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@beardedtechguy Vivaldi has done a spectacular job just locking me into their browser. I use it for so much I don't even know where I'd begin with a different one. Another example is the Panel. As an admin of an instance, I spend a LOT of time here on Mastodon, and I'm constantly looking stuff up and taking notes. Something that I'm sure has been there forever and I never noticed is the ability to drag text from the active tab to a panel. Works AMAZINGLY for notes and translating.
Lemme get this straight, #BetterHelp helped themselves to $80 out of my account every month for several months while I dealt with undiagnosed #ADHD with no help from them (kinda hard to get treatment when you have to initiate all of the communication and you have raging ADHD). The US FTC sued them and all I get back is $9.70?
Good grief.
OH SNAP, they got sued for selling customer's data TO FACEBOOK. WOW! WHAT A PARAGON OF VIRTUE.
What to do if you're 40 and you've realised you can't stand office work at all because you have #ADHD, but the only job experience you have is 13 years of being a software engineer?
Add to that the constraint that you can't go to school to re-educate yourself because school is just office work you don't get paid for?
What kind of job can you even get in that situation? I've been thinking about that for 4 years now and I don't have any good answers. 🤷♂️
EDIT: I did not respond well to medical ADHD treatment. Bad side effects. Many people get those, but it's not talked about much.
@thor Min bror blev av med arbetet som elektriker för många år sedan och när han hittade ett temporärt jobb inom hemtjänsten informerade tjänstemannen på Arbetsförmedlingen om att han skulle få mindre pengar som anställd där än att fortsätta gå arbetslös på på A-kassa.
Jag tror att min bror tappade mycket av sin tilltro till det svenska välfärdssystemet där och då.
@nakenbadaren De fleste som snakker varmt om velferdssystemene vi har i Skandinavia har aldri opplevd noe verre enn å være arbeidsløs i en kort periode, og de pengene man får da, de har man i realiteten betalt inn selv ved å jobbe.
Selv har jeg gått tom for slik støtte fordi det har gått for lang tid. Og fordi det har gått lang tid, er det mer utfordrende å finne arbeid.
Det er mindre hjelp å få enn mange tror. Politikerne har en narrativ om gode velferdsordninger og gode helsetjenester, og dette er svært lett å tro på inntil man plutselig får bruk for dem...
@nekohayo Polls are hard. I choose "It would be a serious issue for me" but I think it's a wording that's a bit stronger than I'd choose myself. More like "It would be a real issue for me".
What would happen is that I would constantly lose focus as that URL changed which would trigger me and I'd get angry and annoyed. 😣
@mattiasb Yeah, I think using the world "real" would have caused more confusion than "serious", as anything can be said to be "real" by someone who perceives something, while "serious" is meant to clearly differentiate between an annoyance (still "real") vs something that "disrupts with consequences" levels of severity. i.e. Would it be considered harmful, or annoying, or not at all.
The characters (& choices) limit in polls makes it a bit hard to write things, but I think it's pretty balanced.
Someone needs to write an #ADHD videogame called "Dopamine Farming" where you have a stable job and a great life and all of a sudden DONT care about anything in the world and start planning things around the dopamine they will produce so you can get through the day, like, "Time for a haircut! I don't need one that badly, but that's fifteen dopamine points, so I'll take it!"
I wanted to bake something today because the weather was cool, but I couldn't remember the recipe, so I had to look it up, but the recipe book was packed, so I had to move a bunch of boxes to get to it, but while they were out of the way I decided to put the kitchen rug down, then as long as I was at it I unpacked some dishes, then I unpacked my cookbooks then decided to put them on the tea cart, then put every else back nicely & now the kitchen looks better but I'm too tired to bake. #ADHD
@samhainnight Old Story: Man goes into kitchen gets a glass of water. Goes back to front room to watch TV.
Woman goes into kitchen to get a drink of water, sees a mess on the counter top, wipes it down, clears a few dishes from the sink to the dishwasher, feeds the cat, mops the floor… then remembers to get a drink of water. Decides to make it vodka.
Aika vähän on ollut esillä se, millä tavoin jo pelkkä kaupunkiympäristö kuormittaa. Liikenne, melu, liikkuvat mainospinnat jne. Välillä lähikauppaan kävellessä mietin, että aika monta kertaa lyhyellä matkalla ehtii olla kuolemanvaarassa – käytännössä joka kerta katua ylittäessään, kun ei voi tietää, hidastaako kohti tuleva auto ajoissa vai ei.
@anuko
Niinpä. "Luonnossa" eli puistossa kävelyn rentouttavasta efektistä valtaosa onkin vain sitä, ettei tarvitse kulkea samassa kanjonissa murhanhimoisten metalliobjektien kanssa? @ssundell
@cferdinandi Good for you for quitting. For me, the prospect of finding a new job is such a huge Wall of Awful that I'm apt to stay in a toxic work environment until something explodes.
@btaroli@actuallyautistic I'm not sure our society encourages that, specifically, so much as it's been propagated that hard work is how you move up the hierarchy (earn money, be competitive), while not tuning into the gratis labor that parents have to do.
Back in the day, the economic model of traditional family labelled parenting a FT job, and good jobs paid for a whole family, or so the story went. It's now an antiquated model, but you can still see it on your tax forms.
@btaroli@actuallyautistic Set your boundaries ahead of time if at all possible. There are also some really great tips and stories on r/SingleParents.
It's hard. Take care of your health, though, because this moment of life will pass more quickly than you can imagine, and one notable thing you'll have to show for it is the state of your body.
I know people with estrogen have said their ADHD gets worse during perimenopause/menopause, but I'm wondering if people with testosterone 50+ also notice their Autism/ADHD symptoms getting worse. Especially more "inattentive"/stuck in their thoughts.
I feel like we really need more research on all of this.
@KitMuse@actuallyautistic@neurodiversity person with mostly estrogen here (I think, anyway): my neurodivergent stuff did not get worse with changes. I had almost zero side effects of peri/meno except weight gain though. No hot flashes or other disturbances.
estrogen drops during perimenopause & i've gone from basically none to too much recently. I don't think i'm any more or less stuck in my thoughts than before hormones.
My autism symptoms do feel worse BUT I've also been doing a lot of work unmasking work, & listening to 🧠's needs, & feeling / being percieved as "more autistic" is normal then.
@PetitPas@Florian@onecreativecat l'écureuil a pour spécificité de se cacher de la nourriture partout durant l'été et l'automne pour faire des réserves pour l'hiver. Sauf que ben il en cache tellement partout qu'il en perd et en oublie, ce qui fait de lui un savant jardinier