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BootsChantilly

@BootsChantilly@mstdn.social

Mom to 1 adult human & 4 dogs, wife, soCal desert rat, EV driver, reunited prochoice adoptee. Retired ad creative. Generation Jones. Lifelong feminist. Searchable #PsoriaticSpondylitis

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BootsChantilly, to random
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Mr. Boots stayed up 'til midnite to get some pics of the #AuroraBorealis ! This is my favorite--no adjustments or filters. #SoCal

RickiTarr, to random
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So, what's the thing, what's the big thing no one can help you with? How do you cope with it?

BootsChantilly,
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@RickiTarr Being told by all of society that starting life losing my mother, father, siblings, extended family, identity, heritage & ancestry was of no consequence & no importance.

BootsChantilly,
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@RickiTarr All my life. Constantly. I should be grateful to be adopted, & because I was adopted as an infant, I was a blank slate. That's what we were all told--the adoption industry pushed that as the primary narrative--much of the industry still does. Crazy LC used to tell me I was born when I was adopted, & that that's all that mattered.

BootsChantilly,
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@RickiTarr Even worse, most of society believes that.

BootsChantilly,
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@TCMuffin You’re allowed to feel however you feel, of course, & I’ll never argue with another adoptee about their experience.

I will say that I know there were aspects of adoption I never thought about or looked at that still significantly impacted my emotional health & behavior, especially when it came to relationships.

Your mileage may vary. @RickiTarr

BootsChantilly,
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@TCMuffin I had a miserable adoption, too. Crazy LC completely neglected us, & Rubberbutt beat us half to death on the regular & started molesting me when I was about 4. I was on my own at 15. There are SO many adoptees who’ve had or are having abusive childhoods. Sadly, it doesn’t even occur to most of society that adoption can be abusive, as the dominant narrative portrays it as nothing but unicorns & rainbows & adoptive parents as saints & saviors. @RickiTarr

BootsChantilly,
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@RickiTarr I was lucky. I was able to afford lots of therapy in my 40s & 50s. Not to mention a really good therapist. I wish I’d found her in my 20s & had started working on my issues then, but bottom line, I’m lucky to have found her at all. It’s VERY hard to find an adoption-centric therapist whose focus & knowledge base is about ADOPTEE issues, rather than those of adopters. @TCMuffin

BootsChantilly,
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@mmiasma So much truth. I searched all my life—but I wasn’t really focused on finding relationships; I wanted ANSWERS. I found my mother when I was 50 & identified my father (who had died in ‘97) 3 yrs later. I did end up with a couple of wonderful relationships, but they were icing on the cake. Getting answers made me whole. @RickiTarr

BootsChantilly, to random
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It hurt, & it sucked, but I survived, & I’m home. Imma have a gummy & a nap. 😘

BootsChantilly, to random
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I’m at the imaging lab. Traffic was light, so I’m early. There was so much great music playing during the drive, & it sure did ease my anxiety. Ian Hunter, T. Rex, Patti Smith, Foo Fighters, a-ha, Todd Rundgren, Cigarettes After Sex, Bruno Mars, Krokus, Queen, Killers, Garth Brooks, & my fave Judas Priest song ever, The Hellion/Electric Eye.

BootsChantilly, to random
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A must-read.

Texas isn't the only state pushing for an end to no-fault divorce--Nebraska, Mississippi, & Louisiana are, too, & many more will follow. Red states want to trap women in pregnancy & in marriage, & they don't care how many of us die as a result. They're misogynists & abusers, & they want to take us back to a time when (white) men had all the power & we had none. https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2023/09/no-fault-divorce-texas-republican-gop-crowder/?ref=shedissents.us

BootsChantilly,
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Another article on the subject: https://msmagazine.com/2023/05/24/no-fault-divorce-women-republicans/?ref=shedissents.us

BootsChantilly,
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And one more: https://www.aclusd.org/en/news/attacks-no-fault-divorce-are-dangerous-especially-those-experiencing-domestic-violence?ref=shedissents.us

BootsChantilly,
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I'll say one more thing, & this is addressed to young women of "marrying" &/or "child-bearing age" (I hate those vomit-inducing phrases, but I think you understand my purpose in using them), & that's that if I were young--at this time, in this country--there's no way in hell I'd get married. No. Way. In. Hell.

I'd be down at my OB/GYN getting an IUD inserted like YESTERDAY, as well.

BootsChantilly,
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@stux There are very real practical advantages to it here.

BootsChantilly, to random
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Remember last month when I chickened out the morning of my #ThyroidBiopsy & rescheduled it?

It was rescheduled for tomorrow, May 10.

Will I go?

I guess we all shall see. 😣

BootsChantilly,
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@samhainnight Thank you XOX

BootsChantilly, to random
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Brody Dalle 👊🏻 https://youtu.be/i3vFCPc5UCU?si=lBlrcDu8qlJafeF4

BootsChantilly, to animals
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You guys know I'm not at all religious, but I still love this Barsotti cartoon w/ all my heart--it's one of my all-time faves. I hope the universe will let me reunite with my doggos in one way or another. I just hope we all get to be together again someday.

BootsChantilly, to animals
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Tink (in back) has had what we thought was a tooth abscess for a couple of days—we were giving her antibiotics, but today, she seemed like she was getting worse, so we went to the emergency vet. It was cancer—& it had already spread to her lymph glands. So we’ve lost our Tink, but hopefully, she’s reunited with Tibby (in front). I can’t believe they’re both gone. My heart won’t stop breaking. #Tinkabell #TheOGChi #DogsOfMastodon

BootsChantilly,
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She was 2 yrs old when we adopted her—she’d been living on the street, but a cpl of women who worked for the Santa Clarita PD spent weeks trying to nab her & finally got their hands on her w/ a McDonalds cheeseburger. She was skin & bones, had hypothyroidism & a broken leg. But she recovered & turned into the sweetest, cuddliest, goofiest little Chi ever. We had 12 yrs with her. It wasn’t enough, & I don’t know what I’ll do w/o her. 💔 #Tinkabell #TheOGChi

iPhone photo of my little golden brown Chihuahua, Tink, lying on her back on our bed—she’s smiling as she looks in the camera lens with big brown eyes & her front feet are curled up to her chest

AlSweigart, to random
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If a homeless person is fined $65 and a millionaire is fined $65, they have not been equally punished.

The millionaire won't even realize they've been punished.

BootsChantilly,
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@AlSweigart Trump’s fines are nothing more than the (laughably low) cost of intimidating witnesses, et al. He says whatever he wants, digs a little change out of one of his tacky gold sofa’s cushions & tosses that to the court. So that he can do it again tomorrow. & the next day. & the next.

BootsChantilly, to random
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Happy Sunday, Mastodon 🙂

BootsChantilly, to random
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I lol-ed.

BootsChantilly,
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@justafrog It’s Brubeck. He totally can. 😉

BootsChantilly,
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@msquebanh Oh, thank you for posting that!

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