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Tim_McTuffty

@Tim_McTuffty@beige.party

An itinerant squirrel poet, aka https://mastodonapp.uk/@MaJ1

New to the whole word smithing thing so don’t be too harsh.

Write as the muse hits me in the face, so output will probably be irregular, but I want to explore a world of art n poetry that has previously eluded me so will be boosting along those lines.

Boosting is the algorithm here, so if you like my stuff please get it out there 🙏

https://justmytoots.com/@Tim_Mctuffty

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Do not seize the day. This will startle the day and may cause it to become aggressive and give you a nasty bite.
Instead approach the day calmly without making eye contact, pet it gently, and slowly enfold it in a careful embrace
If the day shows any signs of resistance to being engaged with, it is likely to turn on you. Back off and return to bed.

(Credit: @beecycling)

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New Year has always been accompanied by complex feelings for me. Time has always felt like it was moving too fast, even as a child, and New Year is a stark reminder that another year has come and gone.

A lot of people use this moment to think about how they'd like to change, New Year, New You, but inevitably we are still ourselves. In the end though, I'm the worst person of all, an Optimist. I really believe that things can and do get better, and in the case, of New Year, New You, maybe the old you is pretty good already, and you just did the best you could last year, and you're gonna do your best this year too.

Our time is short, weird, wonderful, heartbreaking, and fascinating. I'm here for it, and I'm incredibly lucky to have this group of people to chat with, empathize with, and learn from. I'm ringing in the New Year with gratitude.

Anyway, as usual that was verbose, but please, tell me your thoughts on the New Year, Anything you want to talk about is fine!

Tim_McTuffty,
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@RickiTarr Happy New Year Ricki - I know I said it before , but I’m a big softy & love passing on friendly salutations 😆

This is likely to be even more than verbose 😆

IF this year goes as I envision it now then this time next year really will see a new me.

The current plan is at least 10 years in the making & is the result of a shit load of things happening, most not so good, but one or two really good ones being pivotal in determining the exact nature of the changes.

The ‘simplest’ changes are around my health & weight - the aim is to lose 120lbs & become a skinny dude again !

To make some of the bigger changes happen I have to address my MH too - I am hoping my recent realisation of being will help with this. Also I need to get to the position where I can move freely in & out of the house & find a means of earning a living again - prolly IT related since that is where my strengths are.

I need to have a massive tidy up & subdue my Squirrelly hoarding tendencies !

My plans also include relocating to a new geographic location & potentially learning a new language (that maybe a bridge too far, I am truly crap at languages !).

Basically at 56 I am planning to take my somewhat mundane life & turn it upside down & inside out - because the alternative is to vegetate & simply wait for the end. Trust me there is a large part of me that feels that the latter is a perfectly reasonable way to proceed!

Stronger men than I have failed at smaller endeavours, even if I succeed it may take considerably longer . Afterall this is practically an IT project & IT projects are renowned for running over budget & over time !

There are things implied here but not stated that will be nearly impossible, even to contemplate , but they must be addressed or all will fail. Attempting them may break me , so care in scheduling the various parts of the changes is definitely needed!

Wish me luck !

I wonder if this is what you were expecting , I hope folks are still awake at this point 😆

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Hi I’m Tim, (named for the sorcerer in ) by my human familiar back in what we laughingly call the real world.

This will be an organic post at least at first so expect edits to append to it on a fairly regular basis.

TL;DR Hi, Scouse Squirrel poet , art appreciator, part time philosopher with MH issues.

I’m a nerd , ex Mainframe Storage Manager who has done a little bit of everything whilst never really losing his identity as a Storage Manager, if your computer doesn’t need a reinforced steel floor to stand on then frankly I consider it a toy (only kidding peeps 😝)

I’m a Scouser by birth, but now a naturalised Yorkshire lad , living in Gods own country 😊!

I have chronic with a boring list of lesser MH challenges to make life interesting.

I have recently discovered I’m autistic, which is a whole new thing to me !

Owned by 2 agents of darkness & chaos , Sophie & Alice.

About a month ago, late on a Saturday night , I was drunk & tired f about to turn in when we had a big thunderstorm.
We rarely get thunderstorms in this part of so I fond myself jotting down my thoughts as the storm waxed & waned .

The result was the Storm trilogy of (must get round to posting those again) .

