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Susan60

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Lifelong learner, leftie, AuADHD, Bunurong country, Australia. She/her. Won’t boost photos without alt txt (unless I forget!).

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LehtoriTuomo, to actuallyautistic
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I read about auditory processing difficulties a week or so ago. References mentioned difficulty of processing spoken instructions as one symptom. I thought that I don't have such difficulty.

This weekend, my spouse told about how she and the dog have now practiced walking on the same side of the path instead of the dog going everywhere. I asked how they have done it. She explained her three point procedure, at which point I said it sounds complicated.

Another heureka moment for me! The procedure certainly wasn't difficult. It was the number of points. For me, two points would've been ok, the third point caused my brain to give a "can not process" error message. Turns out I do have difficulties in processing oral instructions.

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Susan60,
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@LehtoriTuomo @actuallyautistic

Oh! Prepare for incoming dump re my experience! (Which as I’ve learned, is not about making the situation all about me, but in expressing my understanding & empathy & contributing material to the conversation.)

I had heard about it but only really found out what it was when, wait for it, I was listening to a podcast. Ironic. I never used to “do” podcasts. I used to listen to music, the news & reasonable quality radio programs (as opposed to inane stuff) while driving to work, but it’s not where I go for information. I prefer to read, or even watch a screen where watching people speak helps to engage & hold my attention.

I like lectures, but used to take copious notes at uni & even take a notebook & pen to public lectures & talks. Writing notes helps me process & remember what I’ve heard.

I started listening to podcasts when some on neurodivergence were recommended to me, but they only “work” if I’m on my exercise machine. Even then, I find myself wanting to take notes &/or read the transcript afterwards.

During my teaching studies, I was told to always write instructions onto the board to ensure that students who struggled with verbal instructions had another resource. So naturally, as a teacher who was autistic but totally oblivious to that fact, I did so.

I love written instructions, lists etc, & directions. Tell me how to get somewhere without showing me a map, & I’ll get lost. And while I can follow GPS instructions, I really, really dislike them.

Us later diagnosed people have become so good at developing strategies that clearly help, but mask our issues, even from ourselves.

The weird thing is that I can engage in vibrant conversations (but difficult discussions are better done in instalments, sometimes with written reflections.)

I think we get this idea in our head that various conditions should be easily recognised & diagnosed. We don’t allow for the fact that we can be very good (or somewhat capable) at devising strategies without even realising that we’re doing so. They’re just “the way we do things”. Then someone points something out or we have an epiphany…

EVDHmn, to fun
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What’s everyone listening today for their Sunday or Monday morning on the other side of the globe?

Boost for reach?

Does anyone have a goto playlist for fun? Any upbeat or soulful playlists the speak to your heart?

I’m in the mood for something different maybe some others would like to share some playlists for any occasion?




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Susan60,
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@EVDHmn @actuallyautistic

Showing my age… Moody Blues (We saw Justin Hayward live pre-Covid & he was fabulous, still.) Supertramp, Manfred Man, Alan Parsons project…

Susan60,
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@Uair @EVDHmn @actuallyautistic
That’s lovely. I saw an African choir group years ago in a great concert hall. (Was lucky enough to win tickets.) Wonderful.

Susan60,
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@EVDHmn @actuallyautistic

I like a lot of classical music, but don’t know enough about it to know what I like. I like some jazz, some of most genres actually, but not the heaviest rock.?

theaardvark, to Autism
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How does everyone know how, when and how much they're masking?
As a late-diagnosed , I struggle to differentiate between "me but masking" and "me but in a diff situation".
Now that I know I'm autistic, I even miss the person I used to be in some situations before I knew.
I used to call myself a "social chameleon" - I just changed automatically to suit the circumstances.
But who actually am I and what is just a mask?
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Susan60,
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@theaardvark @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

I’m working this out. Before I realised I was autistic, I had already given myself permission to avoid people who bore or irritate me, whereas before I’d always focussed on politely engaging with them.

Susan60,
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@theaardvark @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

But I’m still identifying my sensory sensitivities, the way I mask them, & many other forms of masking.

augieray, to random
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Take advantage of every opportunity to socialize safely. On a gorgeous (but windy) 80-degree day in Milwaukee, we dined in an empty restaurant next to open window ( 2:30 pm lunch with CO2 at 500), had cocktails in a bar with open garage doors (CO2 450), and enjoyed an electric cello concert outdoors at a bar. There's never zero risk, but I believe I can effectively minimize risks with smart decisions.

Susan60,
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@augieray

Years ago someone said that the problem with taking the middle ground is that you get shot at by both sides. 😏

dave, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic Saw this at the pharmacy and picked it up... curious to see what it says.

Susan60,
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@dyani @dave @actuallyautistic

Or the marketing department.

bojacobs, to histodons
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Chernobyl, 38 years ago today.

Human "bio-robots" had to make homemade lead lined suits to then spend 40 seconds to 2 minutes on the roof of reactor #3 shoveling bits of the reactor core into the hole where reactor #4 used to be. 3,500 people did this task.

@histodons @sts

video/mp4

Susan60,
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@bojacobs @histodons @sts

How many of those people have died of radiation related causes?

LehtoriTuomo, to actuallyautistic
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Discussed my quest for understanding my neurotype with my colleague who asked whether I've thought of getting a formal diagnosis.

"No, I haven't", I replied, "as I don't see what would be the benefit in it."

I'm coping quite well and I believe the new emerging understanding is going to help me find solutions to certain problems I encounter.

