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carrideen

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Lecturer at Yeshiva College in #18thC & #19thC #Literature. #Bentham & #queer #aesthetics (wrote Uncommon Sense, UVaP 2022), national #debt and #slavery, #Bronx #cats #boardgames #film

Treasurer of the #Johnsonians, philosophy #reviews editor of JECS.

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carrideen, to random
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I applied for an internal grant that I didn't get because the grant is a reward for replacing an expensive textbook with free resources. I applied for the grant so that I can afford to replace an expensive textbook with free-to-students resources. Without the grant, I can't afford to do it. It really isn't free, ever, to just say, OK, no textbooks.

carrideen, to random
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One of the reasons I never changed my eye doctor when I moved is that it's an excuse to visit my old neighborhood, where everyone calls me "my love." (Everyone here is "my love." I don't mind sharing.)

carrideen,
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And I just heard someone say "I will not speak to him. He is being such a Pisces. No way."

RickiTarr, (edited ) to random
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What advice would you give to someone just starting out in a relationship?

Mine might sound kind of dark in relation to the question, but here goes:

People change, and they should, it's part of being a person. Some people are lucky, and they change in the same direction, but some don't, and that's okay too. There's no shame in leaving a relationship or changing the nature of a relationship that no longer serves you. We are all taught that every relationship, whether romantic or friendship, is supposed to last forever, but nothing is forever, and forcing something that no longer works, just ends in anger and bitterness. Knowing when to let go is as important as knowing when to hold on through a rough patch, and how to know either of those things is the most cliché advice of all, COMMUNICATE.

carrideen,
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@RickiTarr No one who is repeatedly cruel or dismissive of your feelings is "really" a good person deep down. There's no virtue in continuing to be a garbage dump for someone's secretly violent, abusive personality. Someone who loves you might accidentally or rarely hurt your feelings, but they will be mortified and apologetic and won't normalize it as some totally cool private way of communicating.

carrideen,
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@RickiTarr Or you are not supposed to talk to other people about how they treat you. Imagine my surprise to meet someone who always treats me in ways I'd be delighted to talk about with friends!

carrideen,
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@VirginiaMurr @RickiTarr Yes--if you are with someone and you tell them that they scared you or hurt you and they tell you not to feel that way, it's because it's going to happen a lot. They will not try to stop.

skinnylatte, to BelieveInFilm
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i'm no Corky Lee, but i am starting to be interested in photographing Chinese American life in san francisco i suppose

a scan of a black and white film photo of a shop in SF chinatown with chinese words on it

carrideen,
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@skinnylatte Did you ever see Chan Is Missing? Good old Chinatown movie that I think you'd enjoy: https://youtu.be/OwS483iVZCg

RickiTarr, to random
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Oppression is not a competition.

carrideen,
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@RickiTarr This should be obvious, but if someone thinks it would make them look better, cooler, or more valid to present themselves as a victim of discrimination or violence, I can pretty much guarantee they have never had an actual experience of discrimination or violence. It's a lot less "cool" when it's real.

carrideen,
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@RickiTarr I have learned from painful experience that talking about real violence is something you only want to do around people you trust, who care about you. The cost can be high.

carrideen, to Bloomscrolling
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There's nothing going on at the NY Botanical Garden until the new show this weekend, but I had a friend in town from Thailand and I will use any excuse to check up on my little plant friends.

Some tree blossoms I don't recognize: itty bitty peachy blossoms surrounded by larger white petals
The rock garden pool, surrounded by low flowering plants on a gray day
A hot pink rose, wide open. It was much brighter in real life.

reginasbread, to random
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oh my god, I'm so tired of The Internet Discourse around "The Idea of You". why are people not embarrassed to talk about how Anne Hathaway "defies age"? she. is. 42. not 82! so cringe. we're supposed to be over this.

carrideen,
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@reginasbread It's very "in a way, aren't thin beautiful straight white women the real queers?"