Understand that I had previously only written 1 proper poem which probably cost me an ‘A’ in my English Language ‘O’ level 🤦‍♂️

That strange mix of circumstances released something in me & I have written a few more since.

Btw , I don’t really consider them poems, more brain leaks, but peeps in the know who actually write assure me that they count 😁

Tim McTuffty was created as the publishing channel for my brain leaks & moved here for the glorious freedom of 11k chrs 😁

In starting I have also discovered a latent interest in other forms of art & the capacity to bore people to death in a single toot means that Tim will also be my gateway to the more serious side of my nature.

There will (by request from a peep who will remain anonymous to protect the guilty) also be the odd reminiscence of my experiences in the computer world, mostly because I’m too lazy to thread them on my other a/c @MaJ1 😋

Tim_McTuffty, to poetry
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Burnt yellow

Where does love stop and abuse begin
Where does patience come to an end

When do tiny points of pressure pushed
Build to pain too hard to bear

When does thought end for others
When does it focus sharp on self

When does frustration lead
To, Inevitable thoughts of rain

When does love prevent retribution
To others careless harm

When does love lead to retribution
Against the harmed

When does pain ease the suffering
When does suffering ease the pain

When does sudden action
Result in colours dark, masking colours bright

When do colours fade
To prove that you won the fight.

When do tattoos black, blue and burnt yellow
Prove, human hearts endurance failed.


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  • The Searcher *

Sleep where are you,
my elusive friend.

Long have I sought you,
in field and fen.

Sheep I have followed,
o’er countless miles

With dedication shepherds,
know all too well.

Sleep like a prisoner,
escaping gaols cruel.

Runs hither and thither,
crossing streams , climbing hills.

Desperate I search,
thru secret vale and hidden dale.

Then exhausted both,
the Searcher and the Lost.

Stumble upon one another,
in deep forest, but at what cost?

All worries and anxiety,
to the wind are tossed.

Like brother or sister,
I embrace, my recalcitrant friend

They realise to their sorrow,
twas but love in the end.

And intimate as lovers, we ensure,
human hearts will endure!


Picture the Red squirrel Tim McTuffty , The Poet Squirrel , standing on his hind legs looking to the left ready to recite his latest work

Tim_McTuffty, to random
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Hey Peeps I never did a yesterday, so we’ll have instead!

Shout out to:

@evelynefoerster
@dgar
@Cbfoley
@DoubleTreble
@TCMuffin
@PamJo
@SurrealSeal
@unclepj
@PaulNickson
@aadams6363
@SteveClough
@oldrawgabbit
@si_irini
@CoachMark
@MaJ1

Please just list me and @weirdfolks in replies so we don’t have a tootageddon! 😁

(Follow @weirdfolks to keep track of our antics ! )

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Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 10 Wednesday 08/11/23

TL:DR Please, its a really short entry tonight ! 😂

Day 3 of the dreaded lurgy, this is really knocking me for 6 (possibly 7).
Spent most of the day near but not quite asleep with my brain trying to figure out which ear to crawl out of!

As I understand more about me I am also learning about how to get along with other ND friends & take account of their ‘eccentricities’ & not be put off by their behaviour patterns. This is a positive thing in my life.

Equally I can look at my reactions to situations now and instead of wondering what planet I am on, I can frame them within my current knowledge of ASD & start to understand the whys & the wherefores of them.

I leave you with this final chain of thought:
Once again the fact that becoming aware of being neurodivergent has positive as well as negative connotations is disconcerting , but in a nice way ! 😊

Thanks to those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you ! 😊🫶🐿️🖖

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Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 51 TUESDAY! 19/12/23

TL:DR What days is it !!; Restricting my punctuation & emoji use as I tagged one of my fave VI Peeps in todays post ! ; NMS is the bees pyjamas! ; Mastodon ROCKS !

Erm I made a small error in my @Maj1 salutation this morning . . . I may , just may , have suggested it was. . . .Monday again 🙄🤦‍♂️

Ok I fess up , I totally said it was Monday this morning - not surprisingly this caused some confusion & more than a little piss taking on my TL 🤦‍♂️ 😆

I would have cottoned on to this if I hadn’t spent the morning tiding my bedroom so that I could actually move without risking serious injury whilst chatting with CDP 🧚‍♀️ 😊 , & then the afternoon playing NMS in co-op & solo. 🤦‍♂️

I would like to say that I had a more productive day , but hey ho I’ve nearly completed the 2nd truncated NMS Expedition 😆

Had fun catching up this evening & am writing this while watching S1.2 of Red Dwarf 😊

Tracked down @FreakyFwoof after losing track of him (soz mate, totally forgot your handle and was searching for your given name - my bad 😞)
Thanks to @nellie_m for reminding me of his UID ! 🙏

Final Thoughts:

Today has been a good day , I got a bit frustrated this morning , but the more I understand my triggers the more I can apply some basic dampening on them .

