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Susan60

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Lifelong learner, leftie, AuADHD, Bunurong country, Australia. She/her. Won’t boost photos without alt txt (unless I forget!).

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RickiTarr, to random
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What is one decision you've made in your life, that you knew was the absolute right decision to make and why?

Susan60,
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@RickiTarr
Splitting up with my ex. Life had thrown us together & we have 2 wonderful kids, but we weren’t meant to go row old together.

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Alright, after all this talk of ketchup/catsup, I need to know:

What are the Top 5 Condiments you have to have in your kitchen?

Susan60,
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@RickiTarr
Asking the chef

Salt & pepper
Mixed herbs
Vinegar
Mustard/sambal (heat)
Soy

Susan60, to actuallyautistic
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I was going to post this as a response to someone else’s post, but realised it wasn’t really relevant to their point.

Years ago, when doing my teacher training, we had a guest speaker come & talk to us about our role as teacher when dealing with sexual diversity etc. He was a very conventional looking young white man.

It was a seminar type presentation, with discussion along the way. As time went on, he slowly removed his “straight” mask, to show how many students can & do present as heteronormative until if & when they’re ready to come out.

I wonder how this would work for autistic advocates who can mask effectively, in small group presentations? Masking as in making eye contact, smiling, a self effacing introduction etc. And then, “This is how I can present when I feel the need. This is how I present when I feel safe or give up caring.” Followed by an explanation of the impact that masking has, the fact that many autistic people can’t mask, the fact that we shouldn’t need to mask etc as well as general autism education.

Of course this shouldn’t be necessary & it wouldn’t be in an ideal world.
We could make comparisons with women who have to play by the men’s rules in business & politics, the people of colour &/or members of other different ethnic/religious groups who try to “assimilate” to get ahead, & how many struggle to do so, feel like traitors to themselves & their peers, get sick of &/or struggle with pretending to be someone other than they really are. Masking autism is not the same, & this would need to be explained, but I think many people would relate to some of the similarities & the feelings involved.

There will always be some people who refuse to learn, who insist on a negative approach as part of their strategy to prop up their own ego. And it’s not them whom I would bother trying to convince. It’s the more reasonable but ignorant people who are open to learning that I think would be worth targeting.

@actuallyautistic

Susan60,
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@sfwrtr @actuallyautistic

Oh gee…

That’s why I love this place. We can all express stuff & what we read can spark off epiphanies. I often find myself jutting down notes on my phone or in a notebook.

I’m so glad you found this helpful. Given the way autistic people were often treated back then, I’m glad that I went undiagnosed & learned how to mask. Obviously my traits were such that this wasn’t as awful an outcome as it has been for some. But when had to step up & take charge after my parents’ deaths, I was able to do so. Yes, I burnt out, & suffered depression, but I got through.

I think my own mother was probably AuADHD and while I sometimes found her hard or distant, I also have precious memories of tenderness & empathy when I was sick, surprisingly gauche humour (she could be a bit of a snob) & in depth analytical discussions in response to articles in the Saturday paper.

I’m always aware when I write that there are others for whom the journey has been harder and more painful, leaving deeper & more tender scars. But surely it’s a good thing to recognise & acknowledge the good experiences we’ve had?

DenisCOVIDinfoguy, to random
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Schools to ask kids to learn from home as teacher shortage reaches crisis level

"Victoria’s teacher shortage is reaching new crisis levels, with 9 in 10 principals warning some classrooms won’t have a teacher next year and may need to learn from home some days."

Source: https://www.heraldsun.com.au/victoria-education/schools-to-ask-kids-to-learn-from-home-as-teacher-shortage-reaches-crisis-level/news-story/8d94acc28886bfe0f1eeada9b4464e46

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Susan60,
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@DenisCOVIDinfoguy
Family member with long Covid resigns from teaching job. Has been spending all downtime recovering enough to deal with the working week. Considering changing careers.

Susan60, to climate
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Feeling very apprehensive about our approaching summer, given what’s happening in Canada & the Med right now.

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Mild but overcast in town today. Love a train &/or tram trip into my beloved cbd.

Susan60, to ADHD
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https://theconversation.com/do-kids-grow-out-of-adhd-as-they-get-older-218692 @actuallyautistic

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Dog sitting for my son for a few days. Oldest & I took Charlie to the botanical gardens. He was thrilled! So many smells…

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Day out today, in spite of the weather. Lovely lunch at St Andrews Hotel Fitzroy.

I can’t see the name of this ornate, late 19th century 3 storey building built of red & cream brick.
A terrace of old homes, with public housing towers peeping over the top. Grey skies & a very wet road

Susan60, to random
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Partner’s birthday chocolates from sister & BIL. One of the dullest looking is cardamon, & absolutely sublime. Xocolatl.

Susan60, to random
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Interesting to see that this latest variant is being reported as not concerning for anyone who is vaccinated, with no mention of Long Covid. I overheard a woman pushing a stroller the other day, telling someone on her phone about the brain fog that she can’t shake off.

Susan60, to random
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Here I am, in my 60s, & only really waking up to the extent that the values & attitudes of a dominant culture shape our actions. Even when the people who have set those things aren’t people “like us”. This is why it can take so long to throw off the ignorance & bigotry of the past. As children, we absorb those things, even if they go against own nature, or our own interests. Women will sometimes support the patriarchy. Aspirational working class people will sometimes support economically conservative politicians. A child who feels strongly about social justice might grow into a “well meaning” adult who does “good” things in a patronising or paternalistic manner. If & when we realise such things, we have to confront them & decide whether to shake them off & learn new ways, or respond defensively, fighting to stay the same. And if it’s the latter, who are we going to hurt? Those who need our support? Our family? Ourselves?

