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btaroli

@btaroli@federate.social

Into #cars #photography #technology #CurrentEvents #RetroComputing

Also #geek #LGBTQ #bear #parent #AuDHD #Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic #AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic

Located in East SF Bay Area, CA

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briankrebs, to random

Had to get a loaner vehicle from a local dealership because a 10 y/o car that I love needed a lot of work. So they gave me the latest model of the same car -- brand new -- which was vastly less powerful than ours, and kept trying to steer me between the lines and cause the steering wheel to rumble when I hit a line and all kinds of crap that just annoyed me.

The dealership probably thought they would entice me to buy the newer model, but driving it just made me more convinced I made the right decision to put the money into the old car.

btaroli,
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@briankrebs The current trend to adding software to cars and making them more gadget like is a serious turnoff for me. Then add annoying driver-assistance functions and selling us services from inside the car. No. Just stop.

Which of those cars will be useful in 15-20 years? What happens to resale value when your car can’t get software updates any more? Or expensive screens fail? Just seeing lots of long-term headaches there.

btaroli, to actuallyautistic
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So school admin and I finally had it out over their coveted BEHAVIOR REPORTS. It doesn’t highlight triggers so it’s not useful and creates for me, which I share back to them. Doctor can’t make sense of them either.

So no more reports. 🎉We’ll share stuff in weekly family therapy sessions. The less I hear from the better. Detoxing now but much happier.

@actuallyautistic

btaroli, (edited ) to privacy
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#PBS #NOVA Secrets in Your Data

https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/video/secrets-in-your-data/

I was elated to see #PrivacyBadger, #uBlockOrigin, and #Disconnect featured! I’ve long been a devoted user of all of them.

#privacy #EFF

btaroli,
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Oh! And I quite by accident discovered that the hosted a livestream panel of several folks who appeared in the film! ❤️

https://www.youtube.com/live/-m9GTaLVsE0?si=h0elc40tsoaTk-Xb

btaroli, (edited ) to Autism
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So, there’s a question I’ve been pondering. Is it better that we refer to even when we also have , given how often these overlap? Or is it better to consistently refer to them as ?

I ask because it might affect folks’ ability to find posts in the .

@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

btaroli, (edited ) to Autism
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A friend who vlogs about solo travel noticed a sign about sensory sensitivity aboard a cruise ship today. Has anyone had experience with their "sensory inclusivity" program or ?

https://help.carnival.com/app/answers/detail/a_id/6469/~/kulturecity-sensory-certified

https://www.kulturecity.org/carnival/

@actuallyautistic

btaroli, to random
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1/2 Had annual meeting with case manager for my son today. They don’t really offer him services yet but it’s there mostly for when he reaches adulthood. What stuck in my mind about this conversation was when they said “oh! So we should have a goal about more eye contact?” I couldn’t stop myself. “That’s ableist don’t you think?”

btaroli, to ADHD
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I was in a weird null space this past weekend. I knew I had things I wanted to get to but just had literally no drive to do much. I did manage a few things but these were in the evening.

Sometimes I think my pattern is that I’m more productive when there are literally no people around that I know of. It’s not that they’re talking to me, but the very prospect of having to expend energy interacting with or avoiding them switches my drive off.

@actuallyautistic

btaroli, (edited ) to retrocomputing
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Was comparing notes with a friend about our computer history. These are personal systems only. Not network, servers, or NAS… or smartphones… 🤣

PET 2001 (school)
TRS-80 Model 1 (school)
PET 4016 (school)
Apple //e
HP86B w/ Z80 module (school)
Mac SE
Mac Quadra 605
Mac Quadra 650
iMac Bondi Blue
iMac G4
PowerBook G4
MacBook Pro 2007
MacBook Pro 2013 (retina)
MacBook Pro 16” M1Max

ashleyspencer, to actuallyautistic
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Autistic burnout + untreated ADHD =

impulse control issues + inability to force yourself to do anything + drained by no ability to function

Lots of walking pass a mess unable to make yourself clean it, then blame yourself for it.

Distracted, can't focus enough to do fun things and/or take care of yourself.

Forgetting everything. So burned out you can't remember important things + made worse by ADHD.