I am so glad that I moved to Mastodon just over a year ago , this community is unique & if you land on the right Instances & meet the right folk it is a life changing experience !

Thanks to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you ! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖

@actuallyautistic

Tim_McTuffty, to random
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Emergency shout out for @FiStitchWitch

Send her lots of luvs n hugs , no questions asked !
🤗🥰

Tim_McTuffty, to random
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@RickiTarr
G’day Ricki, hope you have a good un!

😊🫶🐿️🖖

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Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 120 , Sunday 25/02/2024

TL:DR Sunday & the long , dark teatime of the soul!

Ach I’m not brave enough to say what I wanted to say, so we’ll go with the usual.

Up at 6 initially, chatted with CDP 🧚‍♀️ for a little while then dozed off till 8.

Had a nice NMS co-op session with my bestie which cheered up an otherwise banal day.

Spent the afternoon watching ‘Payback ‘ (the tv series as opposed to the movie) , I really wish I had the energy & motivation to do more, I feel like such a lazy git !

I desperately want a takeaway for my tea, but I am also well aware of my weight issues & recent lack of exercise so I will try my hardest to keep to a more healthy diet & resist the temptation !
Ended up compromising and making an emergency stew from a tin of stewing steak, a tin of mushrooms & some sweetcorn. It was ok with a bread roll. Hell knows how many killer calories there were .

Final Thoughts.

How do you like your squirrel - lightly roasted ?

I hope to try & get out for a walk tomorrow if the weather is nice 🤞

Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖

@actuallyautistic

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Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 86 Monday 22/01/24

TL:DR Project WOOF is back up & walking ! ; Bit of gaming, bit of house elfing, tiny bit of eating.

Got a decent night’s sleep, even though I was up for an hour around 1am.

Road tested the new trousers this morning, a couple of laps around my favourite short walk, puffing & panting like a 90 year old , while chatting to CDP 🧚‍♀️, who I think thought I was about to keel over 😆

Did a load of chores when I got home.

A couple of hours on ESO helped passed the day then some solo stuff.

Used up a can of beans that were somewhat past their BBF date for my tea - maybe 500 kcals with the bread n butter , hey what doesn’t kill yer makes yer stronger !

Final Thoughts.

Ok Project WOOF is officially back on the road ! 717kcals used , 55 minutes exercise,7k steps across 3.5 miles. Yay.

Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖

@actuallyautistic

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& G’day Squirrel Fans, hope I find you bright eyed & bushy tailed!

So someone has broken my primary instance, mastodonapp.uk, & @MaJ1 is unable to join us this morning 😔

I’m betting @wild1145 is on the case & sorting it for us , he’s a top

To the person who broked da interweb , most likely by pressing the button that says “Don’t Press this Button!”,I can only say (in Liam Neeson’s voice) -

I have a special set of skills, I will find you , I’m coming for your nuts !

Everyone else - have a cracking day & remember : Don’t let ‘em Cash-ew ! 😊🫶🐿️🖖

@weirdfolks

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Ok Peeps off to write todays diary entry , be back soon .

⌨️📴 Try not to break the interweb while I’m away 😁😜😁

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Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 39 Thursday 7/12/23

TL:DR Wet; Boiler diagnostics completed; Galaxy quest rocks; Lots of love to my Bestie ! 🤗🥰

What a day, was so tired this morning that I had a quick chat with my Bestie then went back to bed for s couple of hours.

Drove over to my Mother in Laws in the pouring rain , found that I had to clean out the tiny room where the boiler lived before I could get a proper look at it!

Powered off the boiler & spent a merry 20 minutes fighting with the front cover which hadn’t been removed in years !

Got Simon our tame plumber on a video call so that he could diagnose the fault with me - turns out that the fan is dead.

Got slightly triggered when one of my MiLs’ carers rocked up, but we both had our separate jobs to do so interaction was reduced to a quick “Good Morning”.

