Wer macht in Deutschland gute Diagnostik für erwachsene Frauen mit Verdacht auf #Autismus? Habt ihr persönliche Erfahrungen und könnt mir jemanden empfehlen? Gerne per DM! (Wenn die Person kompetent ist, bin ich auch bereit selbst zu zahlen und/oder weit zu fahren.)
Bonuspunkte, wenn jemand die Unterschiede zwischen Autismus und Trauma + die Überlappungen von Autismus und ADHS herausarbeiten kann.
@actuallyautistic Eine potentielle Anlaufstelle könnte das Evanglische Klinikum in Bergisch Gladbach sein. Dort arbeitet ein Arzt, der viel zu Autismus im Erwachsenenalter bei Frauen geforscht hat. Fachlich sind die also vielleicht gut aufgestellt, unklar aber ob sie auch überregionale Patient:innen akzeptieren.
Two fully-disconnected weeks off from work have given me a clarity of mind I haven't had in a long time.
I thought I had mostly tackled my burnout over the winter, but the clarity I have now tells me that I was still burned out.
How do I know?
I feel like I have skills now that I haven't had in a long time. Cognitive and information processing skills. I feel like my brain can process things more clearly than before my time off.
I never really understood what it meant when people say that burnout causes loss of skills, but it totally makes sense now.
That clarity has also helped me see some of my challenges at work in a new light. In particular, managing people as an Autistic person.
Several people outside of my department have complained about a member of my team. They, and I, have had conversations with this person about that feedback. I've personally seen improvement and I'm not unhappy with their work. But I'm still getting complaints about them.
This is incredibly challenging for me. Am I misreading the social situation? Am I being taken advantage of? Do others see something I don't? Am I giving this person the benefit of the doubt far beyond what's reasonable? Are my expectations of others too low?
I don't know the answers to these questions, but they're definitely something I need to work on.
@dave@actuallyautistic I can relate: I also find it challenging to handle the conflicts of others people, especially when suspecting a power play, in which case new “problems” will arise but the real motivation for the conflict stays hidden from me. I can also relate to the positive effect of taking a step back from daily life 🙂
@actuallyautistic#actuallyautistic Any good free mind-mapping software y'all would recommend? I'm trying to convert my list of traits into a format that's easier to understand.
@JoBlakely@actuallyautistic I think xmind is the one I've seen a lot of autistics use. Reason I asked to begin with was because I saw this guy use a mind map in this video...and it looks suspiciously similar to xmind.
@chevalier26@actuallyautistic if you’re willing to consider alternatives to the normal click and drag interfaces, PlantUML, a free diagrams as code tool, has a mindmap mode. Basically, you write some text describing the contents of the diagram, and the software generates it for you.
I was hoping to swap $5 via paypal for a $5 etransfer? It's the only way to get money from paypal to my bank now that they don't take my mastercard
my etransfer is tasiathereader@gmail.com
just dm me so & link your payal😊
@actuallyautistic#actuallyautistic
Ugh...it's so frustrating when people tell me, "You'll miss out on the college experience," just because I want certain accommodations while away at university.
I don't mind missing out on sporting events, not having a roommate, or preferring to study in my dorm room instead of the library. I still have a social life without those things!
For me, having the freedom to avoid the NT "college life" is what keeps me sane while I'm at university.
@Aerliss@actuallyautistic Completely agree. For the past two years I’ve roomed with one of my best friends who is also ND, so it’s been a lot easier for me. This coming year I am going to try to “buyout” the other bed in the room so I can guarantee I’ll get the room to myself.
@Aerliss@actuallyautistic Easier as in, we understand each other and have established solid boundaries. Plus, we often discuss topics that this Mastodon group discusses lol. So we are sounding boards for each other.
Diary of an ASD Squirrel. Day 213 , Tuesday 28/05/2024
Up at 6m as Mrs S. was back in work today.
Another day of fighting the agoraphobia & losing . The spectre of the world beyond the front door playing havoc with my mind.
Watching others sally forth, both in analog & digital life makes me realise how far I have to go to get better.
I would go to the GP, but the whole thing over the ADHD assessment has badly shaken my trust in them.
Also I am so very aware of the state of the NHS & I feel that I cannot deny other, more worthy souls their opportunity to get medical help.
So chores are done and now I roam the countryside around Boston in the virtual world of Fo4.
I was analysing my current play style & I am being so very logical about it - for no reason. I need to relax & play the game as I encounter it, instead of maximising companion potential or trying to do stuff in a set order.
Got a new stand for the iPad today , gotta get used to the new layout - it’s more comfortable if a little odd at the moment.
Final Thoughts.
Sometimes my autistic nature makes me miss communication cues. I fail to respond in the way folk expect , sometimes say things innocently that are misinterpreted because there are certain rules that I either don’t know or don’t understand.