Adam_Cadmon1, to random
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There will be brief pauses where they'll talk about real news and then it's right back to Trump for hours and hours.

carrideen,
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@Adam_Cadmon1 It's so loathsome. None of it is even about the testimony; it's hours and hours of amateur body language analysis. He lifted his head, he blinked, she touched her hair. Who cares??

carrideen,
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@Adam_Cadmon1 During W's candidacy, the NYT started focusing exclusively on gestures and meta analysis of clothes and hairstyles. You couldn't even find coverage of policy proposals. Then everyone was like, oh, this is much easier than talking about proposed war crimes and civil rights abuses.

carrideen, to animals
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I've honestly forgotten how I got through life before I could bury my face in this fluffy tummy. Massive leap in quality of life.

RickiTarr, to random
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Seriously heard someone saying they don't listen to many black artists, because they aren't really into rap. Bitch please, feel free to share songs from Black artists from any genre. Here is one of my favorites, if you like this song please check out her other work:

https://youtu.be/KovrJ8HXI1Q?si=HOYIG7YMuAUTsJz6

carrideen,
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@RickiTarr KennyHoopla is making some of the most electrifying emo punk/new-new wave rock out there: https://youtu.be/Gm_PPNbgMjg

carrideen,
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@RickiTarr Nnamdï -- I cannot get this guy's songs out of my head and I don't want to. I come back to his album Brat over and over and over: https://youtu.be/1fofQt6UpP8

futurebird, to random
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the anti-fluoride people are back... I mean, if you like anti-vax stuff why not? It's the same swindle.

"precious bodily fluids" and all that.

I hate the taste of mint so I'm always looking for toothpaste that tastes better... I was horrified to discover that if you go of the beaten path with toothpaste there are 100s of brands with "no fluoride" which only a tiny number of people really need... Be careful if you use a "crunchy" brand ... fluoride is amazing.

carrideen,
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@futurebird Marvis has a licorice flavor, and several others (jasmine mint, ginger mint) in which mint is in the backseat.

emma, to nyc
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I guess it's a little crazy to do this here but apartment hunting in nyc is even crazier... i'm looking for a 2-3 bedroom in woodside, sunnyside or jackson heights queens, ~15 mins walking to lirr

#nyc #queens would appreciate boosts! thanks

carrideen,
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@futurebird @emma We love our NYC coop too!

carrideen, to random
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Applying for an internal grant to make and print course packets for my classes in the fall, because no textbook exists that I would actually want to teach from, and the alternative (everyone looking at random online versions of 1600-1760s source material on their computers) would make me lose what is left of my mind.

carrideen,
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This spring, I printed course packets of the readings for my first-year writing class, and it was a huge hit, though quite expensive for me. I found a cheap printer that made it within the range of imagination, but doing it for all three of my classes in the fall would break the bank. Still, having an entire class looking at booklets of readings with the same pagination and text, no computers in sight--has there ever been anything more beautiful than that?

carrideen, to random
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Someone in an office behind mine is trying to get an AI assistant to simplify a fraction and it's taking sooooooo many steps of miscommunication and correction. At one point, "OK. I'm looking up 'can you represent that as a fraction' on the web. I found some cool answers; check it out!"

carrideen, to random
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For a long time, I've said that the thing I love about the gothic novel, in its eighteenth-century form, is that it appealed to young women particularly because it suggests that their fears are not stupid or insignificant; there really is a conspiracy against you, and you must act, now. (The conspiracy is patriarchy! They're not wrong!)

Teaching The Turn of the Screw today, it's like the perfect meta-gothic. The real danger is how we act on our certainty of danger!

Cf. Bodies Bodies Bodies.

carrideen,
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@jsadow I'm embarrassed to say I've never read her!

carrideen, to random
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A piece of advice, for free:

Don't try putting an onion somewhere new. Just put the onions in the same place every time, so that you don't forget about them until they gradually liquify and mysteriously fill your home with a faint, untraceable odor, that, when finally exposed directly to the organs of sense, results in an hour of retching and cleansing and sorrow. Onions go in the onion place, every time!

carrideen, to random
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Maybe it wasn't a good idea to turn the police into the world's most overfunded and ignorant paramilitary organization in the world?

carrideen,
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All I'm saying is, if I were a university president and some unarmed undergrads were disagreeing with me about where their tuition dollars are spent to support a side of an international conflict, the very last people I would call for consultation and support are the NYPD, the world's worst-trained, dumbest, cruelest, richest, most racist militia, who are sitting on a pile of war machines they are sad about never getting to use on soft-bodied civilians.

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