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Gorfram

@Gorfram@beige.party

Curmudgeoness & Bluestocking. Politics indigo, language ultraviolet. Adrift upon the cryptic tides of life. Likes to use big words & play at being all intellectual. Retired engineer. Mostly harmless.

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teacherbuknoy, to random
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Have you ever stopped to think what Isaac must've felt after his father tried to kill him in the name of God? How he must've always wondered if his father loved him, and if he did, how could he have sacrificed him so easily just because God promised a land and another son, so replaceable, so disposable? Did he think that he was just like his father's sheep, another one of his properties he's willing to sell off?

Now, think about how your practice of religion affects your children.

Gorfram,
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@teacherbuknoy That was my first thought when I first heard the story. I’ve always assumed that Isaac grew up to leave home at the first opportunity, and to avoid religious practice whenever possible.

*IDK if there’s info in the Bible about Isaac’s later life that contradicts this. My religious education was kind of wildly sporadic.

fkamiah17, to random
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😂 😂🙄
Woman whose only claim to fame is an affair with Spaffer dissects women's politics.

Gorfram,
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@fkamiah17 Feminism has left middle-aged women like me single, childless, and probably much happier than we would be otherwise.

It has also left us comfortable with saying “Go fuck yourself.”

sheepnik, to random
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Wok-a-moley is a great name for a takeaway place.

Gorfram,
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@sheepnik @TheBreadmonkey @helenclayton @purplepadma Ah, the famous automobile brake service chain.

_L1vY_, to random
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If you have a dog as your avi at some level I really think you are a talking dog

Gorfram,
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@_L1vY_ So, do you have any real evidence that I’m not a texting cat?

Gorfram,
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@thepoliticalcat @_L1vY_ So, the evidence that I’m not a texting cat is that the cat that I am not does not appear to mind you texting?

That …checks out.

GrimmReality, to random
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We should all pay proper respect to Tori Amos by pronouncing her name like a Spanish verb.

Gorfram,
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@GrimmReality My high school Spanish is failing me here. Would that make it “to-REE-uh-mos”?

*preferably with a trilled R?

Gorfram,
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@GrimmReality Muchas gracias.

Yes, that is wonderful. I said it out loud immediately (indeed trilling the ‘r’); and am now waiting wishing hoping for the artist in question it is to play ones of those towns called Torremolinos.

Alice, to random
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I lost my engagement ring and I'm shopping for a replacement, but I'm overwhelmed because there are so many different kinds and I’m having a hard time choosing between a bellybutton ring or toe ring.

Gorfram,
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@Alice I think I need you to define “tasteful” as used within this context.

HeavenlyPossum, to random
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The idea of human beings as rational utility-maximizing particles with insatiable hedonic desires is very much the product of an ideological project to justify capitalism as “natural” and has virtually no relationship to how actual human beings live but a lot of people have genuinely internalized it.

Trying to derive “human nature” by observing people under capitalist modernity is like looking at a bored, depressed wolf obsessively pacing a circle in a tiny zoo enclosure and concluding that this is “wolf nature.”

Gorfram,
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@HeavenlyPossum @Oggie. It’s interesting that in this example & at least 3 of the 4* in the post above it, the people involved were non-White.

*I don’t know enough about the history of Trypilia, or of race, to be sure of the 4th.

Gorfram,
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@HeavenlyPossum Yikes! I didn’t mean to open (or even to bthreaten) a discussion anywhere near that large.

The only real idea behind my post was that there often seems to be a strong correlation between capitalism & European culture/whiteness.

*from my limited sphere of quasi-intellectual observation

RickiTarr, to random
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Add in Eww you shouldn't take those pills, you just need to try this diet I'm doing, and exercise the way I do, and you got the whole ableism crew:

Gorfram,
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@RickiTarr Someone once suggested, in apparent seriousness, that I could cure my disability by going to Mexico for coffee enemas.

☕️🍑 👀🙈

skinnylatte, to food
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Speaking of how the food cultures you grew up with impacts you:

When I left Southeast Asia, I only knew how to cook mostly French and Italian foods. It didn't make sense to cook Malay or Indonesian or Chinese foods because, well I could buy it cheaply any time I wanted. In that region.

I learned quickly that because I had never eaten a simple meal my entire life, eating food that was prepared simply made me extremely sad. Like, mental health bad / my life is bad / why did I leave, bad

Gorfram,
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@skinnylatte @pmonks …they hand-delivered to me without charge & outside their delivery area. The chef’s mother was often the one to hand me my pickup food; &, despite a big language barrier, communicated such love to me that it helped fill the the gap left by not being able to see my own mother during lockdown.
I’d still be going there if they hadn’t had to go back to an all events-catering model after lockdown ended. If I ever throw a big party, they will cater it.

Gorfram,
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@skinnylatte @pmonks [Western white person barges into thread]
During covid lockdown, I wound up picking up a week’s worth of Indian takeout every Sunday. The food was good, as the online reviews had led me to expect; but I was surprised & nearly bowled over by the love that accompanied the food. Everyone there knew my car, the chef remembered what I liked & what I didn’t order again. A few times a miscommunication led to problems with my order, and…

Alice, to random
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Throwback to about fifteen years ago when I thought it would be funny to have a beer koozie with the "baby on board" sign on it, but I had to place a custom order with a minimum and ended up with 25 of them.

