Being #ethicallynonmonogamous doesn’t make us immune to finding, or being, bad partners. In fact, it can be argued that we are more at risk, having fewer examples to follow.
So I’m going to take this opportunity to go through a few of the Red Flags you may encounter in #polyamory. Some are ones you and a partner can work on, while others are a sign that you need to Nope right out of there right now.
so much polyam advice presumes and hinges on each participant being financially independent, able to get around on their own, and having their own living space. what about married polyam people, polyam people with kids/dependents, polyam people who are disabled, polyam people with multiple nesting partners? where are resources for polyamorous people with COMPLICATIONS
I've never posted an #introduction so here it is, finally!
We're Rak, a plural system consisting of Anna, Kat, and Farah (among others). All of our pronouns are she/her and it's fine to refer to our whole system as such.
We're panromantic, grey-asexual, and polyamorous! Very leftist, not religious. We also have ADHD, OCD, and Bipolar II, so hopefully we can find others to relate and share experiences with.
We'll each write our own little mini-intros for anyone interested!
💙 I'm Anna ^^ more often than not I'm in front, though very often alongside Kat. I'm a very nerdy blue catgirl. I'm pretty reserved, thoughtful, and deliberate, though also often anxious. I'm the linux nerd in our system ^^ I'm a sucker for optimization and efficiency in all things, and I love tinkering and customizing everything. I really enjoy factory building games and sandbox games.
Kat and I have a lot of overlap with our interests; together we're pretty creative and enjoy art, 3D modeling, music making, and gamedev. We both enjoy playing FFXIV (especially savage raiding and clubbing!), Monster Hunter, FromSoft games, and retro shooters.
💜 hiii i'm kat! i'm very extraverted, and i really love meeting and getting to know people! i'm really excited to be able to be myself here now, and i'll probably post a lot hehe.. i'm carefree, excitable, affectionate, and energetic. i can be pretty flirty at times! also i'm a catgirl too :3 i'd love to meet you!!
🤎 Hello, my name is Farah. I don't know if I'm going to really use social media much, but I wanted to give an introduction regardless. I do anything I can to make Anna and Kat's lives a little bit easier, though recently I've been exploring my own interests as well. I really love animals and nature. I'm happy to talk to anyone friendly!
This turned out to be a lot longer than expected, thanks for your interest ^^ Feel free to send us a DM, we'd love to talk about anything!
From: For Love of a Konbini Idol
I Faced Her Onryo Lover
The girl behind the counter’s name tag said Shiomi Shiori. I bet she got called Shishi. She was an inch or two shorter than me, with silky hair she’d dyed a light blue. She was wearing it in twin tails but had lots of loose bangs in front. It looked good on her. Sweet and innocent looking.
Tomo said I needed a girlfriend, and he was right. Shiomi-san was a stunner. She reminded me of a Spaniel: cute, big eyes, and friendly. And if she was as gay as I thought…
#PennedPossibilities 183 — Is your MC one to be loyal in relationships, or are they likely to quickly move from one bond to another?
Shiro: "I'm not sure I could hop relationships. I think Kao would kill them. Just joking. Halfway joking, that is. Besides if I met someone else I could just have them join our family. Provided Kao and Kan-chan approved. I would have to be careful they voiced any objections beforehand. They tend to do things to please me and resent it later, especially Kao. Kan-chan would tell me straight out. #polyamory
Umi scratches her head. Why would I hop? I love Tomo and he's not jelly, so why would there be any need. #KonbiniIdol
#WordWeavers#Writing 04 SC POV: How do you feel about family? Who do you consider family?
Kan-chan: Choice. Family of choice. My blood family sucks. They never understood me. Always on me to get a boyfriend. Constant sarcasm. Shiro and Kao are different. They don't understand, but they accept. How could they understand,; They have sex on the brain and I couldn't care less about it. #Asexual
Tomo: "Ume and my kid. I thought maybe the family should be bigger, but now I don't know. This Shiomi is nothing but trouble and going to break Ume's heart. Dumb cluck. #polyamory
And there is my kid. I don't get to see them much. My ex. sees to that. The courts are on his side too. But my kid's sweet. It doesn't seem to bother them they have two dads. now. I just hope the ex doesn't poison their mind. #KonbiniIdol#Transmasc.
No good deed goes unpunished. As Ume discovers when she rescues Shiomi. Neither Shiomi nor the jealous, vengeful ghost that stalks her appreciates the act. Something they both make clear. As for Ume’s partner, Tomo, he is less than thrilled at the intrusion of an unpleasant third into their relationship. “I know I told you to find someone who would appreciate your advances, but I really question your taste.”
Come, follow Ume-san, Shiomi-san, and the increasingly exasperated Tomo as the three explore their attraction for each other in a world where creepy things wait and watch from the shadows.
I looked at the cigarette in my hand, thought, “What the hell?” and took a puff; “Ugh, unflavored.” But I’d finally gotten a kiss from my konbini girl, a secondary kiss, but a kiss.
Come, follow Ume-san, Shiomi-san, and the increasingly exasperated Tomo as the three explore their attraction for each other in a world where creepy things wait and watch from the shadows.
It's also up on 3 out of 5 ebook vendors. I'll add the universal link to my site once the other 2 are finished lagging. As always, there is a discount for buying direct. 😀
"So many rules! American Poly reveals Americans to be very American. Good Puritans, we made marriage into work and non-monogamy into even more work—something that requires scheduling software, self-help manuals, even networking events."
For those unable to make it, here a short recap of the #37c3 Relationship Geek Get Together:
The session was well attended. The stage turned out slightly too small.
We split into conversation groups around different topics, e.g. #polyamory with kids, newbie poly, experienced poly, poly as a trans being, #relationshipanarchy and a few others.
One of the groups formed an orga team for an assembly next year...and signal groups (orga/interest)
Tonight is poly-mas, where my nesting partner's girlfriend comes over and we open presents from each other, have a takeaway, and watch films, and it's so wholesome and adorable, I could cry ❤️
And this is my favourite present from her; I'm going to make So Many Noodles 🍜
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Bonus eyeroll points for including this bullshit: "I think it’s a little selfish to expect one person to fulfil all your needs, until one or other of you dies."
Sometime back I was asked this question: Is there a difference between erotic menage romance novels and erotic polyamory romance novels? Here's what I think: Most of the erotic romance my husband and I write together involves sex scenes with three or more participants. Which label to place on them isn’t as straightforward as you might think, and people in the non-monogamous lifestyle…