One of the more challenging experiences for me in #Polyamory is holding space both "new relationship energy" and break-up grief at the same time. There are no scripts, there's few chances to see it modeled in popular culture or even literature, and negotiating the blurry boundaries around this takes a lot of emotional labor.
I was incredibly lucky to get to have a gorgeous, genuinely sweet girl in my life for a year, but she has struggled to get a handle on her substance use disorder and needed to focus on her recovery for a long while. So we broke up and I have cried and cried and cried, grieving the lost dreams we had together.
At the same time, about a month or so ago, I started dating the enchanting and endearingly misanthropic @salad_bar_breath . I have all sorts of excitement and joy at what is emerging and growing between us, and yet it's hard to make sure I don't turn to her to replace what I lost or cross the healthy boundaries a relationship needs.
I think it helps that my wife and I have a stable, queerplatonic relationship, and act as each other's security. This has allowed me to take the emotional risks and know I still have the safety of my home and family with her.
That said, it helps that Rayne ( @salad_bar_breath ) is extremely adorable (in the sense I absolutely adore her and she's cute!) and that she is a very emotionally aware and mature person. We were both able to identify our needs as we navigate this, discuss it, and figure out how to do that together despite just beginning to date.
Anyway, this is to say that Rayne is amazing and I'm pretty lucky to have her come into my life at the time she did. 💖💖💖
Willow Wren: Lion and Gazelle
My Girlfriend Almost Got Me Killed Side Stories
Chapter 1: Released: Lion and Gazelle
(Art: Mai-sensei)
Summary: Tanaka Kanoko writes about Shiro-san and Kaori-san’s first meeting.
Quote: Tanya was good at this game. With her platinum blonde hair, she made me think of a lioness waiting to pull down a timid gazelle. If Tanya could bring her down, she would be a prize trophy.
This is Lex, a shining, rainbow star in my sky. They are one of the kindest, sweetest, most gentle people I have ever met. I love listening to their #neurodivergent info dumps, geeking out over #ofmd, and just being in their presence. And now I get to love them and say "See that hotty? That's my partner." They're amazing, and I'm eternally grateful to be a part of their life. Today's poem is for them, this wonderful #enby I love so dearly.
My latest curated queer romance new release list is up now. All over the rainbow in terms of queer rep, yay! 🏳️🌈 📚 If you like anything from sci-fi to historical, fantasy to contemporary, there's a queer romance here for you.
Love is infinite. It grows and shapes itself around anyone and anything we care about. It doesn't run out. We can love just as many things and creatures as we have time to appreciate. #Polyamory is a part of this; for creatures who feel it's right for them, showing multiple creatures the love in one's heart is magical and special.
Don't be shy to show your love, there is always more to give. Just be conscious of your time and energy, and be sure to show yourself plenty of love too! You deserve it!!
The Passion series got its start over two decades ago, when I learned that my father’s sister, a pioneering sex researcher, had died. I’ve thought of her often – how proud she would be of what my husband and I are writing, how advanced she was in her acceptance of all sexual orientations, her openness to all sexual practices that did not cause harm, and her enjoyment of erotic art. Read more: https://wp.me/p9O7pv-3pk@bookstodon@smutstodon#eroticromance#polyamory@MFRWAuthors#EroticRomance
For our six month anniversary, my girlfriend and I got promise rings for each other. I got her a silver ring with yellow zirconia, and she got me a ring with lapis lazuli in it. Six months down, the rest of our lives to go. ♥️
I will simplify by using an analogy. instead of the monogamous wife or husband a polyamorous partner is like a virtual router function your heart if your heart is a big iron router. you get something different from each vrf. and sometimes the vrf is a vm on someone else's machine and that's exactly like having a metamour #networking#polyamory
Wir alle müssen über Consent - über Einverständnis und Einvernehmlichkeit - reden können. Die meisten von uns haben “nein heißt nein” und “ja heißt ja” gelernt, aber es gibt noch viel mehr.
Es gibt einen sehr guten Workshop dazu von der Consent Academy, und wir haben ihn in Zusammenarbeit mit CA übersetzt und können ihn jetzt auf deutsch anbieten!
One time, someone said to me "I want a big family" and I was like "Me too", but then I found out that they meant "have a bunch of children". I had meant "have a big polycule".
I have no idea about the person who posted this and this is joking around or serious, but either way - taken in isolation - this is a humorous and wonderful little “ I just discovered #polyamory “ tiktok
Does anyone know of someone looking for a roommate, or is looking themselves?
Person is trans feminine, polyam, sex positive and kinky. Primarily looking for Munich, ideally North or East, but open for other possibilities (including other cities), as well.