Susan60, to random
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https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-10-10/act-shock-eye-disease-glaucoma-diagnosis-testing-awareness/102953394?utm_source=abc_news_app&utm_medium=content_shared&utm_campaign=abc_news_app&utm_content=other In Australia, Medicare covers us for an annual eye check. Clearly people who think their eyesight is fine need to be getting checked.

Susan60, to ADHD
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I’m learning about my “inner voice”. Apparently for some people, it’s the voice that switches on when they’re pondering, preparing for a conversation/lecture/performance/interview etc. But for others, it’s always on, unless thoroughly engaged with an external stimulus. It’s what might distract us from a boring task, lecture, conversation, TV show etc. Or it might make a boring task possible. Or it might be really irritating, making us tired & short tempered.

Susan60, to solar
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So a word. Solar installers have access to aerial photos which tells them a lot of what they need to know to give you a quote, but not enough. Small but significant details can make a big difference.

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So today we jumped on a ferry to Greenwich Point, walked along the coast, found a lovely cafe for brunch, then ferry back to Circular Quay & refreshments in The Rocks. Not too shabby.

View of a harbour inlet, through the bush, from a coastal track.
Dark ale, the remains of pork pie & pickle, & a Chardonnay.

Susan60, to climate
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So Australia is about a decade behind in its transition to renewable energy. A decade. Is that significant in some way?

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My poor finger lime has never looked so healthy. It’s enjoying the humidity a lot more than me!

Susan60, to actuallyautistic
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Question. Some dogs can tell if a person has cancer, presumably by their smell. Does anyone think that some autistic people might be more sensitive to such changes in body chemistry? Not as much as a dog, but more than most other people? @actuallyautistic

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Kylie Kwong: ‘Nothing prepared me for when my father looked me in the face and said, ‘I do not accept you for who you are’ https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/dec/31/kylie-kwong-nothing-prepared-me-for-when-my-parents-looked-me-in-the-face-and-said-i-do-not-accept-you-for-who-you-are?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other This made me cry, but in a good way. So poignant.

MorpheusB, to australia
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Australia's coastal cities and surrounding hinterlands have long been popular with tourists, sea-changers and retirees. But they have a darker side. In the early morning you will often find car parks crowded with cars, vans, caravans and even tents, where refugees from the housing crisis have spent the night.

People of all ages, including families with children, are cooking breakfast, using the cold-water showers and packing up for another day, always trying to keep one step ahead of council officers or police. These unhoused people don't conform to homeless stereotypes. Many have jobs and children in school and no serious mental or physical health problems. They simply cannot find an affordable home to rent, or have lost or are unable to buy a home of their own.

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-02-27/tiny-houses-council-approval-housing-crisis-local-laws/102019968

Susan60,
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@MorpheusB And while tiny homes might help, I worry what will happen as they age if owners can’t afford maintenance. Mobile slums? Proper housing solutions must be found.,

melissabeartrix, to random
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League of nations ... Failed

United nations ... Failed

I wonder what name they will come up with next ... I'm sure the Republicans want league of nations especially Texas

Hugz & xXx

Susan60,
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@shaknais @melissabeartrix
Whether or not they failed depends on what people expect of them. Neither were vested with any sort of workable authority. They were meant to be associations where diplomacy etc could reduce the likelihood of future wars & of states going rogue, not prevent it altogether.

melissabeartrix, to random
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That was so nice ... Well it made me feel good ... The waitress came out and asked if I wanted milk ... And she shouted back "she doesn't want milk, thanks" ... Hugz

Hugz & xXx

Susan60,
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@melissabeartrix @AndrewHS @PaulWay

I suspect that newly realised cis autistic people such as myself, who are coming to grips with the extent to which they have masked their autism, are probably highly likely to be empathetic. I think the proportion of autistic folk who identify as trans or enby is pretty high, so the rest of us probably know people who are trans or enby.

Susan60, to ADHD
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Thought. I have always run warm. I do feel the cold, but not as much as most people. I hate (detest?) overheated department stores. This got worse with the onset of perimenopause, & I was unable to wear jumpers for years, because I couldn’t get them off quickly enough during hot flushes, which threatened spontaneous combustion. This settled somewhat after finally going on HRT.

I’ve noticed a change since going on ADHD meds. I now wear winter pjs on a “cool” summers night, & a nightie on warmer ones & am more likely to don a jacket of an evening.

I’m wondering whether this is a consequence of the meds, & overheating is related to ADHD. @actuallyautistic

Susan60,
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@LordCaramac @olena @actuallyautistic
I was a "bottomless pit" as a kid, but thought nothing of it because I was so tall, and while I definitely wasn't sporty, I was fairly active.

And after childbirth, I returned to my pre-pregnancy weight very quickly (which made me the cause of envy), and struggled (and failed) to maintain a good weight while breastfeeding. I made drinks with soy milk, an egg, banana, some oats, honey, and protein powder in an effort to not fade away. The same thing happened the second time around, but it was less pronounced.

I no longer experience hunger, just feel irritable or a bit sick if I haven’t eaten enough, & am less likely to snack for pleasure or eat too large a meal when on ADHD meds (which has actually been a good thing, but I need to watch that I do eat lunch.)

In short, I think the interplay between ADHD, temperature regulation & metabolism definitely needs a look!

melissabeartrix, to random
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Happy 2024 one and all ... This year will be challenging, we will make it ... Hugz

Be kind to you and the ones that love you

Hugz & xXx

Susan60,
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@melissabeartrix Beautiful day here in Melbourne, so a good start. HNY Melissa.

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