1/3

@actuallyautistic

btaroli,
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@ashleyspencer And then you seek help from a therapist who tells you you’re perfectly functional or too old to need help. Or try breathing exercises. 🙄

btaroli, to ADHD
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I mostly recharged this weekend. I opted to work at home today. No meetings afforded me to catch up on a few tasks and chores, too. It was sublime.

Son arrived home covered in clay from the baseball diamond at school. Under protest he stripped to underwear and was sent to shower. Clothes and shoes are being de-clayed.

Now he’s finishing schoolwork not completed this PM. He did pick up on the “it’s not time to talk back” vibe. So yay.

btaroli, (edited ) to machinelearning
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There was a while when all the and magic made me hopeful that spell check was improving. But lately it’s utter crap. If you can’t do that or Siri properly then what is all that neutral goodness for…?

btaroli, to random
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@thunderbird @thunderbird So… is anyone keeping tabs on #Betterbird? I can’t say I’m fond of everything they’ve done, but in the world of “we care about using Graph with #O365 #Exchabge” this is starting to gain steam. I’m resisting g the fork, but I’m curious what the team has to say on the subject.

Indeed the latest round of chat revolved around a version of #TbSync hacked to talk to #GraphAPI.

#Office365 #Thunderbird

btaroli, to ADHD
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Yes “Treering,” I’m sure you think it’s important to remind us to order yearbooks for a school my son hasn’t been at for two years. But I literally loathe the principal, who kept ignoring my son’s , so much I’ll just block you, laugh, and vent some.

btaroli, to photography
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We did manage to get a couple of pics from Saturday evening in Red Bluff, CA. The show lasted but maybe 30-40 minutes. Not nearly as long as Friday. But it was still exciting.

Aurora borealis from Red Bluff, CA on Saturday May 11.
Aurora borealis from Red Bluff, CA on Saturday May 11.

btaroli, (edited ) to apple
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At last! I finally found the clue that has made my soundbar happy with my . Seems that the latest firmware 5.31 caused a default for power management to change. Disable the function to auto power off and it behaves properly with the Apple TV and Bluetooth devices. Crazy!

vlrny, to random
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Bahahaha. Never has an error notification been so aligned with how I feel inside. 😘🤌

btaroli,
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@vlrny Hmm... so this computer is non-verbal, too.

btaroli, to ADHD
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My current world order, where my morning and overnight schedule has largely shifted to accommodate a crazy early start to get kiddo ready for alternate school pickup, has resulted in my not being up as late at night as I used to be.

What I’ve realized is this seriously impacts my productivity. I’m way more productive at quiet times in mg day, and now my working time is constrained to when others are around. This sucks.

@actuallyautistic

btaroli,
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I’m very glad this alternate placement has worked for my son, and is serving to help him prepare to transition back to regular school site. But to say I’m eager for the transition to occur is an understatement. I will be very glad to be back in a position where I can be more productive again and try and focus on more self-care.

It’s easy to forget the changes we make to help our kids sometimes hurt us.

btaroli, to meta
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Wait… so is trying to make the new of the US? What could possibly go wrong…?
https://mastodon.social/@verge/112367606416456930

btaroli,
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@kristoff I keep hearing that but if it’s one thing techbros like it’s more. More data. More revenue. More banning of apps doing the same thing they are. More power.

Given the opportunity they totally want a super-app. They just want it, and all those users’ data and dollars, to be theirs.

thunderbird, (edited ) to email
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How often do you check your non-personal email (work, school, etc.)? We promise we won't tell your managers/bosses/etc. 😉 📪

btaroli, (edited )
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@thunderbird I use unified folders. They are all checked all the time.

btaroli, to random
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I wonder if this will cure Apple of its habit of right-sizing batteries to hit a marketing target, and actually get competitive. https://mastodon.social/@verge/112444794575259813

gray17, to random
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Bye!

btaroli,
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@gray17 May all your door plugs stay plugged.

btaroli, to ADHD
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Today. Was. Just. Too. Much.

Endless work meetings. Slack. Interruptions. HOA Committee Texts. School meetings. School district meetings. Music lesson.

At some point at about 3pm I just had enough. And when this happens I tend to leave chats. Cancel or ignore messages or meetings.

I have to for my sanity. I have learned that if I push on I truly burn out and am not useful for anyone.

Why does our society encourage this???

@actuallyautistic

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