What to do if you're 40 and you've realised you can't stand office work at all because you have #ADHD, but the only job experience you have is 13 years of being a software engineer?
Add to that the constraint that you can't go to school to re-educate yourself because school is just office work you don't get paid for?
What kind of job can you even get in that situation? I've been thinking about that for 4 years now and I don't have any good answers. 🤷♂️
EDIT: I did not respond well to medical ADHD treatment. Bad side effects. Many people get those, but it's not talked about much.
@thor Min bror blev av med arbetet som elektriker för många år sedan och när han hittade ett temporärt jobb inom hemtjänsten informerade tjänstemannen på Arbetsförmedlingen om att han skulle få mindre pengar som anställd där än att fortsätta gå arbetslös på på A-kassa.
Jag tror att min bror tappade mycket av sin tilltro till det svenska välfärdssystemet där och då.
@nakenbadaren De fleste som snakker varmt om velferdssystemene vi har i Skandinavia har aldri opplevd noe verre enn å være arbeidsløs i en kort periode, og de pengene man får da, de har man i realiteten betalt inn selv ved å jobbe.
Selv har jeg gått tom for slik støtte fordi det har gått for lang tid. Og fordi det har gått lang tid, er det mer utfordrende å finne arbeid.
Det er mindre hjelp å få enn mange tror. Politikerne har en narrativ om gode velferdsordninger og gode helsetjenester, og dette er svært lett å tro på inntil man plutselig får bruk for dem...
Found Tony Romella & feel that he gets me. Even his #Obsidian vault is organised like mine! A totally underrated #PKM Youtuber with an ADHD bent.
ND folks do think very differently. For eg, I just can't do Tiago Forte's PARA system. I have this "out of sight out of mind" thing we #ADHD folks seem to have. If I stash my files in a folder, I forget it even exists. It gets worse if there are subfolders. Like Tony, I have a hybrid system & use notebooks. Coincidence?
@liztai thanks, I'll check it out! I have this weird mix of "I need to see it to exist" while also having the urge to "compact everything into boxes" both working against each other xD
@servelan@actuallyautistic
You completely neglected to mention the fact that the increased risk was so small, the researchers said that it doesn't merit changing anything about how these medications are currently prescribed.
I’ve been unable to work, can’t clean, not getting anything done. Always too burned out to function.
But today I got the hyperfocus part of ADHD.
Mostly it’s like, I’m incapable of functioning.
I’ve gone weeks unable to function. I can drink 2 energy drinks and still barely function.
Today I woke up full of energy and in hyperfocus hyper speed work mode, so I just rolled with it. Tomorrow I could be nonfunctional again. It’s so unpredictable 🙃
@pathfinder They normally do but occasionally I’ll get an intense drive to work and have the energy to do it. At first I thought it was hypomania, but I’m not feeling impulses to be irrational or spend a bunch of money. My mood is very level, I’m just very focused. And also tired after getting so much done. I have a hard 5pm cut off time where I do not work after that no exceptions.
@lydiaschoch@actuallyautistic@actuallyadhd glad you liked it! 🥰It’s one of my all time favorites, it carried me well through a lot of soul searching moments, especially when I have been trying to figure something out, so I thought some others may relate.
@PetitPas@Florian@onecreativecat l'écureuil a pour spécificité de se cacher de la nourriture partout durant l'été et l'automne pour faire des réserves pour l'hiver. Sauf que ben il en cache tellement partout qu'il en perd et en oublie, ce qui fait de lui un savant jardinier
Aika vähän on ollut esillä se, millä tavoin jo pelkkä kaupunkiympäristö kuormittaa. Liikenne, melu, liikkuvat mainospinnat jne. Välillä lähikauppaan kävellessä mietin, että aika monta kertaa lyhyellä matkalla ehtii olla kuolemanvaarassa – käytännössä joka kerta katua ylittäessään, kun ei voi tietää, hidastaako kohti tuleva auto ajoissa vai ei.
@anuko
Niinpä. "Luonnossa" eli puistossa kävelyn rentouttavasta efektistä valtaosa onkin vain sitä, ettei tarvitse kulkea samassa kanjonissa murhanhimoisten metalliobjektien kanssa? @ssundell
As my workplace has a busy week all this week, I fear the inevitable flood of ableism my co-workers are gonna put me through. Too often they've scolded me for my ADHD symptoms like being out of my desk to walk around, staring off into space, not focusing, or fidgeting with stuff. And their responses have been terrible; they've ranged from stuff like barring my exit, telling me to "focus", threatening to cut my pay or fire me, etc. And since I have autism, I end up being so overwhelmed that I go into a crying fit or meltdown, and they always threaten to remove me because I'm "being disruptive". Perhaps I should quit at the rate things are going. Having to suffer through so much ableist stuff is getting to me at this rate...
The way you describe your work environment makes it sound like you should look out for another gig asap. You shouldn’t have to go through this. Though you’re probably american and I’m european, so take this advice with a large grain of salt as I’m not sure of what opportunities you have in this regard.