It's strange to me when I see people get upset about people doing good deeds, and posting it online.
"They're just doing it for attention!"
Yeah, so what? I'd much rather see people doing nice things for attention, than the people who do mean pranks or wasting food. A good deed is still good, even if it's done for the wrong reasons.
Many, many good deeds go unnoticed. From the smallest gesture to life-altering gifts. I've been the beneficiary of both in my life. Some givers wish not to be acknowledged, others toot their own horn. I'm fine with either, just thankful that people still care about each other and help, if/when they can.
@RickiTarr One person's "doing it for attention" is another's "setting a good example." The first person sounds defensive that they wouldn't have done it in the first place. How dare someone else make them look bad?
Hey, bud, ya wanna not look bad, stop protesting when others do good deeds. It's your own foot you're shooting.
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I assume people who say that kind of thing are really saying that the only reason they ever do anything good is for personal profit or attention. Transference.
@RickiTarr Right??? RIGHT?! I never understood why people need good to be done only for sole purpose of your urge to help and even if you gain a tiny little benefit from it, this somehow disregards the whole good done. Why? If you're useful to this world I don't give two shits why you are useful.
@RickiTarr And also, attention to a good deed is useful in itself - it gives others ideas how to be useful, it reminds others there is so and so problem abd they can halp improve it, it gives others a good standard to strive for...
....wait a minute, could it be that people don't like to be reminded that they can improve the life of others if they want and that they are not just usless pawns that are always the victims?
@RickiTarr@lisamelton But Ricki, what if these people do good deeds for attention and then they get that attention and now other people want that attention too and they start doing more good deeds until people everywhere are just constantly doing all these good deeds I feel like you haven’t thought about what happens then huh checkmate
@RickiTarr Also, the alternative is that all we see is the awful stuff, the hatemongering and cruelty, and so that becomes the new normal. I’d rather see people doing good things and that becoming the baseline.
People who criticise the visibly decent could well fear their own awfulness being highlighted by contrast. Hence the attempts to cover up a lot of basic human decency under a pall of ‘woke’.
@RickiTarr there always has to be a term coined that everyone repeats ad nauseam like “virtue signaling”. I hate that one almost as much as I hate how “woke” got commandeered as a jeer.
@RickiTarr I'm always encouraged by the 'Pay It Forward', and 'Buy A Coffee' stories I hear or read about. It may be a small thing to one, but a big deal to another. Why is that a bad thing? People have become overcritical of SJWs.
@RickiTarr was chatting with another about the cultural pressure of our (way past) youth to not speak of one's good deeds. The original writer also wrote of trying to get past that, as we all need to see/read examples that helping each other out is A Good Thing. (paraphrasing for brevity)
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Same! We need good news and I kinda like seeing some of the creative ways people find to be generous as well as inspirational. Givers gotta give. It’s not what anyone should be complaining about.
@RickiTarr I used to have a rule for myself that if I did something good, I only tell one person about it go be humble. Fuck that noise. I'm telling everyone now, we deserve a kind world and we're only gonna get there by spreading it and kicking rude people out
@RickiTarr Oops busted!
It’s a bad excuse I know, in my defense, I was taught charity should be anonymous. Instead of showing people MY contributions, I’d rather make an effort to bring awareness to the causes
@RickiTarr for better or worse, people look to the behavior of others for clues about what is good behavior. That’s why if you donate to public radio, you sometimes get a sticker to put in your car window. The public radio station is hoping other people will see that sticker and think “Hey, that person is contributing, maybe I should too?”
@RickiTarr Recycling didn't take off until people saw their neighbours doing it. Posting your good deed is a way of normalizing good deeds. It makes some people think that maybe they should be doing good deeds, too.
@RickiTarr I only get annoyed when a company spends maybe $10k doing something good, and then spends a million in advertising bragging about that small contribution. Some of the Big Oil companies used to do that a lot. If things are proportionate I am fine with it.
@RickiTarr On top of that, kids seeing these good deeds may be inspired to do the same. My 10 year old son regularly talks about all the ways his favorite influencers help people and how he wants to do the same for others.
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