Sorted out getting details needed for ordering the replacement fan & then had to break the news to my MiL that yon plumber could rock up next week to fit the new fan & she need to agree to that & to paying him.
An hour & a half later we finally convinced her that this was basically the only way to go.
Several triggers were hammered home & I nearly stormed out at one point when she argued that it didn’t need to be done because “I’m immune to hypothermia” , naughty words competed vigorously to be the 1st to be released upon the world, but good manners prevailed & I held them at bay!

We finally got her to agree & raced off at speed before she could change her mind !

A stop off at Costco on the way home for a much needed hot dog & a Cherry cola , followed by Xmas treat shopping helped to get my mind back into a less stressed mode !

Got home & worked with Mrs Squirrel to complete her ASD Informants report form. Thankfully she was able to fill in a lot more than my Dad did !

Bestie went to bed early again feeling rough, wish her a speedy recovery 🤗🥰

Watched ‘Galaxy Quest’ for the first time in years & enjoyed it enormously, it was interesting to see both the nods made by the movie to the space sci-fi genre & also the nods made by other later movies to Galaxy Quest.

A quick catch up on here , & sadly it was only a quick one , has led us to me writing up my diary.

Final Thoughts:
Mother in Laws like mine are the epitome of the gags made by comedians in the late 70’s !
She could be more rude (yet to receive a thank you) awkward or just plain childish if she had wanted to , thankfully she stopped just short of getting the boiler outer casing wrapped round her like a steel straitjacket !

I cannot even begin to list the triggers bounced on from a great height. I am, in retrospect , quite pleased that I recognised some of them & took appropriate steps to minimise their impact!

I may adopt the quote : “ Never give up, Never Surrender ! “ Jason Nesmith - Galaxy Quest !

Thanks to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you ! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖

@actuallyautistic

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11Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 66 Wednesday 03/01/24

TL:DR I am so very exhausted !

Today has been a quiet day, my mood has been subdued , my energy levels just above life support !

Project WOOF stumbled along, I have cut down a lot on what I have eaten , but there was still naughty stuff in there !

I had a really good gaming session with CDP 🧚‍♀️ , who also helped to keep my nibbling to a minimum !

I have gone wild & got a smartwatch to help track my steps , heart rate etc. Amongst other things it is reminding me to get my ass out of the chair on a regular basis!

I hope this flunk I’m in moves on tomorrow , I need to get this year started , preferably before November !

Final Thoughts:

I think everything that happend to trigger me over the holidays, that I suppressed, has ganged up with the SAD & mugged me - I hope that it will be a very short term thing!

A massive thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖

@actuallyautistic

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Ok Peeps , I’m being brutally forced out for a post birthday lunch by Mrs Squirrel! The harridan !

⌨️📴 Try not to break the interweb while I’m away 😁😜😁

Looking at the ‘unsupervised’ in the audience at the moment ! 😜

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Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 64 Monday 01/01/24

TL:DR New Year , new me ! ; Masto Peeps are totally awesome ! Mega New Years Shoutout !

I slept like the proverbial dead last night & woke up around 8:30am , had a peaceful day finishing our Star Trek fest.

Had a chat with my dear friend CDP 🧚‍♀️ , who was definitely feeling the after effects of pulling a 24 hour New Years Eve stint - I have never met anyone with such determination & drive , she still wanted to get her steps in & achieve her daily goals ! Cynni you are an inspiration !

Seems that although I texted every member of my family at midnight this morning & wished them a Happy New Year , not a single one of them felt the need to actually talk to me today, although all but my Dad did text me back, so I guess I should be glad of small mercies !

My New Year’s resolutions tie in closely with my plans for the year:

  1. Lose 120lbs - 55Kg of weight
  2. Get back to a level of fitness that allows me to maintain the lower weight & still eat.
  3. Fight the agoraphobia so I can get out of the house.
  4. Improve my mental health so I can function better
  5. Discard the detritus of the last 30 years & stop hoarding.
  6. Stop drinking daily & limit my cake intake !

See easy , simple resolutions 😆

Final Thoughts:

A new year will hopefully result in a new me , or at least a healthier , happier me.

I have have some awesome friends, & I would like to take the opportunity to recognise them here , if you want a list of top peeps to follow then this is pretty definitive! :

Victims, oops sorry, participants brace for impact 😜😂 - you may want to mute the thread after the first 1000 notifications or so 😈

This list is not in any order!

