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Nonbiner

@Nonbiner@todon.nl

Transmasculine, bigender, white-looking biracial, middle-aged Dutch living with 2 cats.

Avatar: roze/pink Helichrysum Bracteatum

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halcionandon, to chronicillness
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This is me:
https://t.co/f1vB5pXoK6

There are help links in the article but to summarise:

My crowdfund: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/halcionandon

Also:
People with Australian bank accounts can use https://www.beem.com.au to pay @halcionandon. Fee free & anonymous.

People helping me is most important. I need a safe place & an the most. Please consider.🙏

Please & thanks for reading. Help not expected but appreciated.💜


@mutualaid
@mecfs
@chronicillness

Nonbiner,
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@halcionandon @mutualaid @mecfs @chronicillness @disability

Unbelievable that shelters aren't equipped for the disabled, when they are more at risk from abuse.

Have shared again, hope you get out of this situation.

ahimsa_pdx, to mecfs
@ahimsa_pdx@disabled.social avatar

This short video (about a minute) from asks people with ME/CFS, "How long did it take you go get diagnosed?"

(ME/CFS = myalgic encephalomyelitis / chronic fatigue syndrome)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tnzz2QwwaMs

I'm "lucky" because it only took me 5 years to get a diagnosis vs. an average of over 8 years (from the 417 responses they got).

What's your answer? 🤔

1/2

@mecfs

Nonbiner,
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@ahimsa_pdx @mecfs 42 years. A naturopath dxed me 21 years in, but that was only taken seriously by a regular doctor 21 years later.

LehtoriTuomo, to actuallyautistic
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I've been trying to understand what it means that an autistic brain is bombarded with so much information. We spent some time at our summer cottage and I think I got some insight in this.

Instead of seeing the lake in front of my eyes, everywhere I looked I saw a detail. Its size would vary but it would still be a detail. A swan there, its partner there, no leaves on that tree yet, what a cool pattern on the small waves, what does it look like when I move my eyes this way, or that way, a car on the opposite shore, the shadow of the tree, I wonder what seagulls those are etc. A new detail with every single glance.

At the same time my attention tried to keep track of the dog and listened to birds singing and bumblebees flying around.

Now I wonder what it feels like just to see the lake.

@actuallyautistic

Nonbiner,
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@LehtoriTuomo @actuallyautistic

Interesting. I do not see all those details, bc my brain deals with too much sound, wind, feelings, emotions. I have trouble seeing details others point out. What seagull?

My experience is more like a strong feeling while being there and seeing water in front of me.

helma, to random Dutch
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    Nonbiner,
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    @chasalin @helma Het gaat niet om bankieren, alleen om betalen met je smartphone. Dat kan ook makkelijk met je pasje.

    RigsbySiv, to knitting German

    Habt ihr Erfahrungen mit addi-Stricknadeln?
    Taugen die was?

    @handarbeiten @stricken @knitting

    Nonbiner,
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    @RigsbySiv @handarbeiten @stricken @knitting

    Ich habe die duenne rundstricknadeln (zB 1,25) und die sind OK.

    Grumpfff, (edited ) to animals French
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    Nonbiner,
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    @Grumpfff Combien alors? 5?

    ashleyspencer, to random
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    It seems like now that it’s autism awareness month, the autism organizations asking me to give them free stim toys as “donations” in exhange for exposure is getting more frequent.

    We are only on the 6th of the month and already 3 have messaged me asking for free stim toys. I’m sure there will be more this month.

    eye roll

    Nonbiner,
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    @ashleyspencer LIke the bars where musicians can come play for free for "exposure". What kind of stim toys do you make? Nm, found your shop!

    xs4me2, to random
    @xs4me2@mastodon.social avatar

    Kabinet noemt geen namen in zaak rond Russische desinformatie

    https://nos.nl/artikel/2515099-kabinet-noemt-geen-namen-in-zaak-rond-russische-desinformatie

    Dat gaat dus niet werken...

    Nonbiner,
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    @xs4me2 Ik snap niet hoe dat kan. Als zij het weten, moeten die mensen toch de Kamer uit? En dan weten wij het ook?

    dansup, (edited ) to animals
    @dansup@mastodon.social avatar

    My partner sent me this pic of our cat as a baby

    🥹

    Nonbiner,
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    @dansup May I suggest the following alt txt: very young tuxedo kitten sitting on bed with white sheet, face towards the camera and white front paws visible.

    LeftistLawyer, to disability

    Houston, we have a …
    Is there a doctor in the house?

    Nonbiner,
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    @LeftistLawyer Women get Long Covid more often, so I am not surprised to see the women's line above the men's line from 2020 on, while before that, they crossed eachother more often.

    Nonbiner, to random Dutch
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    🤔

    Nonbiner, to random Dutch
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    Dear Fedi, alt txt is a literal description of the picture. Not "Mr Floof" but "tuxedo cat lying on green couch". A blind person does not know who Mr Floof is or what he looks like without explanation.

    The intention of alt txt is that the person using a screen reader will know as much as the people without and is therefore included in the conversation.

