For me there are a few people who are usually equalizing, and I can just be around them, so I won't count that. But generally, I find about 3 times a week, I'm game for socializing. A day in between to rest is usually nice, but the larger the gathering or if we go somewhere particularly noisy or I'm meeting new people that involves more effort, and my social battery empties sooner. I'm very curious where everyone else falls on this!
I have a horrible suspicion that if I am to get better at speaking Spanish I am going to have to actually speak to people. 🫤
Why is my life such a trial? 😭
@spytfyre Yeah, I've found another couple of apps like Tandem & Mixxer. The issue isn't so much finding people to talk to as the actual need to find something to make conversation about & the energy to do so. #introvert
The older I get the more I find myself being a true introvert. My job requires me to be "on" all day. I interact with students and co-workers and definitely need my down time at home each night. Currently we have visitors until next Wednesday. This means going home and being "on". Even though I have fun when I interact with our guests I still dread it because I know I won't get to decompress in my usual manner. Today I'm very tired as a result. Time to put on my patience
pants.... #Introvert
We give such weird advice to kids. I remember being 12, and very shy, and people would tell me to just be myself. Now 30 years later, I'm 42, and still trying to figure that out.
@RickiTarr@cherylgk I've lost count of how many people have revealed to me over the years that they thought I was arrogant and aloof when they first met me. No, I'm just an #introvert with #anxiety that went wholly untreated in the past.
Cultural mores do not allow for people who aren't gregarious and comfortable in social situations.
To quote two:
“If your workplace is dominated by extroverts who criticize those who prefer to work alone — or skip after-work cocktails — as “not team players,” it may inadvertently alienate gifted people.”
“there is no difference in conforming responses given to high- and low-pressure levels by introverts.”
It feels like they described #autistic me. Then again, I'm an #INFP ( / #Introvert) type of autistic, so it fits.
In addition, I experienced that “not team players” from some managers from a certain company years ago. I don't join after-work cocktails, or any party, and was branded as “not a team player” by some of those in position. I was actually very glad I did not because I later found out they force people to drink, and I can't because I have #gout (other than the fact, you can't make me drink if I don't want to).
Anyway. What about you, my fellow #ActuallyAutistics? Or, are you an extrovert autistic yet still find similarities from the article and studies mentioned in it?
Do extroverts ever like, in their peak extrovertedness, maybe at a raucous party, pause for a few seconds and think, "This is absolutely perfect. This is bliss. But this ain't how life is supposed to be lived?" Because as an #introvert that is exactly what I find myself thinking sometimes when I'm perfectly isolated watching a movie and filling the empty room with the echoes of my own laughter while munching on potato chips.
@skydog@thepoliticalcat considerable volunteer work can be accomplished in solitude and/or with social distancing. #introvert#ImmunoCompromised I am an indefatigable user of email, as old fashioned as that may be. Also #charitablegiving#supporting#charities makes a difference. In the aggregate "showing up" consistently gives both peace of mind and a sense of meaning in these most troubled times. #respect for the moment you #strike !
I haven't read this article yet. As an #introvert, I just really like the closing sentence, "Then he dropped out of society." It's poetic and would be perfect on an epitaph. "Here lies (name here). Vanguard of justice. Revered by colleagues, loved by his family. Then he dropped out of society."
Siempre me ha gustado la explicación con baterías:
La gente extrovertida empieza el día con las pilas vacías, y van ganando energía con cada interacción.
Sin embargo las personas introvertidas empezamos el día con cierto nivel de batería, y cada interacción nos resta.
Hi, I'm Rafe! That's pronounced "Rayf" and I am just some dude from #OgdenUtah.
I would describe myself as an awkward #introvert with a tendency to come across as the opposite until a conversation starts and I forget how human interactions are supposed to work. There's also the #ADHD factor where my brain loves to just go AWOL in the middle of things.
⚠️ There are very infrequent posts about politics & religion from my #progressive#atheist#American viewpoint. I try to avoid it but sometimes things must be said. On the rare occasions that I do post about those or any other serious, controversial topics, I do my best to keep it civil and always put it behind a content warning.