I am kind by nature & like to see the best in people, I like to compliment folk, often the old adage ‘it’s nice to be nice’ comes into play.
Sometimes I do not recognise the unseen, unspoken edges of what is acceptable, people have blocked me before today for being too familiar too soon.This upsets me a great deal when it happens. Thankfully it has not happened since I got my diagnosis.
Now I know I am autistic I take steps to try & avoid the more obvious pit falls , but sometimes I forget or get a little over enthusiastic & folk bring me up short. Then I back away & something is lost.
I had hoped that my GP would help me find the help I need but they seem disinterested. For now I am on my own.
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@Tim_McTuffty@actuallyautistic
Good morning lovely,🐿️🐿️
I'm having another Mum week 😞 she's pushing ALL my buttons,
So you're helping me remember to SMILE 😁😁
THANK YOU 👍
@actuallyautistic#actuallyautistic
Read an article recently that claimed autistic individuals are less likely to succumb to marketing and impulse buying. I think this is true about myself.
I am aware that AuDHD can often work against this, and make shopping a dreadful experience because of the push and pull of "wanting" but not "needing" something. I'd love to hear y'all's experiences/opinions.
@gnaddrig@chevalier26@actuallyautistic there are rare times ads have been useful for me -- actually prompted a purchase, even -- and each time it's been because I had no idea such a thing existed
I’m AuADHD, & generally rather frugal. Occasionally my ADHD, or maybe my Austistic gullibility, or my ADHD RSD (or just plain not so smart decision making) might’ve had me lash out on something not so wise & or a bit expensive. More often though, when I have lashed out, it’s been something really good at a good price that I’ve been really happy with. Like a half price leather jacket that I’ve had lots of wear out of.
I'm sitting in the dark, with the window blinds closed, because I feel like I just need it that way right now for no discernable reason. This is probably what my therapist means by nervous system regulation and emotional regulation. 🤔
I really like sensory deprivation—sometimes even more than others.
@JeremyMallin@actuallyautistic The other day, I got overstimulated and literally took a shower in the dark because I couldn't tolerate having the lights on in that moment. It was wonderful.
I really want to make a career in the #InfoSec field. Security is my passion. I haven't yet decided which role I'd like to get involved in. All I know so far is that Malware Analysis isn't for me. I'm interested to hear from folks in the field who are #ActuallyAutistic, have #ADHD, or both. What roles have been a good fit for you? I'm guessing that Incident Response would be far too high stress, but I could be wrong about that. Boosts appreciated. #NeuroDiverseSquad#AuDhd#AskingAutistics
@JEkis not autistic, not ADHD, so big disclaimer on this, but I could see bug bounty hunting or pentesting working. Generally those involve setting things to do theirthing and then looking at the results and poking at them which can either work really well or really not well depending on how your brain works. I'd say most blue team stuff might be difficult because it really nvolves buckling down and looking through a bunch of data which may be hard to do if your mind tries ot yank you around but again, I don't know if that's how your ADHD manifests so that's where my usefulness ends I'm afraid :)
I just made a phone call.
It was regarding something relatively straightforward and simple to sort out and I was on the phone for 37 minutes. Most of that was on hold.
As soon as it ended I burst into tears.
I am exhausted. My neck and back are agony from the tension. I’ve got a headache and I feel sick.
It took about 30 minutes to stop shaking.
I wrote my speech but they interrupted, trying to get me to do security questions first.
@purplepadma@Troggie yep and they outright refuse to make accomodations and that includes the NHS sadly. Ironically funny not funny my last psych video phone call ( aaaaarrrrrrggggghhhh ) went so badly wrong and then he discharged me because reasons.... Then he wrote a defamatory report which I'm having to go through GDPR to get removed, complaint went nowhere as he was a contractor and they not using him right now
@actuallyautistic#actuallyautistic Anyone ever tell you that you were being "too negative" or a "Debby downer" when stating facts about something? Just happened to me earlier with my family. In this case it was reasons why I prefer not to travel often (routine change haha). The whole time I was thinking, "but I'm not trying to be negative..."
@melindrea@Sci_Fi_FanGirl@actuallyautistic Idk if you're familiar with the YouTuber Paige Layle, but she made an interesting observation about "shop dads"; dads who have a workshop they retreat to when stressed or overwhelmed, and how it could be an indicator of undiagnosed autism.
I thought...hmm...my dad has always had a shop. In fact, he owns his own business and is doing contracting work all the time.
@melindrea@Sci_Fi_FanGirl@actuallyautistic Also hilarious to me that 90% of the time, my family never needs to hire someone to do maintenance work because my dad just "knows" how to do it. He is insanely good at what he does.
He shows me the electrical diagrams he draws for welding equipment/breaker boxes sometimes and it's like...how can you do all of this so flawlessly 😂
My bf and I have literally nothing and I'm worried on top of financial insecurity, we really need help in general with basic needs on top of trying to pay for my Visa.