btaroli

btaroli, 11 months ago to actuallyautistic

1/8 Today was my first meeting with a new psych from #HMO, whom I was referred to after my plea to mental healthcare mgmt. My hope was that this was going to be a discussion leading to formal #assessment, but this doesn’t seem to be the case so far.

Within the first 20 minutes, I was told it’s common for parents to erroneously self-diagnose. He felt the same way after caring for his AuDHD child, he said.

#AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

btaroli, 10 months ago (edited 10 months ago) to Autism

So, there’s a question I’ve been pondering. Is it better that we refer to #Autism even when we also have #ADHD, given how often these overlap? Or is it better to consistently refer to them as #AuDHD?

I ask because it might affect folks’ ability to find posts in the #fediverse.

#ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

btaroli, 6 months ago to ADHD

I was in a weird null space this past weekend. I knew I had things I wanted to get to but just had literally no drive to do much. I did manage a few things but these were in the evening.

Sometimes I think my pattern is that I’m more productive when there are literally no people around that I know of. It’s not that they’re talking to me, but the very prospect of having to expend energy interacting with or avoiding them switches my drive off.

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD @actuallyautistic

btaroli, 4 months ago to ADHD

One thing I notice about being sick or exhausted, say after a night of poor sleep, is that my anxiety level trying to usher son through his getting ready is far less. I just don’t have the energy to get to that place. A place I didn’t really want to be.

Is there a way to avoid getting to that anxious place when I have the energy, I wonder… 🤔

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #ParentingWhileAutistic @actuallyautistic

btaroli, 11 months ago (edited 11 months ago) to random

I can see that the #psychologist, who suggested #breathing exercises would address #AuDHD, has sent me a messsge, presumably in response to my rather irritated missive after that first session. I find myself unmotivated to read it. Warranted? Unsure. I just feel I need someone who sees and hears me, and doesn’t outright suggest it’s a fever dream. #ActuallyAutistic

btaroli, 5 months ago to actuallyautistic

🧵 1/3 I’ve been out of commission a couple days due to flu. Feeling better and heading to see family for a bit. Needed to get a couple of errands done. Gas. Meds. A bit of groceries. No biggie.

But it’s Friday before Christmas. Of course. Everyone and their third and fourth cousins are packing places like CVS and Safeway. Parking lots filled with confused people are annoying. Deep breaths.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #neurodivergent #NDInAnNTWorld @actuallyautistic

btaroli, 10 months ago to Autism

1/5 I’ve been examining a lot about myself after becoming aware of my #Autism, and there is frequently overlap with #ADHD. I’ve lately become focused on how I’m motivated and how I am at planning.

One truth I realize has been with me a long time is that for things I’m not specifically interested in, #BodyDoubling is the best method for me to maintain motivation. Without it, many things become more of a struggle than they need be.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

btaroli, 9 months ago (edited 9 months ago) to random

I’m learning to trust my instincts in the face of NT stupid. I show up at ortho office with son’s appliance, after having emailed them to describe how it’s pinching the tendon right in the middle underneath his tongue.

They grind all around the edge. Not in the middle in the physical gap between parts. 🤦‍♂️ I try to clarify where it’s affecting him. They didn’t acknowledge a word.

So I used 400 grit on it tonight and much better! Trust gone.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ParentingWhileAutistic

btaroli, 7 months ago (edited 7 months ago) to retrocomputing

Was comparing notes with a friend about our computer history. These are personal systems only. Not network, servers, or NAS… or smartphones… 🤣

PET 2001 (school)
TRS-80 Model 1 (school)
PET 4016 (school)
Apple //e
HP86B w/ Z80 module (school)
Mac SE
Mac Quadra 605
Mac Quadra 650
iMac Bondi Blue
iMac G4
PowerBook G4
MacBook Pro 2007
MacBook Pro 2013 (retina)
MacBook Pro 16” M1Max

#RetroComputing

btaroli, 22 days ago to ADHD

Today. Was. Just. Too. Much.

Endless work meetings. Slack. Interruptions. HOA Committee Texts. School meetings. School district meetings. Music lesson.

At some point at about 3pm I just had enough. And when this happens I tend to leave chats. Cancel or ignore messages or meetings.

I have to for my sanity. I have learned that if I push on I truly burn out and am not useful for anyone.

Why does our society encourage this???

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD @actuallyautistic

btaroli, 10 months ago to random

I keep hearing how awesome “ #Oppenheimer” is. But THREE HOURS? Really? Can someone in earshot vouch for this?

btaroli, 8 months ago to Safeway

If you have scheduled for new #COVID vax you may want to call. #CVS here just advised there will be no doses by Monday. I called #Safeway where son was signed up and they confirmed. Said maybe Wednesday. So I think I’ll shift to Friday and see if that holds.

#vaccination

btaroli, 6 months ago to pfSense

I've been on the search for a #mesh #WiFi option that supports multiple SSID associated to tagged #VLAN, which span into the LAN. I do this now with #FreshTomato to my #pfSense router. But I need better WiFi coverage.

