Aphobia is bigotry against #asexual (#ace) or #aromantic (#aro) people (sometimes agender, too). And in the following posts I will do a little explainer.
(I won't talk about agender, because I'm not agender.)
It's fine to not be that into #sex or #romance. It's fine to not feel sexually or romantic attracted to anyone. It's fine if you do have sex, but only rarely.
Sex and romance are deeply personal things, so don't let society put you down.
But aphobia says the opposite. Aphobia says that it is NOT okay, thus forcing everyone into sex and romance, even if it doesn't work.
#Aphobia may come even from the #LGBTQ+ community: There's this idea that #asexual and #aromantic people do not belong to the LGBTQ+. A common excuse is we're not "oppressed enough". 🤡
Here's the thing: ALL #aces and #aros violate #heteronormativity. No matter how you twist and turn it, it's impossible to be ace/aro AND fully comply with heteronormativity.
Excluding people who violate heteronormtivity is patently absurd.
It's complicated with a cast that includes ace alloromantic characters. But I suppose it's Kaori and Kan-chan, Shiro's partners. They are very good friends, Kan-chan sometimes calls Kaori sis.
New: Laura R. Samotin's queer grimdark fantasy The Sins on Their Bones.
Set in a Jewish folklore-inspired reimagining of 19th century Eastern Europe, this queer dark fantasy debut pits two estranged husbands and a daring spymaster on opposite sides of a civil war. Perfect for fans of Leigh ...
Today's review! Lone Star on a Cowboy Heart by Marie S. Crosswell:
"I first read it in 2016, and it's still one of my favorite stories, well worth reading over again... I highly recommend it. Sam and Montgomery are two unforgettable and emotionally powerful characters."
For #InternationalAsexualityDay please, have this nice #Ace#axolotl with pride flag colours - I am not sure why they are #asexuality mascots, but saw lots of them last several years on forums and sites.
I hope fellow Aces here would like it :heart_ace:
Je ne demande pas qu'on connaisse la def ou tout le spectre ace. Je veux juste qu'on me laisse vivre en paix et qu'on cesse de venir me dire pourquoi je ne devrais pas exister, ou encore me demander de me justifier ou d'expliquer. On n'est pas des dicos. Tout comme mes adelphes, je compte exister le plus longtemps possible, en phase avec mon identité, même si je fais partie des plus invisibilisées.
Le A ce n'est pas pour ananas
The sad and short-lived story of a #racist homophobic troll on my #Pride Flags repository:
Act 1: The #troll tells me they want to #abuse all #gay people.
Act 2: Post gets deleted and the troll gets banned by #Codeberg#moderation before I even checked the repo.
The End.
That’s how it’s done. Don’t feed the trolls. I’d have deleted the post myself but #Codeberg was faster.
(How do I know the post existed? I got an e-mail notification before.)
But wait! There’s more! The troll assumed I’m #gay myself but as long-time followers of me all know, I’m actually #aromantic and #asexual (#aro-#ace), which is a HUGE difference. But since when do #homophobes care about such details, amirite? 🤡
“If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”—Sun Tzu, The Art of War
PSA to everyone to not use brave browser @brave, the CEO of Brave Software is bigoted (donated to anti-lgbtqia+ organizations trying to ban gay marriage in the past and still has never addressed it or apologized) and was also against the Covid Lockdowns and is anti-vax. Using brave browser contributes to oppression of LGBTQIA+ ppl and contributes to brave software financially through ads and other means.
I recommend anyone still using brave browser to switch to ungoogled-chromium as a non-bigoted degoogled chromium-based browser alternative. @floccus is a good browser extension to use on ungoogled-chromium to sync your bookmarks.
New: Michael Merriam's queer weird west/horror book: Terror at Terra de Cobre:
An ancient evil has awakened… Strong women, ancient magic and the walking dead make for a heady mix. In Michael Merriam’s tale, seven women are called to protect a small mining town in the New Mexico Territory, Tierra De Cobre, against an evil...
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Being asexual doesn't mean being alone forever, Lilaeleaf explains in their comic. There is so much love to give and receive and feel! She finds beauty and intimacy in their own way.
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Amanda DeWitts Wren Martin Ruins it All. A fab (anti) Valentine's read! Wren is ace and, as class president, needs to help organize the Valentine's Day dance (which they loathe). A nice story about being ace and falling in love.
I already am. We are good friends and like Kurt Vonnegut Jr.'s characters they on occasion complain about what I do to them. All I can tell them is unlike Kurt Vonnegut I write happy endings.
Seriously, I feel like I am a friend of all the pro-tag characters. The ant-tag characters don't care one way or another about me. Which is good because if they did, I would have terrible nightmares.
#KnowYourAuthors#Writing 5. Would you want to be friends with your MC and/or antagonist? Why? Cont
How about outside my head?
Per Arisu: Sure they are cool people. We share interests, and have similar values. Arisu might be leery of me because of my interest in Saeki. But once I convinced her I don't poach monogamous women we would do fine.
Per Girlfriend: As for Shiro, she is the kind of Dom one dreams of. And Kaori and Kan-chan would be great sisters. #polyamory And she has demonstrated that she isn't weirded out about #asexual partners.
Per #KonbiniIdol: Once they work out the problems they are having, I would fit right in. Shiomi would be gaga about finding someone with my musical tastes and I have a fellow wota to go to shows with.
"And Blanchard claimed that asexual trans women are not truly asexual, but rather represent instances where 'autogynephilic disorder nullifies or overshadows any erotic attraction to women'"
Ah yes, asexual #trans women HAVE to be fake, or else his pet theory would be false. 🤡
"(...) how does one explain the existence of bisexual and #asexual#trans women, who are neither '#homosexual' nor '#heterosexual' in sexual orientation? Well, Blanchard (1989b) proposed that the former group is not truly bisexual, but rather merely experiences 'pseudobisexuality' — a concept Blanchard invented out of thin air in a classic display of #bisexual#erasure."
This is the first time I ever heard of "pseudobisexuality" and yes, it's #bullshit.