I constantly struggle because my brain has made connections that are not obvious to others, and when I try to guide them through my thinking I confuse them with details or by skipping explanations that seem obvious to me but completely surprising to anyone else.
@actuallyautistic@actuallyadhd I’ve also been told that my explanation style leans too far into being bottom-up (I start from details and then zoom out).
And that confuses me because well - I’m walking people through the details that helped me piece together the high-level conclusions!
I always feel like I should let people figure it out themselves, but then they get confused and frustrated and ask why I’m dumping irrelevant details on them.. 🥲🥲
The more I learn about #history of the Soviet Union, the more I realize just how much my native #Ukraine was actively stifled, prevented from developing and innovating, and forced into this image of a backwards and hopeless nation.
Our people have always been so phenomenal, talented, ambitious, kind, and creative. But they’ve been punished, scared, and intimidated into a terrible subservient existence for so many decades and centuries.
@mariyadelano Not only Ukraine. I've just finished a book about how parts of modern China were devastated and terrorized by communists. Red plague and brown plague are basically the same.
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I often use exactly the same phrase: "highly regulated capitalism". However, some sectors of the economy are probably more efficiently run in a "socialist" way, like healthcare. Season 2 of the Dr. Death podcast shows how capitalist healthcare literally incentivizes murder - if the US properly regulated healthcare to counteract that incentive, the cost would be prohibitive. I believe public utilities should also be publicly owned/"socialized", as they used to be when I was a kid.
Full disclosure: I’m a paying customer of Ghost and have spoken to @johnonolan directly multiple times - he and his non-profit fully share our vision of the open independent web and I genuinely think we should be welcoming them to the #Fediverse with open arms 🤗
Half the inbound leads we get these days just leave me with my jaw of the floor.
I would have never dared to send outreach to any of these companies because I thought we were too small for them. And here they are, one inbound call after another.
Don't start an agency if you hate service-based businesses.
It won't be your path to "passive income", endless riches, fame, or whatever else you're imagining.
You can't build a great company if you hate your own business model. No amount of productizing your services, outsourcing, playing voodoo with your margins, or pretending you're happy on social media will make up for your disdain of the very business you're creating.
Service-based businesses aren't a toy. Stop acting like it.
@mariyadelano I worked for a tech marketing agency in the early 1990s and got to see everything marketing was made of before smiley techbros shit all over it for a fast buck
Something I haven’t talked about publicly because I’m scared someone in my family will see it:
In trying to heal my #BPD and #cPTSD I’ve had to dig deep into my childhood and look for the roots of my #trauma.
And this time… I found them. Or rather - “it”. There is just one root for all of my many many many mental health troubles and life issues for as long as I remember.
It’s my mother.
My mother, who I still maintain contact with. She was my abuser.
She lied to make me believe it was the rest of the world that hated me. To make sure I didn’t run from her. To make me feel trapped in a scary terrifying universe where the only safety came from the woman who would hurt and torture me.
She told me my friends hated me. That my teachers laughed at me behind my back. That other family members couldn’t wait to get rid of me.
I’ve had to make some very difficult decisions as an executive lately.
A team member who was a personal favorite of mine began underperforming and despite many second chances and attempts to help, kept getting worse in terms of their work until they nearly jeopardized the entire project. They also began lashing out at me and other team members in a way that was completely unacceptable.
And yet after letting them go I keep wondering if I was too harsh. If it was my fault. Ugh.
Yes, even now. Even when you feel like you have a million obligations to get to. Even when you feel like you haven’t earned it yet. Even when it’s “not the right time”.
It’s your life, dammit. Enjoy it. Do the things that make life worth living.
If you’re happy, you’re gonna be able to take care of others and meet your obligations better. You aren’t helping anyone by hurting yourself.
What started out as one of the best weeks of my life ended up as a complete disaster.
I made one of the worst mistakes in my entire time in business so far, cost myself and my team money, lost trust of people important to me, ended up getting into a 5 day long BPD episode with panic attacks and full delusional paranoia, hurt people I love, and now I’m afraid that tomorrow will bring even more bad news as a result. My mental health is in shambles.
@mariyadelano mistakes happen, hope there are useful lessons from them, that nothing critical is irremediable, that you have the time to breath and plan the next move.
As hard as it can be, I try not to judge on mistakes (unless they were warnings or obvious hints to them), but rather how people handle them, how much they care about making it right. I think you do care, that's a good start.