So far, it's looking like #OrbiPro and #DrayTek devices do this, but one isn't high on my expectations list and one isn't easily acquired in the US. So I'm trying the Orbi Pro and we'll see...

#HomeNetworking #security #segmentation

btaroli, 6 months ago (edited 6 months ago) to privacy

I’m beginning to try Olvid messenger as a replacement for Telegram and others.

• Symmetric encryption
• No servers
• No accounts
• No passwords
• No phone numbers
• All chats are implicitly private
• Open source
• Freemium pricing model.

https://olvid.io/

PM me an invitation or request an invite from me.

#encryption #privacy #messenger #olvid

btaroli, 7 months ago (edited 7 months ago) to LGBTQ

Tuesday was exciting. Worked a health expo at work for our ND employee group. Dropped husband off at airport. Son decided to inspect the inside of a Lithium Ion battery.

Yes, it outgassed and filled his room with smoke. Alarms. #Hazmat testing and cleanup. It’s been… exciting. 🤣

Thank you to #RegasGroup https://regasgroup.com/ and #RestoreX https://restorex.biz/ !

#AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @actuallyautistic #LGBTQ

btaroli, 11 months ago to actuallyautistic

OK, the burnout has me. Started a couple days ago. I’m not 100% what triggered it, but I think it may have been assisted by the “therapy” experience last Friday. Regardless, I can feel a discord between my brain and body. I’m up today and feel rested but my brain is stuck.

So switching gears to #quiet today. Staying home. Light work duty. Maybe a nap. Let’s see if we can ease ourselves into a #reset. If I had a #hottub, I’d be in it now.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @actuallyautistic #burnout

btaroli, 11 months ago to threads

I love how the introduction of #Threads app says it’s standalone. It’s #Instagram. But I was just trying to peek at https://threads.net and imagine my surprise when #uBlock and #PrivacyBadger lit up with #Facebook and #Meta crap. The page won’t even display.

Yeah. No. Never. Blocking ASAP.

btaroli, 2 months ago to ADHD

🧵1/2 Someone has a really rotten sense of humor today. I make a simple request of IT, and have to do it in a channel that’s truly horrible about doing things properly. Fine.

But then hours and hours go by. So I finally decide to run an errand for my son after lunch. I’m about five minutes from home, driving, when several people pop into my slack asking to help.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ADHD #ITHelpdesk #WaitingByThePhone #triggers #SecurityTheater

btaroli, 7 months ago (edited 7 months ago) to actuallyautistic

I’ve been noticing, in my random sleep times, that I’m way more productive if I crash early in the evening and wake in the early morning (2-4am). If I ride the energy and take my time starting up, I enter the daylight hours feeling much more energetic and productive. I’m not sure if I want to make this a regular thing but it might be better than trying to stay up late after kiddo is down for sleep.

#SleepSchedule #productiveness #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @actuallyautistic

btaroli, 8 months ago to ADHD

Been quiet the past couple days. Had been stressing about family visit. It’s been OK actually, even though I didn’t get everything on my list done.

I must say that having the house decluttered has been so nice. As always I’m baffled why I waited, but then I also get why #ADHD brain inhibits me sometimes.

Goal is to find tactics to help avoid the clutter from blossoming. I’m trying are ideas to start. I like thinking of it as a gift to myself.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @actuallyautistic

btaroli, 5 months ago to baking

🤣🤣🤣 @cnnbrk Here’s some breaking news, CNN Breaking News. Not everyone is running Brave. I don’t. Many do run privacy controls. How ironic that our privacy controls are blocking your “privacy protections,” and you insist we should TRUST YOU. Is that like trusting Meta to protect users’ phone numbers by passing their chats through Meta servers…?

So hilarious. Thank you for self-deselecting from my trusted news sources. 🤣🤣🤣

#AdBlocker #malware #cookies #tracking #privacy #FreeIsntFree

btaroli, 8 months ago to random

Minor bump today. Transportation. Driver told US he was going to be gone this week. But apparnetly not the office. So every ride they ar esurorised and have to find a sub. 😑 So I drove this morning. Major traffic. Late. Awesome. Left missives for scheduler and district person. I’m told they are “rectifying” it. Anyone wanna hold their breath with me?

So I’m working from home today.Thankful I have the option.

#AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic

btaroli, 4 months ago (edited 4 months ago) to ADHD

Am I the only person to notice that CBS News showed an advertisement for Autism Speaks today, during national news at 4PM PT? I live in SF Bay Area, and I’m not sure if this was just from local KPIX. I do certainly plan to reach out and raise their attention to the harm this group causes.

#AutismSpeaks #CBSNews #KPIX #CBSSF #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #BoycottAutismSpeaks @actuallyautistic

btaroli, 2 months ago to random

We hit a coin show in Sunnyvale today and made a few finds. Better yet, we met some great people and got a few pointers to collector groups that my son will check out and maybe find some great community!

#CoinCollecting #SpecialInterest #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting #ActuallyAutistic

A sample of today’s finds at the coming show.

btaroli, 1 month ago to meta

Wait… so #Meta is trying to make #WhatsApp the new #WeChat of the US? What could possibly go wrong…?
https://mastodon.social/@verge/112367606416456930