Gorfram,
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@Alice Well, since gender reveal parties weren’t a thing yet, I guess beer koozie birth* announcements had to do.

*rather, non-birth announcements
**strictly, non-birth non-announcements

GrimmReality, to random
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I know actual fuckall about dance as an art or a medium but sometimes stumble across a work of pure transcendent beauty and respond to it, as one does, by saying HOLY FUCKING SHIT.

If you could use something like that for three minutes, here you go.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=REPPgPcw4hk

Gorfram,
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@GrimmReality This is so good & filmed so well.

And that chair-kick moment…

RickiTarr, to random
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Why do you think so many people are obsessed with murder?

Gorfram, (edited )
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@RickiTarr Are people actually obsessed with murder?
…Outside of its being a reliable plot device as old as Cain and Abel.
…And of war & genocide.
…& not including of the ongoing sacrifice of human lives to the voracious gods of capitalism.
…Also not including domestic violence and the other generally banal scenarios in which most instances of actual people actually killing each other take place.

Okay, maybe people are obsessed with murder.

Gorfram,
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@RickiTarr @Jennifer @notroot I like true crime, although I have to take it in small doses. It makes me feel like I know what to watch out for; and like whatever sh*t is going on my life isn’t so bad by comparison.

StefanThinks, to random
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I saw a clip about kids from a Black HS having breakfast with kids from a White HS. A white girl said it would be uncomfortable if she invited a Black friend to her house because her parents “are older.” That's absurd, her parents have to be Gen X’ish, that's what Gen Xers said about their parents.

Gorfram,
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@StefanThinks I'm old enough to be a high school kid's grandmother. I'd be delighted to host a Black person for dinner any day of the week*. Don't know that I'd be delighted to host that white HS girl, though.

*oldster phrase inserted for authenticity

the_etrain, to random
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I have to go to a work dinner tonight, and it turns out this building rests on a concrete slab, so digging a tunnel to hide in is no longer an option.

Gorfram,
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@the_etrain You just need to bring a jackhammer with you to the dinner.

msquebanh, (edited ) to random
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This is for me to gauge how others think about a sensitive social issue.

I have taken a strong personal stance on it myself & suffered some backlash from a small number of people who believe blood is more important than anything else.

Would you keep on defending close family members who have raped & abused multiple women? When there's no question they're serial abusers/rapists of women? (And you're a woman, yourself)

Gorfram,
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@CassandraZeroCovid @msquebanh Sometimes it comes down to two choices:

  1. You believe that Male Family Member could not ever commit rape. Therefore, no rape occurred, and all evidence of said rape must be refuted, rejected, &/or buried.
  2. You accept the evidence, & believe that Male Family Member can & did commit rape. You must now act accordingly; and those actions may result in you getting divorced, losing your home, getting written out of wills, and/or being rejected by your friends, your church, & other social groups.

It is a very rare & brave person who takes option #2. So rare that I’ve never actually met one myself.

Gorfram, to random
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Foggy this morning. I’m not sure whether to be delighted or disturbed by the slight lavender hue to the early morning light.

RickiTarr, to random
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Since I've talked a lot about change today, I'll ask a question about it:

If you've changed something in your life or about yourself, how did you do it, and why?

Gorfram, (edited )
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@RickiTarr Easy(-ish): Changed my printing/handwriting/writing-by-hand from "should have been a doctor" to "frequently legible;" by spending about a year making my way through a workbook full of exercises for the purpose.

Hard As Hell, but not strictly voluntary: Stopped giving AF whether other people thought I was adequately/appropriate feminine; partly though maturity & growing self-confidence but most through a series of very painful hormone treatments for extraordinarily painful endometriosis.

Harder Than The Jaggedly Adamantine Rocks Of Darkest Hades: Learning how to let go of the intense self-hatred I'd developed through childhood trauma; through 40-ish years of various types & intensities of therapy (*this work remains in progress).

StillIRise1963, to random
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I'm an infertile atheist. In a fit of desperation while doing IVF, I went into a church and promised that if I could have children, I'd have them baptized. I had twins and returned to fulfill my promise because of superstition. I was then told that because they were IVF babies, they had no souls and couldn't be baptized. So, I went back to my original FUCK RELIGION stance. 🙄

Gorfram,
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@StillIRise1963 Congratulations on your beautiful babies.

GrimmReality, to random
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Starbucks' brand slogan isn't "From Hell's heart, I make coffee for thee" so they can fuck right off for wasting my time.

Gorfram,
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@GrimmReality Is there a coffee company with that slogan? Because that would absolutely be my coffee company.

GrimmReality, (edited ) to random
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A lot of us hate Escape (The Piña Colada Song) for being twee garbage but even I can admit we might think a bit differently about it if it ended in the noir-ish murder-suicide the narrative was pretty obviously setting up.

Gorfram,
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@GrimmReality I think “making love”, as in sex, got its start as a euphemism for “making whoopie,” not as in “making Whoopie pies.”

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