EVDHmn

RickiTarr, 22 hours ago to random

So, what's the thing, what's the big thing no one can help you with? How do you cope with it?

Uair, 1 day ago to actuallyautistic

@actuallyautistic

How are you with animals?

I tend to throw off the wrong vibe for people, but get along with even the iffy animals. Dogs that don't like most people warm to me.

Just wondering how much of that is autism and how much me. My dad hates animals.

RickiTarr, 1 day ago to random

Where do you live and how do you feel about it?

Obviously, don't tell me exactly where you live, no actual addresses please! You can be as vague as you like.

I live in Central Missouri in the U.S.

Pros:

This is an absolutely beautiful place, green rolling hills, lots of rivers, lakes, ponds, and natural springs, cool caves to explore.

Lots of farming here, so great access to quality fruits, vegetables, meat, eggs, and dairy.

It's relatively inexpensive to live here compared with other states, because it's a "flyover".

I'm close enough to three major cities, that it's an easy day trip, and I'm about halfway to anywhere in the U.S.

We have one of the best Conservation departments in the U.S. and this is one of the few things that is a bipartisan issue. Lots of awesome nature programs that are free or cheap, state parks, conservation areas, bird watching, hunting, boating, foraging available to everyone.

Cons:

Yeah, it's a big one, it is a RED STATE, while a lot of the cities are blue, there is a large rural population, that votes red. Abortion is not legal here. People often vote against their own self interest.

While I'm not against responsible gun ownership, lots of people aren't responsible, and people have access to guns that definitely should not.

We have very few employee protections here, while the cost of living is relatively low compared with other places, it's taken years to get to a $12 minimum wage, and it's still not enough.

sundogplanets, 3 days ago to random

Got the electronet out and set up, and now all the 4 legged animals are out on grass for the first time this year! They are sooooo happy. (And the llama doesn't seem to have any thoughts of escape, so that's great).

A herd of over a dozen white goats with a couple of brown and black goats sprinkled in. They are 100% concentrating on eating. They are in a bright green grassy area, with a tall wooden fence, tall spruce trees, and a large old yellow barn in the background. There are lovely poofy clouds in a bright blue sky above.

TheBreadmonkey, 3 days ago to random

I hope there's some government agency or shadowy cabal being forced to read all of my communications. Poor bastards.

RickiTarr, 3 days ago to random

What cracks me up is when you go to a restaurant, and they ask if you've been there before, and then they say, "Well, we do things a little different here", and then it's exactly like every other restaurant, but more expensive.

stefan, 3 days ago to fediverse

How long does it take for a fediverse post to reach followers on 740 servers?

https://stefanbohacek.com/blog/data-on-sending-a-post-into-the-fediverse/

#fediverse #data

RickiTarr, 3 days ago to random

Halp!!! I got deodorant in my mouth!

EVDHmn, 4 days ago to ADHD

@actuallyautistic
Thought a lot of people could use this song.
@actuallyadhd

#actutallyautistic #adhd
https://youtu.be/TqhBsZT-PLo

DeborahLeagueFineArt, 4 days ago to photography

The door, where does it lead?

ART - https://deborah-league.pixels.com/featured/ancient-doors-with-decorative-pulls-modena-italy-deborah-league.html

#photography #door #Italy #travelphotography #ayearforart #buyintoart #mastodonart #mastoart #fediart #fediverse #fedigiftshop #giftideas #art #artist #arte #artwork #artmatters #artbooster #colorful #wallart #homedecor #kunst #interiordesign #creativetoots #artforsale #artprints

adelinej, 7 days ago to Autism

I have just watched the 1st episode of A Kind of Spark thanks to @PetitPas

It’s a Irish British American Canadian series. In Canada I’m watching it on CBC Gem, in the UK it seems to be on the CBBC channel, for the others countries I don’t know.

I like it because the 3 autistic sisters are played by autistic actors, use of the words autistic, masking, meltdown. etc. Shows sensory overload, etc., ignorance and bias.

To watch it in Canada https://gem.cbc.ca/a-kind-of-spark

#ActuallyAutistic #autism

dgar, 8 days ago to random

May the Fourth be with you.

EVDHmn, 8 days ago to Bloomscrolling

#bloomscrolling
I was out the other day after a rain and got to capture some shots around the yard.
Enjoy 😊
I hope I got these right.

A little vivid pink hyacinth popping up within a background of dark and light ground around the bed.

ianRobinson, 9 days ago to Autism

Autistic woman in hiding after friend calls for chat without providing agenda for conversation

😂😂😂

#Comedy #Autism https://thedailytism.com/autistic-woman-in-hiding-after-friend-calls-for-chat-without-providing-agenda-for-conversation/

EVDHmn, 9 days ago to random

@Binder
Thanks for the boost! I appreciate it!

EVDHmn, 9 days ago to random

Does anyone else start the day by seemingly hours to find a groove to roll on?

It’s like my mind is trying to tune in my body and brain, and brain and body is like, “no no, not yet be patient”, some days at best it’s like trying to watch life with noise. I know some have it worse. 🤷‍♀️

Its not like I feel horrible, I’m more then a bit 🥱. I slept plenty. Lots of socializations yesterday I forget sometimes, even if I’m enjoying myself I pay for it.

pathfinder, 11 days ago to Autism

@actuallyautistic

No matter how well I learnt to mask, no matter how well I learnt to get on with people, if not in any deep and meaningful way, at least superficially. There has always been one skill that I have never mastered and that is simply the ability to not upset people and especially without having the slightest idea how.

Or that I didn't for a long time, anyway. It was only when I realised that I was autistic and that the way I looked at the world was in some ways substantively different from the way many allistics looked at the world, that I began to understand something. Allistics tend to find validation externally, through feedback from the group or the part of society that they identify with, whereas autistics tend to find it within themselves, in their own reason and sense of worth and value.

Now I must stress that in many respects this is a generalisation and obviously there will be a lot of variation and degree in how true this is. But in its more extreme forms, it could very well explain many of the experiences and difficulties that I've had.

Because if someone's self-worth, the value they see in their life and actions, is almost entirely based on their interactions with the dynamics of the group they identify with, or the society they live within and not from their own judgement, then this could lead to certain choices and reactions that are quite frankly alien to someone like me and that I could easily end up in conflict with and all without really trying to.

For example, if the value of a child reflects back on its parents. Then in the extreme case the values and behaviour expected from that child, are not those of the child, but of the parents in terms of the group the child is meant to be representing them in and how well it is doing that. So any sense of divergence from that or criticism of that child, no matter how slight that might be, could easily be seen as an attack on the parents and reacted to accordingly, irrespective of how reasonable or just it was.

Equally, of course, worth, praise, or rewards, can also become divorced from any sense of reality. All that matters is that you, whether that's through your children or not, are being valued, not whether there is any justice to it. Because the truth or validity of it, is not based on how you see yourself, but only on how others see you. And in the extreme case, it doesn't even matter how they came to this view, as long as they have it. So worth can become something to be manipulated and played for and how you really are and how you actually feel about yourself becomes almost irrelevant to this process.

That people could even be this way, that everything could become how you're being perceived and anything that effects that negatively can be something to be attacked, is still something that I struggle to understand. It is so foreign to my nature. But, it certainly explains so many of the times that I've upset people, because I wasn't playing this game, or seeing the world the way I should and didn't even realise it.

#Autism
#ActuallyAutistic