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Monsters from the Id! Fish from the Wardrobe! Or something.

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chevalier26, to actuallyautistic
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What are your thoughts on self-diagnosis being belittled by many in the autistic community?

For clarity, I’m not asking to start a debate, just a genuine discussion. I currently don’t have the option to get a diagnosis, but feel fairly confident that the research I’ve done over the past year and a half has been legitimate and credible.

I don’t feel comfortable saying that I am definitively autistic, but I am ok with saying I’m “self-suspecting.” @actuallyautistic

fishidwardrobe,
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@chevalier26 @actuallyautistic A diagnosis is useful -- mostly for dealing with the rest of the medical system, or sometimes work/education. But it doesn't really mean much else.

I'm starting to think like this: it doesn't matter if I (or anyone else) "is" autistic. What traits and behaviours do I (they) have which can be explained as autistic traits or behaviours? And does that help me understand better?

And a diagnosis isn't going to give you that.

fishidwardrobe,
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@chevalier26 @actuallyautistic To clarify: you can be not-autistic and do things which I can understand better as an autistic trait. ADHD folks infodump too. Traumatisted folks can shut down in over-stimulating environments.

Then again, as an autist I don't do everything that autistic folks do. I'm fairly good with nuance; I have shutdowns, not meltdowns; etc.

"Autistic" may sometimes be too broad a term to be useful to you.

vik, (edited ) to homeassistant
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Next project is a 15 tonne water tank level monitor. So, your thoughts:

fishidwardrobe,
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@vik isn't that quite heavy for a sensor? ;)

fishidwardrobe,
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@vik milspec?

LALegault, to random
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Okay, which enthusiast can explain to me (at length even!) how the American aid pier floated away? I am fascinated.

fishidwardrobe,
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@LALegault @gaveen @actuallyautistic No. AND on the hashtag they created to specifically avoid posts like yours? Super no.

danjac, to random
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You get the impression from today's Tories (Sunak, Truss et al) that they don't really like Britain or its people very much. They regard the British people as lazy, "woke", workshy and ungrateful.

Hence all their talk about doing away with doctors' sick notes, discouraging work-from-home, "Singapore on the Thames" etc. They would much rather be governing an imaginary authoritarian country somewhere in Asia with zero workers rights.

fishidwardrobe,
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@danjac Well, you could say the same about Thatcher, I think

fishidwardrobe,
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@danjac Enemy within / deep state. Tomato / tomato.

theaardvark, to Autism
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#Autism #ADHD #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic
How does everyone know how, when and how much they're masking?
As a late-diagnosed #AuDHD, I struggle to differentiate between "me but masking" and "me but in a diff situation".
Now that I know I'm autistic, I even miss the person I used to be in some situations before I knew.
I used to call myself a "social chameleon" - I just changed automatically to suit the circumstances.
But who actually am I and what is just a mask?
@actuallyautistic
@actuallyadhd

fishidwardrobe,
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@theaardvark @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd There are almost certainly times when you're not masking. They may not be often, but almost any little chink in the armour will tell you something. For me the starting point was -- I don't mask when talking to my cats! Once I recognised that voice I could start writing notes to myself without masking.

To complicate things: everyone switches between different aspects of theirself to suit their surroundings. That's not really masking.

dyani, to actuallyautistic
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Hmm is this an ND thing?

Ever since I can remember, I have strongly disliked pranks and have been against humor at the expense of someone else (making fun of them).

I know nice NT people also feel this way but I've felt this strongly since a very young age. Anyone else?

@actuallyautistic

fishidwardrobe,
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@dyani @actuallyautistic yes yes yes

RickiTarr, to random
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What if the weird thoughts I have popping into my head are animals trying to telepathically communicate with me?

fishidwardrobe,
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@RickiTarr ::put out the bird food:: ::put out the bird food::

KitOz, to actuallyautistic
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I was noticing that my cat and I seem to share some behaviors, which made me wonder if cats aren't a little bit autistic. Or maybe I'm a little bit cat?

Which gave me the idea to come up with a facetious self-assessment quiz: Are you autistic, or are you a house cat?

Take the quiz to find out!

