Don't ask an open question, when what you want is a Yes. Don't give away your power.
Always "cheat": tell them exactly what you want & ask them to say Yes.
Put the idea clearly in their head. Brains are lazy and tend to grab onto whatever is easiest. Make sure your clear outcome is right there in front of them, easy to grab.
Or, you could ask an inquisitive, general question (What could we...? or, What do you plan?), cross your fingers behind your back, & get the usual answer.
I think a lot about the "legitimacy" that publishing a book confers -
and how often when people begin to perceive me as "legitimate" they ask why I haven't written a book, or encourage me to.
my few forays into the world of publishing have been ridiculously unpleasant, skin-crawling, values-violating (although the agents and publishers were all kind)
I am just not interested enough in "legitimacy" as a narcissistic supply, or in ambitiousness in general to care about selling books
@shrinkthinks I was shocked when, among a group of male peers, all showing off for one another, one turned to me (someone I trusted 🙁) and asked: "where's your book?"
Wow. I'm taking a Conflict Resolution course and the first module is packed with brain science. Phew! So good!
What's exciting is that it's focused for coaches who work one-on-one, like me. Clients bring conflicts, and I only coach their part of it - not the whole system.
Really excited by this way of presenting the content 👍 It's just generally useful for talking to people with beliefs we see as "wrong", too.
At one point in my past, I had experienced “George Bailey on a bridge on Christmas Eve’ levels of despair. I was in a really dark space mentally, and wasn’t sure if I would or could ever be happy again.
But I could, and I am. Here’s how I did it, and how I can help you:
Pay attention to the patterns in your life. Which ones serve you? Which ones are unhealthy? The good news is that YOU are the one who creates those patterns, so you are the one who can change them if you wish.
This one-hour happiness reset serves as a brain boost! During this one-hour session, you will learn science-based techniques & actions you can take RIGHT NOW to shift your mindset. Session also includes:
• Happiness Level Assessment
• Defining Your Happiness Set Point®
• Identifying the Happiness Continuum®
• Detailed Slide Deck & Collateral Materials
• Free Circuit Train Your Brain ebook
Once in awhile, it’s recommended that you let your brain roam a bit outside the traditional boundaries where it spends most of its day. This excerpt from my book occurs a little over halfway through the volume, which is written as a day-by-day habit changer. Let’s see where it takes us today.
It's a lot harder to follow your dreams in life than not. People say following dreams is lazy, they say it shows that you don't take life seriously or that you live in your own head and are selfish.
This is completely incorrect, people who follow their dreams are inspiring and brave and it usually takes a huge amount of work to achieve their dreams, lazy is not the right word to describe those who follow their dreams at all... continued in comments
It's likely that doing things that the judgemental people want you to do will not make you happy, so you need to make a choice just for you. It's not easy, it's definitely not lazy but it can absolutely be worth it.