@evelynefoerster
@dgar
@si_irini
@Sneezy50783211
@DoubleTreble
@PaulNickson
@Paul
@countcol
@Bwee
@johnnyd_cm
@BlippyTheWonderSlug
@Cbfoley
@harriettmb
@RickiTarr
@skyfire747
@SilverRainbow
@Rasta
@kaybee335
@jacqui76
@ruperttherabbit
@EVDHmn
@pathfinder
@NormanDunbar
@niamhgarvey
@SurrealSeal
@Pierrette
@SteveClough
@CoachMark
@Rana
@amiserabilist
@PynkEmber
@ FiStitchWitch@mstdn.social (see I did think of you sweetie ! )

And of course not forgetting
@PlaystationPixy !

Please , for the love of Nuggan self police your threads , otherwise @theropologist (also a most awesome Peep & Admin) will prolly stuff me & mount me in the Beige.Party server room !

A massive thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖

@actuallyautistic
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #TheMammutMoves

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Dinner gong has bongeth.

⌨️📴 Try not to break the interweb while I’m away 😁😜😁

Tim_McTuffty, to random
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Morning peeps, day 3 of the lurgy & it’s not getting any better, so I’m afraid interrupted service is the best I can do.
Stay safe & have a lovely day folks, hopefully feel a bit more alive later 🫶🐿️🖖

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Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 28 Sunday 26/11/23

TL:DR 4am is in fact a real time of the morning 😆 ; Shopping is so much easier when shops are empty ! ; It really does not take a lot to spin my mood around ! ; Erm is it a good thing to feel like someone has just rammed a pipe cleaner thru your heart ?

Up at 4am , read & chatted with my closest friend until 8am.

Then a relaxed breakfast & some chatting on Mastodon led on to a trip to Costco.

It was super busy with queues not seen since the pandemic !
It was a little too crowded for me & either the number of other people in there or the lights set off a dizzy spell with a helping of nausea. So even though I went in with an eye for a Black Friday bargain we weren’t in there long enough.

The afternoon was a little challenging , a close friend was deeply upset by her dog being unwell, which because they are so close I felt too, this is absolutely not their fault , simply a cascading reaction to a furry friend in distress. Love to them both ! 🫂

Then multiple triggers were set off at home, nothing too serious but enough to make me change my mind about sticking to ‘corporation pop’ & moving to something a deal stronger. 🫤

The evening finished with the last instalment of the ‘Pirates of the Caribbean ’ fest & then a mad dash to get this diary entry out !

Intermittent LHS chest pains since the 12000 step walk have been slightly worrying, but I’m still alive & my obs are all normal so nowt to worry about I hope. After much experience of my version of chest pain & A&E visits the standing order in our house is ‘it’s fine so long as I haven’t passed out!’ .

Final Thoughts:

4am is a nice time to get up, if only because I can have a sneaky snooze between 7 & 8am & still be up to make breakfast on a Sunday 😊.

I think I may have broken some plumbing slightly on my walk the other day , will try a shorter one tomorrow & see where that gets me. Not to be rude but please don’t offer ‘advice’ unless your a cardiologist with a deep knowledge of CAE . Ta 🤗🥰

It seems I can be triggered on the spin of a penny almost !
All it takes is a minor, foolish , unthinking action by another & it spoils the rest of the day. 😞

Note to the couple of folks I know who are reading this by way of trying to learn about autism in others & how to relate to them: If you trigger someone by mistake, & you notice a sudden mood swing , it might help to find out the why of it & maybe try to address the action that caused the trigger.

Thanks to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you ! 😊🫶🐿️🖖

@actuallyautistic

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Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 3 Wednesday 1/11/23

TL:DR Sometimes all it needs is 1 extra straw to break the camels’ back!

I woke this morning at 4:30am , this is not a regular occurrence but as regular Squirrel fans will know it’s not unusual either.

It was dark, it was throwing it down with rain & I started thinking of the situations that could have played out differently had I not been autistic.

The first ones were laughing at inappropriate moments as a child & not really knowing why it wasn’t funny. That got me a detention & the smack from Dad on the relevant occasions.

Then there was the classic , sat in a small night club somewhere in the vicinity of Formby, aged 19 & chatting to 2 lasses from Preston Polly & then being invited back to their static caravan for ‘coffee’ . My autistic brain (not that I realised it at the time) saw the prospect of a 3 some as a social no no & thus I missed out on any junior adult males most treasured dream (certainly back in the eighties) !

