I've been on #blahajzone so long that I remember when most of us didn't have anime profile pics. :blobcat_lol: User no. 9 :Blobhaj_Ani_Hophop: for life, baby!
I used to have my face as my pfp until the day that I saw another user here replying to someone I knew - a close friend's abuser whose psychological abuse caused them a series of mental breakdowns and hospitalisations.
I have them blocked and muted and yet I still see them occasionally being replied to by folks that I follow who are unaware of this person's background. I guess they might be able to see me too, so I took my profile pic down (and all selfies are behind a NSFW tag or CW) and removed some things about me from my profile description. Hopefully they don't remember me, even though I remember them and how they tortured my friend. #FediverseSafety
Yeah good point by @cendawanita about permissions (or lack thereabouts) for #kbin et al to scrape the #fediverse and put posts/toots into magazines. It feels like so many #Mastodon admins are blind to how the fediverse beyond Masto software & the Masto API actually works.
Seeing such folks write lengthy posts about defederating Masto instances running Vyr's search patch while the rest of the fedi has #FullTextSearch and the #Threadiverse scrapes it with next to no backlash. It's like folks don't know that there's a bigger problem with #ActivityPub re #privacy and #safety than Website Boy's latest antics, and we need to push for #FediverseSafety and privacy flags at a ActivityPub protocol level. Until then, everything is just a non-binding, non-enforceable agreement about cultural norms that there's seems no consensus on; and definitely no focus on minority safety, rather features some will claim are wanted by a majority.
It's interesting sitting here on an old version of #Calckey seeing someone on #Mastodon server telling their fellow user that posting to unlisted will opt-out of #search when I can see Unlisted posts in my antennas quite easily though I believe this has been rightly rectified in the newest versions of [#Firefish / #Iceshrimp but need to confirm]. Being hidden from the Explore tab on Mastodon is not the same as being unsearchable across the fediverse. Frankly, there's little understanding even among admins across the #fediverse about what's a Mastodon / Mastodon API function that is federated to other Mastodon servers but doesn't translate well outside of Mastodon on other #ActivityPub connected platforms like #Misskey and it's forks, #Hubzilla and #Friendica, or rapidly growing platforms like #Lemmy and #Kbin. Kbin also scrapes posts from across the fediverse and puts them into its own magazines.
Unfortunately simple, up-to-date documentation doesn't really exist to explain the realities of federation vs what your admin said was the reality. AP was not built with privacy in mind, and 'security through obscurity' was mostly a Mastodon thing from when folks thought either the Mastoverse was almost the dark web, or the whole fediverse [which has never been the case], and Google et al weren't interested in scraping it.
Unfortunately we have a cadre of devs across all fedi platforms who'll give glowing lip-service to both the fedi and ActivityPub histories of being built by queer or other minority identities but still won't work on giving folks the granular #privacy and #safety controls that weren't included in those protocols, and whose feature roadmaps now just look like bird site 2.0 funded by the milquetoast liberals in political tech who provide their seed money.
Beyond Mastodon and GoToSocial, every other fediverse project treats posting to public as opting in to search and indexing. Indeed, this is pretty much how the ActivityPub protocol handles such too.
Tbh, I now think much of the Threadiverse can be characterised the same way. It's sad to think that there's plenty of Mastodon/*key server owners who allow and tolerate so much more bigoted nonsense on the #fediverse when it has #Lemmy on the tin they're using. The same fucks who haven't pushed for #FediverseSafety have onboarded thousands of more users on software fraught with even less moderation tools.
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'Ultimately, dear reader, what I want for you, is what I want for everyone in this world. I want you to know that you are right: “Anti-racist action is likely to result in further rejection, alienation and victimisation” and that this makes it all the more important to nurture in yourself a sense of ambition for dismantling racism.' #FediverseSafety
Tbh, I'm on a proactively moderated server that has preemptively kept a lot of the worst folks from being able to reach us queers here, and the feedback from a handful of black users here is that #blahajzone has also been generally been harassment free in comparison to other servers they've been on.
Imo, it's actually not to hard as a queer or trans person to find #servers on the #fediverse that will protect you from harassment, but that it is harder to find servers that will also protect indigenous, black, Asian users from racist harassment. And too many queer white folks get a free pass for ignorance tbh, a privilege that many of us have had for far too long.
It's much the same on #Bluesky where I haven't been harassed for being #queer and trans - again there's large communities and plenty of allies - but anti-black racism has been in the spotlight again recently and the devs called out for lagging behind on safety and moderation features that bigots exploit for harassment campaigns.
Far too many fediverse projects are led by men, mostly white men, who are lionised, promoted and financed by another layer of mostly white men. They ultimately get the veto on minority protections.
I hope #Hajkey keeps developing for blahaj.zone and similar communities, particularly the long sought after #FediverseSafety features that never seem to arrive on the #Fediverse and become more important as greater adoption occurs and user culture changes - like the amount of transphobic users that Lemmy has brought here and the dev bros think this is progress. #Firefish#Calckey#IceShrimp@maegul
And now we're nearly at 1000 accounts and it still feels like an oasis from hate. I love that this place exists, our safety is paramount, and that won't change regardless of what other servers do. #trans#fediverse#fediversesafety#calckey#hajkey#findaserver
@atomicpoet I think whatever we become we'll really only have 'succeeded' if #Calckey leads the way with #FediverseSafety ahead of features and scale.
The Calckey I see would
have a diverse team of folks that has the time to listen to the safety discourses, and the lived experience to know why safety matters, and informs their #development decisions.
make importing #blocklists or integrating third party #moderation tools easypeasy, so no user finds themselves on an new server that's open to dogpiled by the worst elements of the #Fediverse.
have granular user controls for #safety - opt-in & opt-out; and features - like turning down/off MFM when it's overwhelming without a user needing to resort to CSS scripts.
not really care to be a birdsite or #Mastodon alternative. Let's work to be a better secret third thing, or fourth, or fifth thing.
If we really have to duplicate the big influencer account thing, I'd like to see more non-White, autistic, disabled, queers, and women voices. They're here, but they're often forced to be critics of a newer hegemony. Let's be listening for how can Calckey become the main service of choice for Black, POC and Indigenous women to join, spin up servers, become developers, and have prominent voices on. The rest of the good stuff will follow that.
I think we can do that, but only if we prioritise, and promote minority voices, and do the structural work to support them coming to the service.
Really pissed to find out that a block means nothing on #calckey or #mastodon. Feeling ick being able to see the former partner of a friend who I have blocked, because someone on blahaj.zone has replied to them and there they are now sitting in the local timeline. They really fucked my friend up for years with their sociopathic manipulation.
Now I find out that she can see me if I'm not set to private. Why can't a block be an actual fucking block?
This is the basic shit many folks have been asking for while devs just fuck around with their basic bro stuff.
I really don't want to leave the #Fediverse, but how the fuck is this safe??? How can I feel safe knowing that she can potentially see me? I'd be safer back on the bird site.