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mariyadelano

@mariyadelano@hachyderm.io

Founder of Kalyna Marketing.
Ukrainian in NYC πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡¦ | ADHD + BPD | Cat mom 🐱

Pronouns: she/her

Bigotry not allowed. I do not tolerate homophobia, transphobia, racism, misogyny, antisemitism, or fascism.

Art & creative writing account: β€ͺhttps://spacelase.rs/@Riakovbasa‬

tfr #fedi22 #marketing #content #tech #b2b #adhd

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mariyadelano, to ai
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Come on. This push to summarize all webpages and written content with is ridiculous.

See this example from Search - in what world is this an adequate summary for an 8,000+ word article that takes 43 minutes to read?

The amount of detail, specificity, narrative, and actual arguments that get lost is mind-boggling.

Everything is just… flattened to the most basic and bare-bones facts.

Every unique part of that piece, every voice, personality - stripped away.

Search Engine Land How to 'un-ruin' the internet: The ultimate guide for SEOs Amid unfair industry blame for the failings of the modern web, we aim to challenge stereotypes and spotlight real individuals in SEO. Mariya Delano on November 17, 2023 at 9:00 am | Reading time: 43 minutes

mariyadelano, to business
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I have been blown away by the amount of language and metaphors describing cofounder relationships as marriage, love, and dating.

It seems like one of those rare instances where our society actually accepts and welcomes platonic love and intimacy?

What are people's thoughts and experiences here?

#business #startup #startups #work #relationships #cofounding #AskFedi #tech #siliconValley #companies

sonder, to random
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hi here, my partner is looking for freelance/contract work. remote based in PT.

10 yoe / preferring backend engineering but can do full stack / ruby, go, typescript, react, next.js

CCI & pivotal alum

lmk if you've got or seen anything a fit in the replies? or i suppose we have DMs here too. tyia!

mariyadelano,
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@sonder hi! One of my clients makes a software that matches freelance software engineers and developers to freelance and contract job listings. I could get your partner a 1 month discount code in exchange for feedback on the product.

Let me know if that would be helpful and I can provide more details

mariyadelano, to Help
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: I need recommendations for resources to learn financial concepts and .

I have advanced knowledge up to and including multivariable calculus. My background is in physics though.

I am a business owner and want to make some financial models for budgets for fun (but also hopefully useful).

But I never studied or in any way.

(PLEASE BOOST! πŸ™)

mariyadelano,
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People who have followed me for a while can probably tell this is a sudden neurodivergent special interest πŸ‘€

mariyadelano,
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@digichelle they are the best!

mariyadelano,
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@mattcjordan yeah that’s one of those terms I’ve been confused by to be honest!

mariyadelano,
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@video_manager how did you learn to do it?

mariyadelano,
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@philgarland both! Because I work as a fractional CMO

mariyadelano, to mentalhealth
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is a real bitch, y’all.

Because of it I’m not good with conceptualizing a coherent sense of reality beyond the present moment.

So right now I’m deeply upset because someone I really care about and like working with is on vacation until Monday.

Even though we have messaged every single day for a month now - my brain is telling me that because we aren’t speaking RIGHT NOW it doesn’t count, they aren’t real, they don’t care about me. Ugh

mariyadelano,
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This person literally has contracts signed with me guaranteeing that we will keep working together

They were on call with me for more than 2 hours just yesterday.

They’ve proven time and time again how dedicated they are and how much they do care and want to be around me and work with me.

But because I didn’t wake up to any message notifications this morning, my mental illness is telling me they abandoned me.

This sucks!

mariyadelano,
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If you’ve ever heard of borderlines being manipulative, let me explain why this happens because I’m fighting that impulse right now:

  1. My brain thinks person doesn’t care about me because they aren’t talking to me right now and today

  2. I feel lonely, sad, abandoned, rejected

  3. I want to check they haven’t decided to hate me since yesterday

  4. My brain is telling me to message them something urgent.

  5. I want to manufacture urgency

mariyadelano,
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Like many borderlines I am very impulsive.

My brain is deciding right now that it’s life or death that I test this person and that I must message them RIGHT NOW and make that message something they can’t possibly ignore.

And that sense of danger wants me to ignore how irrational, distorted, and frankly selfish the impulse is.

I feel myself itching to do it.

And my treatment involves me noticing the cycle and NOT acting on it

mariyadelano,
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The reason I’m telling all of you this is partially to educate on my disorder, but also because publicly admitting to my harmful coping mechanisms and thought patterns keeps me aware and accountable.

And the only way for me to get better is to keep forcing myself to recognize all the irrational conclusions and cycles that my brain traps me in.

So… thank you for listening.

mariyadelano,
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@h3artbl33d if you wish to elaborate on your own experience - go for it! I'm sure some people reading this thread would find more stories about BPD valuable. And I'm curious as well.

But please don't feel pressured to share if you're not comfortable with it!

mariyadelano,
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@pasmac I keep trying to remind myself that my brain is just doing its best to protect me in the ways that it knows. And that I am retraining it to protect me in ways that are healthier and more beneficial but they are scary because they are so new.

Running and exercise definitely help I need to get more regular with that.

mariyadelano, to marketing
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I've been making a big mistake: I think of myself as a marketer, and forget to think as a business executive.

Concerns about financial planning, pipeline, business model, service mix, hiring and onboarding, etc. – felt irrelevant. Like topics for stuffy business dudes to talk about in their giant boardrooms.

I fell into the trap of thinking that if I did well #marketing and we did a damn good job, the #business would run itself. (Spoiler: it didn’t)

https://youtu.be/RaLy__gyQUw?si=FSY5G_y5z8VylUT9

mariyadelano, to jpmusic
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I have become absolutely obsessed with this
https://youtu.be/GZ3zL7kT6_c?si=22bFdCnYGQBq5rtv

mariyadelano, to random
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Hi everyone I’m freaking out because a YouTuber I watch lives in my building and I ran into him downstairs.

…I was too scared to say anything tho so I guess hoping for a next time??

mariyadelano,
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@IPEdmonton I now need to think of the right thing to say so he actually talks to me and doesn’t think I’m a total creep πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

mariyadelano,
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@jeromechoo yeah it’s so scary to approach!!I totally understand

mariyadelano,
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@jeromechoo SAME

mariyadelano,
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@MegaMichelle β€œlike and subscribe” hahah

lzg, to random
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    mariyadelano,
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    @lzg please share a link to some of your favorite examples this sounds amazing

    mariyadelano, to Help
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    request: I have a client that’s a large enterprise company making software for marketers.

    They’re looking to get speaking placements for their executives into large tech and . Within tech, B2B, software, or general marketing and advertising, with 10,000+ attendees.

    Anybody have contacts or tips they can share? Really appreciate it.

    Haven’t pitched large clients like this before so I’m nervous 😬

    mariyadelano,
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    @pch aww thank you!

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