Been burned out for at least 2-3 years, probably more. Carer & autistic types with physical disability. Trying to recover, but still lots to do in daily life, so slow progress.
On learning more about #ADHD, it feels like these traits have become much more prominent than my autism. Lots of forgetfulness, lack of focus, emotional dysregulation etc.
Q: Do lower dopamine levels ‘bring out’ traits? I’ve shown some ADHD traits forever but didn’t realise. @actuallyautistic
@innervisioner@actuallyautistic a book, a perspective, challenge yourself! For yourself, it will benifit all of your relationships possibly. Being yourself wolnt be so hard.
It gets to be more comfortable and realize life isn’t punishing you, we punish ourselves far worse everytime we imagine that our perspective doesn’t shape our reality.
It’s largely a work in progress trial and error. But the more you learn. The more joy and awe you could experience possibly, even from an acorn.
@EVDHmn@actuallyautistic Cheers Derek, appreciate it. It makes a difference hearing it from a peer rather than out of a book (not that doctors are even aware of this depth of insight!).
Aw shit... I definitely have the prednisone zoomies NOW.
Which is fine, only one more day of this, and it's nice to have some upwards energy.
However... in addition to having some chuff to push forward a big project I am exited about and my survival actually depends on, I suddenly have brilliant ideas for like 5 other projects.
Ok. Project I think I might actually try and slam dunk while I have the zoomies:
Some kind of @ boostsOfJoy acct for when I am tired and can't human and just want to scroll content that is happy and hopeful, and then just boost the shit out of that for other people (basically curated optimism and joy). Cozy content.
Want it on a different server.
Criteria:
Takes patreon donations
Has good moderation
Can handle volume if this accidentally gets big
@vlrny@Ryan@gtbray we could use a couple more mods... as we only have one dedicated mod plus a jr sys admin waiting in the wings other than myself.
Report volume is relatively low but with the conflict in Israel/Palestine, we've seen a lift in reports. I generally try to keep myself out of front-line reports to be able to be a third party in appeals but lately, I've felt I need to help out with them to help the team out.
Can anyone help me rationalise the cost of apps that help focus by blocking access to distractions?
I get that they're providing a useful service, but why are they so expensive for what they do? Essentially, services like Freedom.to are just an IP blocker in a fancy package, right? So how is that £3 a month?
It just kinda feels like it's preying on people with #ADHD who have been fucked over by apps and sites being designed to be little dopamine dispensers, and they have the only solution.
(PiHole will run on p much any Linux box, not just an RPi, and if I - a dummy - can do it anyone can, but it's still more faff/admin than signing up for a webservice!)
if we weren't all constantly procrastinating, we could do shit like set up a recruitment agency for people with #ADHD. a lot of us have probably got the coding and design skills to pull that off. but i am 100% convinced that if we tried to coordinate such an effort... 😭
L’ALD, l’Affectation Longue Durée est un dispositif qui permet une prise en charge des soins liées à des pathologies.
Parmi les pathologies inclues, il y a notamment les pathologies psychiatriques de longue durée, qui sont handicapante dans la vie de tous les jours, nécessitent un traitement ou des soins sur une longue durée et peuvent présenter des risques si non traitées. On y retrouve notamment la bipolarité, la dépression récurrente etc.
Devinez qu'est-ce qui n'y figure pas ? Les #TDAH, malgré le fait qu'ils répondent à tous les critères et que 80% des patients ont des troubles associés qui figurent dans la liste des ALD reconnues.
@cferdinandi I strictly cycle through my t-shirts to not stress out about that (and also to load-balance the tear/wear across them). Additionally, I prepare the clothes for the next day in the evening, also for energy reasons.
This sometimes leads to fun combinations of shirt and day, like wearing a "I don't give a shit" - shirt for a retrospective.
@kronn Even new out of the package they "feel different" to me. The sensory issues are STRONG. I like that you have a cycling system, though. That's rad!
It is so cringe when i hear people hijack general less descriptive terms like "neurodivergent" to mean really silly arbitrary things like adhd and autism... we already have descriptive terms and that word already means something useful before you bastardized it.
After figuring out years ago that I can listen better, especially over long periods of time, if I have something to keep my hands busy, I try to always have a #crochet project on hand heading into multi-day meetings or conferences.
Ran out of time to prep for this one, so I started winding my skein into a yarn ball during opening remarks, got my sizing swatch done for a one-skein triangle shawl (Moogly Fortune's Shawlette) by the end of One Track Mind, and made a nice bit more progress during the firetalks...
It's the perfect con project - a simple diagonal-box-stitch repeat, no complex counting required. Just add a box every row until I run out of yarn, and then frog back until I have enough yarn left for the edging. 😁
I had no idea #ADHDAwarenessMonth was a thing (or I just forgot about it--either way, thanks, @KydiaMusic for the notice! lol) so due to my choice in username, I feel obligated to share a little about my experience. 😁
So here's the heavy shit: It's estimated that kids with #ADHD receive over 20,000 more negative messages/corrections than neurotypical kids by the time they are 10 years old. That's not an insignificant number on paper, but living it is something else entirely.