@actuallyautistic

https://kitozbooks.com/2024/04/autistic-or-a-house-cat/

fishidwardrobe,
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@KitOz @actuallyautistic Cats and autism: we have thought the exact same thing here.

pvonhellermannn, to Massachusetts
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“In a drastic attempt to protect their beachfront homes, residents in Salisbury, Massachusetts, invested $500,000 in a sand dune to defend against encroaching tides. After being completed last week, the barrier made from 14,000 tons of sand lasted just 72 hours before it was completely washed away”

https://www.thedailybeast.com/dollar500k-dune-designed-to-protect-massachusetts-homes-last-just-3-days

fishidwardrobe,
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@pvonhellermannn Half a million for a sand dune?!

fishidwardrobe, to random
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Does anyone know of a Linux command-line app for the Fediverse that would let me script an archive of my bookmarks?

fishidwardrobe, to homeassistant
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Okay, that was ... Odd. Every day my sends my phone a notification that it's turned the lights on in the hall (I'm adjusting the timing). I was just rerouting the network cable to my Pi -- had the box in my hand and the power cable in the other --- and I got the notification. How?!

fishidwardrobe,
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@holgerschurig on what? The pi is down. Is there traceroute for Android?

sebwhatever, to actuallyautistic
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@actuallyautistic

How do we feel about publically calling out people that have wronged you?

fishidwardrobe,
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@sebwhatever @actuallyautistic pointless, but perhaps therapeutic?

fkamiah17, to UKpolitics
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At this point, I think Israel's just double-daring the west to actually do something.

fishidwardrobe,
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@fkamiah17 Funny coincidence: that's just what Putin says about Ukraine. Isn't that weird? I'm sure there's no connection.

fishidwardrobe,
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@fkamiah17 I'm sure it's just a weird coincidence…

HeavenlyPossum, to random
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Once, when I was in my teens, I was talking to someone who was Christian, and I badgered her about her faith. I don’t know why she put up with my shit, but she did, and I smugly deconstructed her religion until all she could say was “it’s just faith, I just believe.”

I made her cry. She tried to hide it but I saw. I felt deep shame then and will remember that moment for the rest of my life. I remain deeply ashamed of that moment, that attitude, of the sort of person I was trying to be. Of making myself feel better about myself by making someone else feel bad about themselves.

What good did I do her? How did I make her life better in any way? I didn’t. I made it worse.

I wish I could say I stopped being a condescending asshole about religion in that moment but it took me years more to learn the lesson I should have learned in that moment—I have no business believing I know another person as well as they know themselves.

(It is no surprise that I am an anarchist. I believe in radical humility. I have no business telling anyone else how to live.)

She was an immensely smart person. She was perfectly capable of interrogating her own beliefs herself. I did her no good by hounding her.

To anyone who thinks they’re going to persuade me into being an anti-theist, I assure you there is nothing you can say that will counterbalance the shame I feel for that moment. I learned my lesson.

fishidwardrobe,
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@HeavenlyPossum There is something profoundly broken about "atheism" as it's found on the internet. I don't mean that there is anything wrong with not believing in a god or gods. And I know that there are plenty of folks who don't and are perfectly nice people. But.

It's got nothing to do with religion. You see it with the bicycle crowd, too. I know for a fact that most people who like to cycle don't scream at random strangers to get out of their cars. And yet.

danjac, to random
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An over-specific and demanding product owner is to be preferred over one that hand-waves specs, ignores concerns then panics post-launch.

fishidwardrobe,
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@danjac Ideally neither of these, though

danjac, to random
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ActivityPub is maddeningly difficult.

The basic principles are easy, sure. But finding a consistent actual example JSON-LD document where it is clearly explained "here is a Follow, the object URL should be this, the actor URL should be that, the ID of the follow should point to the other thing" is really, really hard. The w3c example is incomplete, some implementations use OStatus, the Primer(!!!!) has zero examples.

🤷

fishidwardrobe,
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@danjac I don't understand projects that don't think good docs are vital. (Which is most FOSS, sadly.)

fishidwardrobe,
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@danjac Well then the docs for the spec aren't adequate

autism101, to actuallyautistic
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Do you ever find yourself oversharing with complete strangers in social settings?

@actuallyautistic

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fishidwardrobe,
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@autism101 @actuallyautistic Oh yes. Much easier to tell a stranger your secrets. Also, the Fediverse…

mdimjasevic, to homeassistant
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Dear @homeassistant users, do you have any smart light bulb to recommend that works fully locally and it integrates with ? I am open to WiFi and Zigbee variants.

I just ran into a WiFi-based TP-Link Tapo bulb for half of its usual price. I bet it phones to the headquarters. It'd be great if it can be flashed with a libre firmware. Any thoughts?

fishidwardrobe,
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@dmakovec @mdimjasevic @homeassistant Yes, it goes into pairing mode out of the box. The problem comes when you want to get it into pairing mode a second time…

GayOldTime, to gay
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Fabulous Fablon – the name you can trust for truly gay decorating! ✨

fishidwardrobe,
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@GayOldTime Dear gods – what Blue Peter called "sticky back plastic". Often was still Fablon brand here in the UK even in the 80s. I can smell it now…

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