This is what I've been thinking about a lot: congruence. It's a lot easier to be yourself when you become who you want to be (or change who you want to be.) I think a lot of insecurity comes from our own awareness that we are not doing what we know we're supposed to be doing. People often ask how not to care about what other people think and I think the first step must be to live according to your values.
What I've been trying to do is get myself to WANT to do the thing, but this is wrong. What I need to do is to start doing the thing despite NOT WANTING to do it, which will actually set up the reward circuit to make me want to do it in the future.
The inverse would apply for quitting a bad habit. You need to stop despite not wanting to and eventually the motivation for the vice will be extinguished.
If someone has an intrinsic motivation for something, and you start giving them extrinsic motivation (e.g. money or praise) then it seems like that can destroy the intrinsic motivation so that when you take away that extrinsic motivation then they lose all interest in the activity.
Don’t wish it was easier wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenges wish for more wisdom #productivity#SelfDevelopment
-- Jim Rohn
Because of the recent events on #Habitica I've created a #Liberapay page to get some support to fix what will happen on August 8th.
My plan is to create an advanced chat for the uotpify.org community (~5,000 people) and to keep providing high quality challenges on Habitica. More information on the Liberapay page: https://liberapay.com/utopify.org
This will be a lot of work and I hope for some #support
I provide challenges for about 6 years on Habitica for free, but it took a lot of time to write programs automating a lot of work (anti-cheat), scanning the chat for challenge participants, processing challenge data and creating high score lists, announcing new challenges, winners of challenges, etc. Now, that chats and guilds will be removed on Habitica, there will be even more work and the motivation is not really high, if a company destroys it within a week what you built up over several years.
Liberapay was the only solution I found, which is #foss and fits the values for what utopify stands for. If you know others/better, please name them.
I appreciate every Cent and thank you for your support 🙏
My problem with money donations are always, that not trustworthy companies have to be used. Currently I use #paypal, but #stripe is supported by Liberapay, too.
Is it necessary to have a Stripe account or is PayPal enough? Because reading the privacy policy of them makes me a little bit dizzy and if it can be avoided, I really want to avoid it. But if people will say, they want to donate, but only with Stripe, I would create a Stripe account.
It took way to much time, but I wanted to be sure it is the right thing and that everything works even better than before in the old utopify.org guild chat on #habitica And after a lots of struggles, it looks like it is usable, now.
The new lemmy instance covers topics like #selfdevelopment and #sustainability and everything what is connected to it. I will create a lot of communities the next weeks and almost every #challenge I provided on Habitica will be accessible publicly there, too. (And I will announce them on Mastodon).
It should be a safe space to focus on important topics and define fulfilling goals, create a habit to work on them and to reach them in an efficient way, even if the "All Feed" is activated, which can be distracting very fast, because it shows federated posts. I recommend to stay in the "Local Feed".
I've put so much energy, time and money in a self-hosted Lemmy instance, because what happened on Habitica was the last time that a company will be able to destroy the utopify community.
We had a healthy routine to set goals, have a sustainable mindset, motivate and inspire others and all was gone within a short time. This time the plan is, that it will stay for much much longer and that all experience will be saved and can be shared by everyone :)
The Lemmy instance is free of GAFAM spyware (Google, Apple, Facebook, Amazon, Microsoft) or any trackers/ads and it runs on a private server and WE DON'T FEDERATE WITH #META (#threads, #project92, #p92)
I cherish the possibilities #AI brings, but the issues we create with it have arrived. #Teach everyone to engage with content that influences them carefully.
Here's Kyle's take on hollow money-grab "edu" channels: