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janisf

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#M4A #CleanEnergy #ESG #GlassBlowing #Feminism #Minnesota #UChicago (proud parent) #Pacisfism

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rasterweb, to random
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Current (evil!) temperature in my office...

janisf,
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@rasterweb That's a bit damp, too, and that makes that rather bone-chilling, no?

lolgop, to random
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Given that Trump has made it clear he wants Big Oil to finance him as ends democracy and anything we've ever done to fight climate change, this is a good time to say:

I'm looking for one person tonight to help me flip both statehouses in Arizona, the smartest political donation you can make in 2024.

https://www.grapevine.org/giving-circle/6orh0NK/Make-Arizona-the-Next-Michigan-and-Keep-Michigan-Michigan

janisf,
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@lolgop I'm poor as a church mouse, given my church wouldn't even hire me when I begged. That means I have friends like me. Multiple people are saying (quoting directly), "Democrats could end poverty with the donations they collect."

I know many small donations looks better on paper, but I'm going to ask everyone who asks for cash donations for a campaign to carefully target the ask. Those blanket asks are going to people who need actual blankets. This really, really isn't OK.

janisf,
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@joeinwynnewood @lolgop

I'm not saying people feel bad. I'm saying they're getting angry about the incessant asks while they still have no money to give. Saying "no" is work.

It's not me. I'm not here to defend them. I'm here to flag the Democratic campaigns I know need their tenuous votes. Please pass the word on.

compost, to climate
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I would love to see more accounts about on the fediverse.

Compost is a fantastic tool that can help us balance the . The more we talk about it, the more we can inspire people to start this wonderful habit.

Our habits make us, and talking about positive habits is a good thing in the toxic environment social media can be.

I would be honored if we had a community of accounts that talk about it, and you can be sure that you will be boosted, and followed and not feel like is a void.

janisf,
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@TammyGentzel @compost I use a municipal composting service. We have a huge, independent garden store that takes most of it, and some of it goes to local farmers who reliably sell at our (also municipally organized) farmers market.
One guy started the whole thing just by having the right conversations with key people. 450K people in the county have access to the service.

pathfinder, to Autism
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@actuallyautistic

Much to my shock I realised that I could be autistic when I was 53, roughly 7 years ago. And it was a shock, even though I suspect a very small, well hidden and very much ignored part of me, might have suspected. No one told me about it, or suggested that it might be the case. I did not see myself in relatives, the way so many of us do. I just happened to come across an autism test online and for no particular reason, took it.

It was that, that started me on my path to realising and finally accepting the truth that I was autistic. But, looking back, I sometimes find it hard to understand how I didn't know earlier. So much of my life now, just screams autism at me. But even ignoring the horribly ableist and medieval view I had of what autism was, the main reason why I didn't was probably because I could mask, both from myself and others, so well.

It was, I realise now, a life lived in denial. A denial of how much things bothered me, how much effort I had to put into things. Even a denial of the things I knew I couldn't do. Because this is the thing about appearing to mask so well, for so long. It is, in a sense, a lie. I couldn't mask well, if at all. Not all the time. Not in all situations or circumstances. There were things I just couldn't cope with, or even begin to deal with. But the trick was, that I either knew about them, or learnt the hard way about them and then I could manage my life to avoid them. Because they were things I could live without, without affecting how I appeared to be coping. Things that didn't affect the way I lived, even if they did affect my sense of worth. Because, how broken did you have to be, not to be able to go to crowded events, like a sports match, or a concert? Or to be able to deal with the socialising of a large gathering, or a family event, without having to hide in the kitchen, or forever outside, or break down in a toilet?

It was all part of how I masked myself from myself. The internal masking, as I like to call it. If I couldn't cope, then I was broken. If I couldn't stand something, then I was too picky, or sensitive, or I simply needed to learn to ignore it. And somehow I did learn. I learnt how to cope with noise and smell and visual overwhelm. I learnt to not let things bother me. To a point at least. There was always a step too far, when I couldn't, or didn't have the energy any more to maintain it. And this did take energy, a lot of it. Something I've only realising now that I don't have the energy to spare to even try it. Or the ability to, in many respects now that I know what I was trying so desperately to hide from.

Because when the truth is known, it's far harder to deny it. It's far harder to live the life where appearing to cope, is as good as coping. Where blaming yourself, is easier than seeing others faults. Where ignoring the pain, makes the pain go away. It's hard to see the mask as a benefit and always a good thing, rather than the shield and tool it always was.


janisf,
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@TheBreadmonkey @pathfinder @actuallyautistic It's a tough time, and it's OK to call it that.

It sounds to me like you've been struggling with yourself as if you've believed you're, as you put it, fundamentally broken. One thing the community has shown me is that in so many cases I was just trying to use the machine I've got for the wrong job, so to speak. My router is a terrible wood chipper.

Stay curious! There may not be an answer, but you can still make some beautiful things.

stux, (edited ) to random
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Today we learned that our elderly neighbour(the man) went to sleep for the last time in the hospital :sad_cat:

A little while ago he was fallen again and broke the upper leg and got into the hospital. He was in much pain and it went worse quickly unfort

He did get to say goodbye to the family and was in reasonable state for that❤️

It feels kinda weird since I was helping them out recently with (something simple) like the TV and now she's living somewhere else and he is basically gone🕯️

janisf,
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@stux Hugs 💔

StillIRise1963, to random
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If you’re interested to see how you’d fare during a confederate nazi administration, then don’t vote. You, your family and/or friends could get put in a camp, become enslaved, have no rights, sell out your friends, lose your livelihood. Who knows?! At least one of these things will happen to you or them.. So, play RUSSIAN roulette with your life and the lives of EVERYONE else.

janisf,
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@RustyBertrand @StillIRise1963 It's about trajectories. Republicans have always been more about bombing brown people, maximizing the profit from it, making the rich richer. That Biden wasn't able to uninstall 6 hyper-conservative SCOTUS justices wasn't a function of Biden, it's the bastions of conservatism built into a system erected by conservatives to protect themselves & their wealth.

Biden is a centrist. We don't have a Lefitst choice, but I'm sure as hell not going to roll over.

janisf, to random
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https://www.reuters.com/world/africa/russian-troops-enter-base-housing-us-military-niger-us-official-says-2024-05-02/

> Russian military personnel have entered an air base in Niger that is hosting U.S. troops, a senior U.S. defense official told Reuters, a move that follows a decision by Niger's junta to expel U.S. forces from the country.

Uair, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

I can't remember the last time they let me stay asleep for a minute. Literally. I measure my sleep in seconds now.

janisf,
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@Uair @actuallyautistic Who's they?

janisf,
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@Uair @actuallyautistic First, I'm so terribly sorry it's been so rough for you. dear god.... I am so sorry.

Although I'm happy to listen, no, I don't want any more state secrets. I make a better straightforward protester without them. And besides, I hear it's easier to say,, "I don't know," when you really don't.

I hope you can find a moment or two of peace here & there, and see it when they do come. Hugs.

StillIRise1963, to random
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He calls the police “we,” not THEM.

janisf,
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@StillIRise1963 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rStL7niR7gs

Yes, if you work for the government, other government employees are "we," whether you want to call it that or not. Theoretically, in a democracy, that "we" applies to all citizens.

26pglt, to actuallyautistic
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This account of a teenager & his family is heartbreaking 💔.

Families raising kids who have violent meltdowns struggle to find support. Kids like this are acutely vulnerable to the influence of anyone who is kind to them & any group in which they find acceptance. For those of us who experience meltdowns, learning to understand & manage our overwhelm & the eruptions it leads to is a lifelong journey. For most of us it’s full of failure & shame. Where & how can we find acceptance & love? How can we learn to be gentle with ourselves?

I think many folk, especially those of us who grew up undiagnosed & unsupported then raised similarly undx, distressed, overwhelmed & volatile autistic kids while unable to find help, would shudder with recognition at elements of this tragic story.

