for years, and am surviving solely off donations for the moment so if you wanna support me anything helps me keep being able to do all those cool thingies!!!