It was in the heyday of my professional life that my ASD would truly short circuit my life. (Not that I knew that it was ASD at the time obviously.)
I got head hunted for a job as a Pre-Sales consultant for a small but well known (in certain circles) tech company . This seemed like a god send, however, as anyone who knows anything about Pre-sales will tell you , it involves people, LOTS of people , in lots of social situations . I could have picked a worst job I suppose , possibly unqualified neurosurgeon?
To say this was a mistake is up there with saying that building a racing yacht out of blotting paper is a world cup winning design!
I lasted 9 months then got sacked (the 1 & only time I was sacked from a job ) for lack of revenue generation. It was never the technical side, I had that off pat inside the first month , & the presentation skills. It was the social side that killed me every time!
This killed my mental health & my professional career! I would never again work at the top end of Mainframe support or have more than a week without some sort of MH issue. At the time I & I suspect my parents just thought I was a failure, know I realise it was, at least in part , down to the ASD!

These & similar thoughts , mixed in with my GPs failure to get to grips with the referral process & call me back yesterday as promised , led to me crashing this morning , it’s that final straw that breaks the camels back.

True the grey grisly day, stamping hard on the SAD trigger, & the daily dealing with household frustrations didn’t help , but that last little straw blew my morning out the water!

I am so lucky, because I have SO many friends on Mastodon who actually care , not only if I am present & correct of a day, but actually functional, that picked me up, cheered me up by main force & had me back up & running by lunchtime !

So I leave you with this thought, be careful what stones you lift when going back to examine your life thru the lens of your ASD, try not to run at 99.5% capacity & if you are lucky enough to have any form of support structure then you will overcome!

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Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 2 Tuesday 31/10/23

TL;DR Bloody Doctors!

So this morning I had an appointment with the Dr concerning an ongoing illness but I hoped that I could sneak in the paperwork for the ASD Diagnostic Assessment referral.

Hell no, nothing so simple whilst the Dr said he would kick off the process he also said that I needed to complete a form requesting him to do it.

So I tootled home & searched the requisite web page, found the right section, also found that what he had told me was a load of rubbish!

It seems there is no such form, & indeed no such initial process!

I rang the surgery to try & get some clarification to be told that he would be calling me back this afternoon …. No call so far. (16:07 GMT)

Ahhhh !!!!

So yon Dr knows that I have Chronic depression & anxiety issues & now ASD , so he thinks it’s a good idea to jump up & down on a few of my triggers 🙄🤦‍♂️

We’ll give him until 17:30 then write that call off as not happening & chase him up tomorrow.

AOB:

Yesterday (& possibly today, I have yet to read my feed ) a number of really close friends & a couple of not so close ones were kind enough to offer me their support & help in the this ongoing journey , I want to take the opportunity to sat thank you to them all (you know who you are 🤗🥰 ) .

I have been reflecting on what this initial diagnosis means to me & have settled on these points for now:

  1. There are a lot worse conditions I could suffer from, as a ‘high functioning ‘ ASD sufferer I am in charge of my faculties to a large extent.

  2. I have lived with effectively a whole other persona in me & never grasped that they were there.

  3. I know so little about autism, time to educate myself !

  4. I wonder if my ASD is why I like bullet pointed lists so much ?

Tim_McTuffty, to random
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Ok let’s try this again!

I’m not addicted to Mastodon , honestly !

Tim_McTuffty,
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@skyfire747 @HistoPol It is , one of my faves !

Tim_McTuffty, to actuallyautistic
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Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 52 Wednesday 20/12/23

TL:DR 🥱😴

Stayed up late last night to catch up with NMS . 1 more day for this expedition.

A mix of chores , chatting with CDP 🧚‍♀️ & playing NMS filled my day, I had a really nice day. 😊

A sudden onset of fatigue is making writing this really hard to concentrate on.

I really cannot string one thought together with another.

Final Thoughts:

I don’t know where this wave of exhaustion has come from , I can barely type!

An early night may be needed!

Thanks to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you ! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖

@actuallyautistic

Tim_McTuffty,
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@DoubleTreble @actuallyautistic I write the entries in Notes first then copy them across. - I really need a better app to do it in , I was hoping the new journal app in IOS 17.2 would do the trick but its only on the iphone , I hate writing long pieces on the phone !

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