    Thank you.

    seawall, to random
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    The kid is now saying the new carer can't come back tomorrow, even though he agreed yesterday. Breakfast was just a fruitless frustrating argument.

    I'm back in bed, weeping, just completely overwhelmed.

    Nonbiner,
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    @seawall What does he do when the thing cannot be avoided despite him saying it can't happen?

    Can he understand how lonely, tired and on edge an adult can be? This seems impossible for allistic children as well.

    @simon_brooke

    SirTapTap, to animals
    @SirTapTap@mastodon.social avatar

    Nonbiner,
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    @SirTapTap Tortie with orange tabby tail? How special!

    callunavulgaris, to actuallyautistic
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    @actuallyautistic Can we talk self-diagnosis? The penny dropped for me last year. I'm only mildly autistic but that's enough to have made me wonder my whole life where I go wrong with social things, why others seem to know the rules and I don't, with predictable consequences. Because I am self-diagnosed I feel I can't be open with anyone beyond immediate family, esp work, as I don't have a doctor's note to back it up and I'll be accused of jumping on a bandwagon. Familiar?

    Nonbiner,
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    @pewterbaw @jkcheney @callunavulgaris @actuallyautistic That and the ability to mask can make autism seem mild. But masking can be exhausting and alienating for the autistic.

    CuriousMagpie, to disability
    @CuriousMagpie@mastodon.social avatar

    A completely free cookbook for the zero spoons crowd.
    @actuallyautistic https://traumbooks.itch.io/the-sad-bastard-cookbook

    Nonbiner,
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    @Tarrenvane @CuriousMagpie @actuallyautistic Yes, ramen, rice, pasta.

    MsHearthWitch, to FiberArts
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    Alright, friends with an eye for design... need your advice!

    I'm making a handbag. Outside is very classy. Harris Tweed, leather, brass hardware.

    I can't decide what lining to use.

    Originally I got the dark green fern fabric for the lining.

    Recently I got the lighter green with bees for another project but could repurpose (I bought lots).

    I think I like that it matches the clasp. But... I think the darker fabric is more classy. And then, the lighter is more fun.

    Nonbiner,
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    @MsHearthWitch I think colourwise the clasp matches the fern fabric better. With the tweed, it is a nice combination.

    Nonbiner, to random
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    Ik zie weer een hele hausse aan validistische termen voor fascisten, racisten, populisten en hun kiezers.

    Mensen, verbind kwaadaardigheid niet aan onschuldige mensen met lager IQ of psychiatrische klachten. Als je je beter voelt dan hen en lage intelligentie als scheldwoord gebruikt, doe je mee met bruinrechts.

    Het gaat om haat, sluwheid, berekening, machtswellust, witte overheersing en dat soort termen. Laten we dat zo blijven benoemen.

    Nonbiner, to random
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    Het is gelukt, ik heb Edson Olf van @bij1 gestemd.

    Heel protocol gevolgd: al mijn compressiekleding aan, veiligheidsbril, FFP3. Van tevoren Algovir, naderhand zoutwaterspoeling en Algovir. FFP3 in een bak om 2 weken te laten liggen. Kleding in de was op 60 graden.

    Het was niet druk en mijn desorientatie was steeds snel verholpen (waar in het gebouw moet ik zijn, bij wie moet ik de stempas laten zien, waar krijg ik het stembiljet en hoe vouw ik dat kreng op).

    Bij het naar buiten gaan was er 1 persoon die nephoestend langsliep. Iets wat ik best heftig vind, omdat het betekent dat diegene banger is voor de realiteit dan hen compassie heeft met iemand uit de "risicogroep" zoals zij dat zien.

    Nu tintelend (na-effect compressiekleding) bijkomen. Halve liter ORS drinken, gisteren 1 liter weggeklokt.

    Nonbiner, to knitting
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    Please provide a warning with links to Ravelry, as the site can trigger and other sensory issues. The owners are ableist and refuse to repair.

    Idk what causes it, but it is very real.

    Nonbiner, to random
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    Bezorgperikelen

    heeft iets nieuws. Ze zeggen dat ze je pakket (dat te groot is voor de brievenbus) bezorgd is in de brievenbus. Vervolgens vind je niks.

    Dan moet je nog twee werkdagen wachten voor je de verzender kunt vragen een onderzoek in te stellen. Dat duurt dus nog langer dan het pakje ophalen bij een winkel om de hoek terwijl je gewoon thuis was.

    Innovatief!

    /s

    Nonbiner, to random
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    Als je gaat stemmen: welke kandidaat kies je en waarom?

    @msteenhagen @Blogfeedser

    Nonbiner, to random
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    Vreemd hoe ik ondanks dat ik geen door de buitenwereld gestuurd weekritme heb, toch steeds op zaterdag energie heb om dingen buitenshuis te doen - wat dan juist niet kan vanwege de drukte.

    Nonbiner, to random
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    De mense: We hebben geen woningen in NL, het is godgeklaagd.

    Ook de mense: Als je geen traplift kunt betalen, verhuis je toch naar een BG woning?

    Nonbiner, to random
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    Een VVD Statenlid volgde mij en ontvolgde mij weer even snel 🤣.

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