I was diagnosed at 21 years old. When someone goes undiagnosed that long, it means that they've internalized more than a few stories they've been told about themselves. "I'm stupid," "I'm lazy," "I'm a failure," "I'm afraid of success," "I can't do anything right," and other fun fables. This is a quasi-universal experience for us because it's not just "hard" to avoid internalizing that. It's not the same as having a bully tell you you're a sack of crap every day at school; it's everyone in your life--friends, teachers, your parents. When the people that love you most in the world are fed up with you on a daily basis, it wreaks havoc on your self-esteem.
Now here's the truth about ADHD: Yes, it's a disadvantage in school, at work, and in our relationships. The fact is, however, that having an ADHD brain is not the problem. ADHD will only remain a disability while the world continues to be disabling to us.
The ADHD brain is wild. It's untamed. We're out-of-the-box thinkers. We're creative. We're perpetual students and teachers. We're passionate, excitable, bright, and lively people. ADHD brains are typically charismatic and have a veritable toolbox of skills and acquired knowledge. We're often great in a crisis and can think fast on our feet when put in a corner. Our brains actually take in more information than neurotypical brains, and while it can be intensely overwhelming at times, it also means we are surprisingly observant and skilled multi-taskers. In fact, studies have shown that, despite our "scattered" nature and difficulty directing our attention, we can be given a task in a room full of distractions and not only complete the task more efficiently than our neurotypical counterparts, but we can recall more details about the distractions and environment afterward.
All this is to say that there is a real need for #ADHDAwareness in our world, because #ADHDers have so much to offer but so many of us don't get anywhere near what we need to thrive. We need parents and teachers to be curious about us, not judgmental. We need leadership at school and at work that is knowledgeable about our condition. We need accommodations to be accessible to us, if not baked into more systems for everyone. We need timely diagnoses, especially for girls/women, people of color, and intersectional folks who are all systematically under-diagnosed, misdiagnosed, and ignored.
Anyway, thank you for reading. Sincerely. Go give an ADHDer a hug. Peace and love. 🤙
Which is why I have now spent three days obsessing about low lighting in #StableDiffusion (and being hyperanxious about a therapist visit that was cancelled last moment).
Why don't I ever get cleaning hyperfocus? VACUUM AND MOP ALL THE THINGS?
Do you get suddenly utterly exhausted when something you're trying to do doesn't work, and you end up going down a rabbit hole of trying to fix something that ought to fix something that should fix something that isn't working? Or is that just an #ADHD thing.
Like, I want to root this ancient Galaxy Tab I have, to see how it runs a newer Android. But I use macOS, so right away there's a problem, because almost all of the guides are strictly Windows only.
So I'm trying to install Window in a VM on my Mac via UTM, except I keep getting an error message, and it seems that it's because my Mac isn't mounting the ISO properly, and the tools I apparently need to do this don't seem to be working in Terminal and...sigh...
@krazykitty c'est un car de ligne, je mets la trottinette en soute, c'est les memes chauffeurs aux memes horaires tous les jours. Ce matin le chauffeur du 8h15 a appelé le collègue du bus de l'aprem dans lequel je pensais l'avoir oubliée, qui l'avait tjrs en soute...
Since Black Friday is here, I wanted to share some of the items available in my shop 😊
I design and make cute stickers, enamel pins and notepads. My goal is to make people who felt like the “misfit” kid seen and mainstream the marginalised. 🌈🥰
I was having an ok day, until someone said I was being annoying. :sadness:
Feel free to mute me, unfollow, or block me if the way I conduct myself on here is not to your taste. I welcome gentle correction if I'm behaving in a way that's hurtful or inconsiderate, but I don't tolerate rudeness or requests that I alter my behavior just because someone doesn't like how often they see my posts. There are plenty of people who are annoying and you can just...ignore them.
EXACTLY! I follow a lot of people, a lot of people follow me #humblebrag (lol, not really, but it's a lot to me) and most people are just dipping in here and there throughout the day. If someone boosts their own post, it's because they want more people to see it. They're not doing it specifically to annoy the people who already saw it. Just keep scrollin', chief. It's a big world if you let it be.
Study comparing health and genetic differences in settled and nomadic groups of the #Ariaal of N. #Kenya. A mutation associating to #ADHD may be favourable for the nomads.
'In modern children diagnosed with ADHD, the genetic mutation generally correlates with restlessness and distractibility. And in those Ariaal children who had settled into sedentary Western behaviours, the gene was linked to poor health and distracted classroom behaviours. But in those Ariaal who still practised a traditional nomadic life, the gene mutation was linked to strength and better nutritional health.'
Cooperation, conflict management, social flexibility, and a restless willingness to leave a bad situation all seem like more relevant selection pressures.