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Susan60,
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@LehtoriTuomo @actuallyautistic

I’m the same. I’ve made it this far, & am also wary of the negative consequences it could bring.

Susan60, to actuallyautistic
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What do people read?

I was an avid reader of fiction when I was a child. Novels about challenging issues or strange fantasy worlds. In many ways reading was an escape to a safe place, but those books were also places where I could learn about how “people” worked. How they thought, felt & behaved. The diversity in those things.

I loved The Little Princess and The Secret Garden, by Frances Hodgson Burnett, because they were about children who were different & how they coped. I loved The Chronicles of Narnia because, although quite dated now, the girls had real adventures alongside their brothers. There was a series of books about witches, good & bad, which I loved but can’t remember the titles or author.

I loved Ivan Southall’s books, where tweens & teens faced dangers, often without the support of adults. (Marsden’s Tomorrow when the War Began is reminiscent of Southall.)

And as an adult, I still like youth & YA fiction, probably for the same reason, because I’m still learning how humans work. I also like adult fiction, but the naivety of youth fiction appeals.

And TBO, I read much more non-fiction than fiction nowadays. Obviously there’s the Autism & ADHD stuff that is currently dominating my reading, but also social commentaries of all sorts, by feminists, sociologists, etc.

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Susan60,
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@pathfinder @actuallyautistic

I’ve read quite a bit of fantasy over the years. Wheel of Time, Kate Elliott, Robin Hobbs, David Eddings, Guy Gabriel Kay, Charles de Lint… mostly off my partner’s shelves. It’s on my list!

Susan60,
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@ginsterbusch @actuallyautistic

I guess you could say that history & politics are among my special interests.

Susan60,
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@pathfinder @actuallyautistic

This is the first in the trilogy self published by my oldest. I read the 2nd when I did a grammar edit, but haven’t seen the 3rd yet. 2 & 3 are available as e-books, but I prefer to drop a hard copy into the bath.

Susan60,
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@pathfinder @actuallyautistic

Editing on a computer was a drag. Give me paper & a red pen any day.

I liked it, but I am biased. The non-binary grammar is a little challenging at first, but you get used to it.

Susan60,
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@pathfinder @ginsterbusch @actuallyautistic

I will! I promise! Reading this right now.

Susan60,
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@Uair @actuallyautistic

Depends on whether she’s merely a love interest. Female characters whose presence is defined solely by their relationship to the males in the story, & not by who they are & what they do/think/feel independently of the men, are an enormous source of aggravation.

Susan60,
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@ketmorco @actuallyautistic
Sounds like something I’d give to my nieces. Not that they need any encouragement to break gender traditions. 😁

Susan60,
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@pathfinder @actuallyautistic

Us I particularly like them. Their work is a bit different from “quest” fantasy.

Susan60,
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@pathfinder @actuallyautistic

Yes… the idea of getting around a corner & seeing something or someone wondrous. I loved the scenes in Narnia tales where the Pevensies transitioned from our world to the other. And Kay’s characters are real people I can imagine & relate to.

VeroniqueB99, to random
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My problem exactly. You can't teach empathy to a full grown adult...simply by saying 'you should care about others'.

Susan60,
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@VeroniqueB99

I saw a tv show years ago where an asylum seeker, a POC, went & spent a night or a few in the home of a white woman who opposed accepting refugees. She wasn’t openly bigoted or hateful, just very much that it wasn’t our problem & was problematic. She didn’t object to him personally.

Then she went & stayed in his home. She picked up a collection of stories by refugees, detailing their experiences. At the end of one of them, a traumatic tale, she realised that he was the writer. She broke down, & was overwhelmed by grief & guilt about her ignorance & resultant lack of empathy.

The fact that she was open to participating in this program says something about her willingness to try & learn new things, which definitely isn’t typical. But it suggests that a few at least can be won over.

timrichards, (edited ) to melbourne
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Oh dear, she's started drinking cappuccinos. Exile from the inner-city is the logical next step.

I live in Brunswick East and drink flat whites. Now I’m engaged in a sordid affair

(maybe paywalled) https://www.theage.com.au/lifestyle/health-and-wellness/i-live-in-brunswick-east-and-drink-flat-whites-now-i-m-engaged-in-a-sordid-affair-20240424-p5fm9m.html

Susan60,
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@timrichards
People still drink cappuccinos?

dramypsyd, to actuallyautistic
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Hello @actuallyautistic friends! My next article is about managing autistic meltdowns: how autistic people can manage our meltdowns safely, and affirming ways our loved ones can support us.) If you're comfortable, please drop quotes here, and indicate how I should refer to you in the piece if I use your quote. You can also drop them on my contact form (resiliencymentalhealth.com/contact/) if you want to share but prefer not to post it on the internet connected to your account.

Susan60,
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@pathfinder @dramypsyd @actuallyautistic

That must’ve been doubly frightening.

Susan60,
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@pathfinder @dramypsyd @actuallyautistic

Shut down, disassociate…

dyani, to actuallyautistic
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Hmm is this an ND thing?

Ever since I can remember, I have strongly disliked pranks and have been against humor at the expense of someone else (making fun of them).

I know nice NT people also feel this way but I've felt this strongly since a very young age. Anyone else?

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Susan60,
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@alexisbushnell @dyani @actuallyautistic

Some people, especially children, think that being funny is all about being mean.

Susan60,
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@homelessjun @alexisbushnell @dyani @actuallyautistic
Oooh, I remember the name, but yes, there was so much really nasty “comedy” around.

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