Julian_Invictus, to advice
@Julian_Invictus@pagan.plus avatar

Someone asked me recently about the ability to "Read the Room" and whether or not this was a skill that can be developed. I certainly believe it is a skill and can be cultivated. Perhaps the most impactful maxim which can guide us in this regard was taught to me by a Jedi Knight who went by the name Zenchi from the Temple of the Jedi Order. He told me, "Learn to Observe without needing to React."

The Internet, particularly the social media algorithm demon, has created an incentive not just to React to everything, but to Observe specifically to React. In this way we often bias our interpretation of that which we observe with a skew towards the least charitable interpretation so that our reaction can be as extreme as possible.

To counteract this and hone this skill of reading the room, we can practice several behaviors that will improve our lives.

First, be the last person to speak in an interaction. When you allow everyone else to have their say, it gives you a chance to examine their perspectives and gauge their intentions.

Second, questions are better than statements. The cultivation of curiosity leads to more robust conversations. A statement can often be viewed as dismissive or ultimate in nature, sometimes leaving a conversation partner feeling as though there's nothing left to say. Curiosity, by contrast, is almost always viewed as an invitation to continue discourse.

Third, speak in a way that is pleasant. We've been taught to rely on flippancy and sarcasm in modern discourse as we assume the intentions of others or deliberately misconstrue them to make ourselves look superior. By engaging with someone in a pleasant way, we can disarm hostility. Even if others fail to uphold this standard, we will still maintain our own peace which is of a value beyond measure.

Beldarak,
@Beldarak@mastodon.gamedev.place avatar

@Julian_Invictus

Those are great advices. I'd add that sadly, you probably also have to identify and avoid those platforms that actively encourage hostility.

But if you're on Mastodon, you probably did that already :D

I read different news site and I noticed that the editorial line actually push towards or away from hostility. The more clickbait it is, the more agitated the comment section will be.

erlend, to ruby
@erlend@writing.exchange avatar

Any dev out there willing to do a simple plugin for ?

A handful of indie devs are pitching in with working examples of FedCM, an important new identity standard with direct implications for the : https://wrily.foad.me.uk/sign-in-with-big-tech-only-or-sign-in-with-whom-i-prefer

The developer of LastLogin.io has implemented FedCM on his end, but he needs the help of a Discourse plugin developer to test the complete login pipeline with his own community forum.

cc @Discourse

goto,

@thisismissem @angusmcleod neat! anything i can do to help?

thisismissem,
@thisismissem@hachyderm.io avatar

@goto @angusmcleod not right now 🙂

goinfawr, to movies
@goinfawr@mstdn.social avatar

The short rules of civil discourse:

"Listen. Think. Respond."

Donald Sutherland in "A Pirate's Passage."


kuketzblog, to forum German
@kuketzblog@social.tchncs.de avatar

Liebe Leserinnen und Leser. Mich erreichen viele Anfragen. Ich freue mich über das Interesse, gleichzeitig kann und werde ich nur einen Bruchteil der Fragen beantworten können. Es ist einfach eine Frage der Zeit. Ich würde mich daher freuen, wenn ihr eure Fragen über das Kuketz-Forum stellt. Dort gibt es kompetente Teilnehmer, die euch in den meisten Fällen weiterhelfen können. 👇 💬

#forum #discourse #diskussion #fragen #hilfe #help #austausch

https://www.kuketz-forum.de/

mcdanlj, to random
@mcdanlj@social.makerforums.info avatar

I'm happy to see three sites I maintain on the new Discourse Discover page:

https://discover.discourse.org/

Want your Discourse community to join the list and help bring in new community members? There's a link at the bottom of the sidebar documenting how to join the party.

diggdotcom, to iPad
@diggdotcom@mastodon.social avatar

Marques Brownlee Completely Wrecks Apple's New iPad Lineup

"Taking advantage of all of this power is nearly impossible," Brownlee lamented. All that power and thinness isn't good for much if the old M1 iPad can mostly deliver the same experience for normies.