My heart goes out to this family ❤️‍🩹 @actuallyautistic

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-04-29/parents-of-teenager-who-stabbed-bishop-give-first-interview/103767910?utm_source=abc_news_app&utm_medium=content_shared&utm_campaign=abc_news_app&utm_content=other

janisf,
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@moz ✋ @26pglt @actuallyautistic

janisf,
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@moz @26pglt @actuallyautistic To be fully transparent, my pool of spouse options was tiny, there wasn't any physical abuse, and I've pegged a couple cultural and gender-related factors that can't be denied.

That said, yes, that aspect of our lives triggered the bulk of my maternal defense mechanisms. I know I could have been a better mom if I'd been diagnosed and been able to manage spoons being backed up by medical pros.

janisf,
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@moz @26pglt @actuallyautistic yeah, I'm in the years-long process of trying to get my mom to have her cognitive decline monitored, happens to pretty much everyone, but she won't even make a phone call. it's that same "nothing wrong with me, and I'm insulted you might suggest it" vibe. IMO it's just arrogant (and exactly what needs to be treated) if you think you can outsmart cognitive assessments. It's like she doesn't want her car to be seen at the mechanic's, even for good maintenance.

janisf,
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@moz @26pglt @actuallyautistic I am so very, very lucky to have such a wonderful GP. She'll back me and give me a referral to a different provider for any reason. I was mis-billed by one, and she just aid, "Try these people." I'm also in a city where there are enough providers to hop around to.

They're not all bad. And if you find good ones and go there, the one square of "free market" that works for consumers should theoretically kick in.

So sorry it's been so rough.

janisf,
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@moz @26pglt @actuallyautistic

big friendly letters 😂

janisf,
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@moz @26pglt @actuallyautistic Ouch. Got anything you can safely complain about to a new GP network? headaches? GI issues?

RustyBertrand, to random
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janisf,
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@RustyBertrand This is point blank ableist.

janisf,
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@RustyBertrand People who are disabled can't participate, sometimes even take a position. Remaining neutral isn't always a choice.

janisf,
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@Radical_EgoCom @RustyBertrand

You're missing the point.

Please find a way to hang out with some disabled people. I'm sure a few will be able to understand and be excited you invited them along.

janisf,
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@Radical_EgoCom @RustyBertrand the rhetorical and philosophical point that there is a gray zone, one that allows for excuses, but also for forgiveness. This is the liminal space disabled people live in.

What we need to inspect is what each of us holds as forgivable, who falls in line with it, who doesn't and why. Specifically we need to look at when we ourselves fall into it.

The stark, simple abstraction leaves out a morally/philosophically critical population.

StillIRise1963, to random
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You can pick the sadist nazi narcissist who promises to put millions in camps, seeks SCOTUS approval to assassinate rivals and murder anyone he wants when he’s told you he has a VENDETTA, or you can pick the other guy who does some tangibly good things, even if there are other things we’d like to not happen or change, and doesn’t THREATEN OUR VERY LIVES.

janisf,
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@StillIRise1963 I've long argued the the Democratic party is centrist, and the Republican is hard right, even the "moderates." There is no hard left party, in large part because where the center goes, so goes the nation. And we are a right-leaning nation.

As far as Palestine goes, just imagine if it were Jared Kuschner instead of Anthony Blinken. Imagine if Ukraine had already lost. Imagine the Saudi oil we'd be burning though. Imagine how Trump would be handing this.

Get.an.imagination.

janisf,
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@amerika @StillIRise1963 The left is a mess, frankly. It's all over the place depending on who you talk to. The lack of organization and organizing principles on the left is arguably why the US is a right-leaning nation.

janisf,
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@amerika @StillIRise1963 The left disorganized because it doesn't have church to go to every week.
It's disorganized because it's multilingual and culturally inclusive.
It's disorganized because it's fighting for the rights of those who have mental illnesses and communication difficulties.
it's disorganized because by definition it lacks the resources (money) the establishment has.
Disorganization isn't a bad thing. It just is. We need to see it in and outside ourselves. We have work to do.

StillIRise1963, to random
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The government, media and people at large lied about the motives of protesters in the Civil Rights Movement too.

janisf,
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@StillIRise1963 This came out three days after the NYT tried to peg NPR as liberal-biased. So proud of them! https://www.npr.org/2024/04/21/1244899635/civil-war-confederate-statue-markers-sign-history

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