@Doomed_Daniel I'm fine with it, for just putting up some memories it's totally fine. And I'm also happy with the regular colour prints. Since I switched to Linux and its drivers stuff got a bit darker, I haven't yet found the best settings again, but for me it's fine. YMMV
I guess if one really wants super-high-quality photos, it's best to just use some service like CEWE that uses professional inkjets or whatever printers are best at photos nowadays
When you received your diagnosis, was it a massive anticlimax?
I ask, because my kid got his yesterday and told me that it felt underwhelming, and I distinctly remember feeling the same way when receiving my own, four years ago.
There wasn’t this great moment of relief, just a calm, almost bored psychiatrist saying “Yes, it sounds like ADHD. Let’s try you on this medication and see how you get on”
@DJDarren Mine took so long that... yeah, it was a bit. Self-diagnosis was the impactful thing because that was how I started on the path of understanding and shared strategies.
Any other neurodivergent people feel guilty about relaxing?
Whenever I have the opportunity to do nothing, my brain immediately starts inventing things that I should be doing.
It goes further than simply needing stimulation, my own internalised ableism tried to tell me that the only time I have value is when I'm being productive.
@DivergentDumpsterPhoenix@actuallyautistic@autisticadvocacy I did until I burned out. Something about being unable to accomplish anything because you've pushed yourself too far kinda forces you to reevaluate the value of rest.
I now make it a priority to consider my energy levels when planning. I still overcommit myself occasionally, but when that happens I allow myself to let some things go because letting guilt decide my priorities just makes me easy to manipulate (even by accident!!)
@writers @audhd@actuallyautistic
When you’re an independent author, you are your own marketing team! And my marketing team forgot to post my weekly Late-Idenified #AuDHD: A Starter Workbook post.
The high prevalence of #ADHD in Autistics might be just the symptoms of an overstimulated life, misunderstood communications and lots of trauma that led to cPTSD.
Would also explain why ADHD meds very often don't work for Autistics - but certain antidepressants do.
@hauchvonstaub@rebekka_m@actuallyautistic interesting. I am both, and I take small dose Prozac and pretty low dose concerta. Amazing change in being able to deal with work. Never thought about the meds helping me with my autism as well as ADHD. Course I didn’t self diagnose autism till about 3 years ago. But it does help me deal with peopling to a point. Don’t like to up my meds much cause things just get grey.
@RavenLuni@actuallyautistic my "non vegan" reference was just a metaphor, so in my toot it stands for a non autistic-friendly environment, because @hauchvonstaub referenced that somewhere above ... Did not mean to claim anything regarding any diet in relation to autism!
Thanks for the hint that this can be misunderstood, @nellie_m !
I found myself looking through apps again, thinking maybe there's something to one of the plethora of apps designed "for" folks with ADHD? They look like they were made by the same people that told me I "just" need a diary.
I've used. So many apps. It doesn't matter the interface, or the cutesy idiom - eventually, I stop checking. I put all my tasks in, neatly organise and categorise them, then I go off to do something else - great intentions and all that 😅
Any #ADHD friends out there who know of anything that helps to solve real ADHD challenges? Some of mine that come to mind specifically when trying to plan tasks / do things:
I forget to check the app / todo list
I forget I'm supposed to check
More tasks go in than get ticked off, which is demotivating
Reminders at inoppertune times (focused on something else, not feeling the thing) get summarily dismissed never to be seen again
@loops@actuallyadhd the only thing I have found that works for me is having my calendar and todo list on both my lock screen and home screen. Three priority tasks each day that I tag so I don't get overwhelmed but add more on the good days. Only reminders for calender events as reminders for todos don't work for me
Last night I listened to a podcast on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, https://www.divergentpod.com/blog/ep-29
. It’s is common amongst ADHDers, & therefore some autistic folk. And I realise that it’s probably been the main influence in my life, the motivator for my masking, the cause of my fawning response that has sometimes made me vulnerable & often made me squirm, & the source of so much grief & anxiety.
I’ve learned some strategies over the years to help me, both to establish better boundaries & to be more rational in my thinking & less reactive, but have also been led to blame other people for my insecurity, rather than see it as a product of my ADHD (which hadn’t been diagnosed). And guess who was at fault? My parents of course, mainly my mother.
I have no doubt that my mother was AuADHD like me. She had her flaws, but was smart, witty, funny & had a good set of values. She was a bit of a snob, aspirational, but not a victim blamer. Her own health issues arose when she still had one child in primary school, and she died at 45, so she didn’t get the chance to do, learn & reflect as I have over my longer life, (& I’m not done yet!)
But I know her values from so many discussions about newspaper articles & Phillip Adams’ column in the Saturday Age. She, like many of her generation, was still shocked by the enormity & depravity of the Holocaust, even though she was only a child during the war. She judged the German people harshly, but could be very warm with individuals of any background. She befriended a Czech refugee family. She admired Don Dunstan, supported drag queens, loved filling in for a friend who worked for a gay intererior designer in his shop…
I wonder what she would have thought when my sister came out as lesbian, & my oldest as non-binary?
And I wonder how she might’ve responded when I started to explore my own neurodivergence?
In two hours leaves my bus to Berlin, but I can't find my passport, having looked for it all night.
Of course, I had it, when I entered Switzerland 3 weeks ago (it was checked, then). Now, I thoroughly searched every possible and impossible spot at least three times.
What a fuck!
Edit: Found it after 5 hours in the last possible minute.
So I got a burst of "driving energy" this morning and thought I'd clean up what I think people nickname "doom piles" 💀. A pile of the most random items on the floor, on surfaces etc all over my bedroom, and it's just horrible being in here.
I went in trying to deal with it, but it goes something like this:
These winter clothes goes in a box, but where does the box go? 👕
The loft/attic where we have a storage room, but it's full, need to get rid of things but how? 📦
We need to drive them off to a recycling station but we don't have a car, so we need to arrange that somehow. Ask around? Rental? 🚗
At this point it feels like my work memory is all used up. It's like the thoughts recursively met the limit and now I feel overwhelmed and eventually my energy has run out 😩. The task is just too big and I don't know where to begin anymore.
I just have too much stuff!!! Barely any of this is of use and I would love to just get rid of it all, keep what is actually necessary. But even that seem like a humongous task.
I don't have a diagnosis, but from self reflection I'm diagnosing myself with at least ADHD, because I can't go around waiting for some official to tell me when my brain is ruining my life like this. It just ain't normal.
(I would however not consider myself a hoarder, I am pretty sure we own as much as anyone else, it's just extremely unorganized)
Any thoughts, ideas, feedback from people that is or has been in a similar situation would be very appreciated, or boost so that maybe someone else can reply 🔄
Firstly, I didn't get around to taking my pill until an hour after I got up, because I straight up forgot, despite remembering as I was pouring my coffee.
Then I just realised that I missed a Dr appointment yesterday, because it was made two fucking weeks ago, and despite being in the fucking calendar I can't be trusted to fucking remember anything.
I'm particularly angry about that, because it was to review (and hopefully increase) my meds...
@pamymaf the funny thing about that is that ADHD is frequently misdiagnosed as that, and other mood disorders. i have had one single manic episode in my entire life and Vyvanse caused it. some say bipolar is "comorbid" with ADHD (a side effect of having it). one thing to keep in mind when it comes to psychiatry is that these disorders are defined by the patient's behaviour, without saying much about the underlying causes.