https://digg.com/digg-vids/link/ipad-pro-air-m4-apple-disappointing-video?utm_source=mastodon

milan, to random German
@milan@social.tchncs.de avatar

hm. if i see correctly the docker image does not only just update all the gems, it also pulls discourse from the default (main) branch which does not look like a release branch ... well isn't that fun ... it also does not care about the ruby version defined in the discourse repo, which only is a .ruby-version.sample file using older ruby lol

ttpphd, to linguistics
@ttpphd@mastodon.social avatar

Speech Acts
Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy

"Recognition of the significance of speech acts has illuminated the ability of language to do other things than describe reality. In the process the boundaries among the philosophy of language, the philosophy of action, aesthetics, the philosophy of mind, political philosophy, and ethics have become less sharp. "

https://plato.stanford.edu/archives/win2017/entries/speech-acts/

ttpphd, to philosophy
@ttpphd@mastodon.social avatar

Some Narrative Conventions of Scientific Discourse
Rom Harré, 1990

"The academic ‘we’ might seem at first glance to be just a version of the editorial ‘we’. Like the latter it is mutedly egocentric but it is not mainly used to imply teamwork. Rather, it is used to draw the listener into complicity, to participate as something more than an audience. "

https://www.taylorfrancis.com/chapters/edit/10.4324/9780203981115-14/narrative-conventions-scientific-discourse-rom-harr%C3%A9

This is my new favorite thing.

ttpphd,
@ttpphd@mastodon.social avatar

"The moral status of persons determines the epistemic status of their results. This becomes entirely intelligible if we think in terms of trust rather than truth. Trust in someone’s results depends very much on our faith in that person, whereas truth, so it seems to me, ought to be tied to trust in a methodology, regardless of who uses it, provided they use it competently. " - Harré p 93.

ttpphd,
@ttpphd@mastodon.social avatar

I am so hot and bothered by this writing from 1990.

Inductive indexicality! WHEW!

pfefferle, to wordpress
@pfefferle@mastodon.social avatar

@laurenshof the ActivityPub plugin should now work nicely with

https://github.com/Automattic/wordpress-activitypub/releases/tag/2.3.1

ahmetasabanci, to random
@ahmetasabanci@mastodon.social avatar

I’m doing my best to avoid latest because people trying to make it a thing have no idea how nonprofits work and as someone who spends most of his working time in or around nonprofits I really don’t have time to explain things to people who clearly have no interest in understanding it.

ahmetasabanci,
@ahmetasabanci@mastodon.social avatar

Trust me, if you knew how nonprofits work or what kinds of troubles they deal with every day you’d immediately see that no one would even consider it as a tool for the conspiracies you think about. It’s worse than the worst possible option.

FGO_eV, to random German
@FGO_eV@genealogie.social avatar

Dann möchten wir uns als Verein noch kurz vorstellen.
Wir sind ein Verein für Familien- und Heimatforschung in Oberschwaben.
Wir sind auch Paten für .
Letzten November haben wir unser 10jähriges Bestehen gefeiert.
Hier geht es zu unserer Website: https://www.forschergruppe-oberschwaben.de/
Wir betreuen auch die offene genealogische bei https://discourse.genealogy.net/c/oberschwaben-l/45

kubikpixel,
@kubikpixel@chaos.social avatar

@FGO_eV 👋 willkommen hier im und nette/gute/informelle/erweiternde Kommunikation wünsche ich euch! 😊

Falls Fragen aufkommen, wie wo was genau, habe ich es mal kurz eine Hilfe dazu notiert:
:mastodon: 👉 https://chaos.social/@kubikpixel/109527958764885621

InternetIsScary, to fediverse French
@InternetIsScary@mstdn.social avatar

The fediverse is amazing!

I can’t get over how cool it is to view my posts from any server. I’m definitely going to use activitypub for my social media I’m planning on making. I was going to use @Discourse , but considering it’s like where you are only able to self host and each instance of discourse can’t interconnect makes me kinda sad. But activitypub seems like the only way I feel happy in both ways.

@lemmy

HulkSmashBurgers,

Which is cool!

HulkSmashBurgers,

No you’re adorable!

cquest, to llm French
@cquest@amicale.net avatar

Ce matin... deux BOT de scrapping pour alimenter des modèles d'IA/ ont abusé du forum d'@osm_fr

C'est pas la première fois et ça devient vraiment une plaie, surtout quand requête les URL de notre ancien , remplacé il y a plusieurs années par

Malgrès plus de 130 000 erreurs 404 rien que ce matin, il continuait à un rythme effréné...

Autre bot albert-bot... de albertai.com (rien avoir avec l'Albert cocorico), bloqué lui aussi.

lord,
@lord@pleroma.lord.re avatar

@sebsauvage @cquest ils réagissent comment au gzip bomb ?

sebsauvage,
@sebsauvage@framapiaf.org avatar

@lord @cquest
Une gzip-bomb dans un 404 c'est pas très charitable, ça pourrait impacter de vrais internautes.

kariboka, to fediverse
@kariboka@harpia.red avatar

Have someone got their instance to federate with ?

I’ve read something about it but didn’t see any real case yet.

Also, does it federates articles? like , , , ,

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